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Topic: Whats the deal man?
timmyschillin Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 745	Tue 05/06/08 02:43 PM
We all have our morals; the reasons why we are the way we are; last time I checked the world isn't perfect even though a large sum of us claim to be...I'm not pointing any fingers but hey we've all been there right? Marriage/divorce/kids/no kids; it's a sensitive subject; and everyone is entitled to their own opinion and we all try to learn from our mistakes; yes it sucks that I decided to have kids before I got married...but I soon realized after the fact that children don't make the marriage; it is the relationship between you and your partner; and I unfortunately did not see that at the time...just young and stupid; I was given an ultimatum. This is where it got me...F!cked up and broke THIS IS THE ANSWER I WAS LOOKING FOR. Atleast someone isn't completely close-minded and offensive. Thank you for responding with professionalism and dignity. I was more curious as to the circumstances of the child with no mother/father as opposed just having kids in general.

itsmetina Joined Sun 12/09/07 Posts: 18944	Tue 05/06/08 02:43 PM
my kids are not baggage!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

DebbieJT Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 10329	Tue 05/06/08 02:44 PM
how can a child be classed as baggage...oh what the hell whatever..talk to the wall might as well

ShyKBear Joined Fri 01/18/08 Posts: 368	Tue 05/06/08 02:44 PM
We all have our morals; the reasons why we are the way we are; last time I checked the world isn't perfect even though a large sum of us claim to be...I'm not pointing any fingers but hey we've all been there right? Marriage/divorce/kids/no kids; it's a sensitive subject; and everyone is entitled to their own opinion and we all try to learn from our mistakes; yes it sucks that I decided to have kids before I got married...but I soon realized after the fact that children don't make the marriage; it is the relationship between you and your partner; and I unfortunately did not see that at the time...just young and stupid; I was given an ultimatum. This is where it got me...F!cked up and broke No shy, it got you stronger and smarter than before. Thank you Fran

timmyschillin Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 745	Tue 05/06/08 02:44 PM
lol Okay. It's a metaphore, get over it.

ShyKBear Joined Fri 01/18/08 Posts: 368	Tue 05/06/08 02:47 PM
Baggage or not they are your life; for the next 18 years your life should revolve around them 100%, If only I could get my ex husband to understand this concept

PATSFAN Joined Mon 12/10/07 Posts: 42782	Tue 05/06/08 02:48 PM
People have preferences, to each their own I guess

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Tue 05/06/08 02:48 PM
lol Okay. It's a metaphore, get over it. to whom was this response to?

DebbieJT Joined Mon 11/26/07 Posts: 10329	Tue 05/06/08 02:49 PM
lol Okay. It's a metaphore, get over it. really you need a new one..as i said mistakes happen...the ideal is two point four children a little house with a picket fence and alls well in the world unfortunatley one might want that and another doesnt, rubbish happens, but im a great believer in finding the positives out of the negatives..i lost a partner but gained something more precious my son

ShyKBear Joined Fri 01/18/08 Posts: 368	Tue 05/06/08 02:49 PM
lol Okay. It's a metaphore, get over it. to whom was this response to? The word Baggage as a term for your kids

timmyschillin Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 745	Tue 05/06/08 02:51 PM
lol Okay. It's a metaphore, get over it. to whom was this response to? The word Baggage as a term for your kids lol man oh man, it's not a term for your kids, it's a term for NOT being single. Good god you people are close minded. I guess I'm just ahead of my time, an einstein of sorts.

dungonmasterRJ Joined Thu 10/26/06 Posts: 3613	Tue 05/06/08 02:51 PM
lol Okay. It's a metaphore, get over it. really you need a new one..as i said mistakes happen...the ideal is two point four children a little house with a picket fence and alls well in the world unfortunatley one might want that and another doesnt, rubbish happens, but im a great believer in finding the positives out of the negatives..i lost a partner but gained something more precious my son very well said debbie i agree

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Tue 05/06/08 02:52 PM
lol Okay. It's a metaphore, get over it. to whom was this response to? The word Baggage as a term for your kids pretty bold statement, question to the OP.. how many children if any do you have?

Brenda_Darling Joined Wed 12/05/07 Posts: 3696	Tue 05/06/08 02:52 PM
lol Okay. It's a metaphore, get over it. to whom was this response to? The word Baggage as a term for your kids lol man oh man, it's not a term for your kids, it's a term for NOT being single. Good god you people are close minded. I guess I'm just ahead of my time, an einstein of sorts. u can be single and have baggage..its not a good idea to use it on children, its a term used when u carry ur past around with u.

dungonmasterRJ Joined Thu 10/26/06 Posts: 3613	Tue 05/06/08 02:52 PM
lol Okay. It's a metaphore, get over it. to whom was this response to? The word Baggage as a term for your kids lol man oh man, it's not a term for your kids, it's a term for NOT being single. Good god you people are close minded. I guess I'm just ahead of my time, an einstein of sorts. they are single hints the term single mother

itsmetina Joined Sun 12/09/07 Posts: 18944	Tue 05/06/08 02:52 PM
lol Okay. It's a metaphore, get over it. to whom was this response to? The word Baggage as a term for your kids lol man oh man, it's not a term for your kids, it's a term for NOT being single. Good god you people are close minded. I guess I'm just ahead of my time, an einstein of sorts. einstein

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Tue 05/06/08 02:53 PM
lol Okay. It's a metaphore, get over it. to whom was this response to? The word Baggage as a term for your kids lol man oh man, it's not a term for your kids, it's a term for NOT being single. Good god you people are close minded. I guess I'm just ahead of my time, an einstein of sorts. now I see your humor why not try and say what you mean and mean what you say... so much easier to be understood than deciphered.

timmyschillin Joined Sat 01/05/08 Posts: 745	Tue 05/06/08 02:53 PM
I don't have any baggage. I'm looking for baggage, just looking for someone who wants to create baggage, maybe not necessarily have baggage already. I can carry more than one bag though I think. So I really dont understand why that's so offensive, lol.

Sassier2u Joined Wed 10/10/07 Posts: 1024	Tue 05/06/08 02:54 PM
lol Okay. It's a metaphore, get over it. really you need a new one..as i said mistakes happen...the ideal is two point four children a little house with a picket fence and alls well in the world unfortunatley one might want that and another doesnt, rubbish happens, but im a great believer in finding the positives out of the negatives..i lost a partner but gained something more precious my son Way to go and a friend of mine has step kids does not like that term so she calls them her bonus children which I think is GREAT

franshade Joined Tue 07/24/07 Posts: 24704	Tue 05/06/08 02:55 PM
absolutely nothing, you (as everyone else here) is entitled to want whatever it is you want. but keep in mind, it is so much easier to get flies with honey than with vinegar. try a simpler more subdued approach, it may yield more positive results (jmo)