Just curious on both male and female opinions...

Let's say someone has been living with you for about 7 months. You are both very close...involved in each others families, children, church, etc. And you wake up one night and see that person chatting online with someone of the opposite sex.

How would you feel?
Is it right or wrong? You don't know what the conversation was.

Just curious...Thanks ;-)

Its always wrong hes playing around

I would be very upset...

I would be upset

so you know jay too huh?

I had that happen when I was married. Usually not a big deal, but I found out he was telling every girl he talked to that he love them. I flipped out. Love is a word reserved for family and a special person close to your heart. No every person you meet. If it bothers you so much just ask.

Well, hello, that is so wrong

Thank you sooooo much...this is actually helping me a lot! Definitely good hearing from both men and women...but when a guy agrees it's wrong...it's gotta be wrong, lol.

absolutely...that is very hurtful!

lol

First, are you two in a committed relationship? Second, has he known this person before he knew you?

If you are in a relationship and it was someone new he had met.. I wouldn't be happy at ALL. It's basically a form of cheating!

listen to me very carefully. you need to leave him now!

if he lives with you and its your computer damn skippy go read the message history

Bad news!!!!

What were they "chatting" about?

Didn't some of you read the part where she said, you don't know the conversation?


if your upset, it shows a lack of trust and when that happens. It usually means the relationship is at it's satrt to head down hill. I have no reason to be upset or anything. You don't know if it's just a friends and they couldn't sleep and wanted to talk to somone other then you. So think before you "ASSUME" anything.....

Yep...you are all right...this is so good for me! It hurts...really really bad. And I've treated this man like gold...I'm not just saying that. He tows and he works horrible hours, I cook for him even at odd hours of the night, do his laundry, help run errands...I work full time and am a single mom of 2 boys that I need to take care of as well. I mean, he's done a lot for us too...all kinds of special day trips, fixed a lot of things, etc...but this I feel is still so wrong. He's in my home, while I'm sleeping in my bed. I accepted him for everything he ever was...he had a really bad past. I just am shocked, and I don't honestly know why...but I am shocked that people are out there that do these things. I would like to believe everyone deserves to be trusted...I don't want to be one of THOSE people who don't trust anyone.

his heart ain't with you if it is someone new, i have both male and female friends, but i don't go looking for someone else while in a relationship. Just can't do it.

No it was his laptop...so that is too bad, oh well

just flat out ask him
it would be so much easier
if he gets defensive or starts being an ass about it then you know something is up