I dont think he did according to the OP but maybe Im mistaken. He should answer. Even if he did, her behavior is a little strange. She might have more of an emotional investment if they had sex but it still does not warrant all that drama.

True. But 18 is still a teenager. Now if she was in her 40s doing that, I'd be really concerned....

Well yeah, but if they did, considering her age, I could see why she is doing this. She obviously isn't mature, but this could explain more to her actions.

Maybe she's pregnant, and just wanted to let him know!

Oooh, that would suck.

Maybe he just got affectionate with her and she never had that! ...and now, she's not going to stop until she has all of him!!!

There is something there that made her feel like calling outta control. Or, he met her on EHarmony!

Ugh eharmony is a joke..

well I kinda did, but I was drinking... (big mistake on my part), also I'm a horrible judge of character while I'm drinking, cause thats how I started talking to her after so many years of not having contact with her, I was drunk at a party with a bunch of the people from the fire department, and she was actually acting weird then, but I was too drunk to notice, and now that I'm sober, I realize that I was retarded, but I dont want to be mean :/


all you people talking to me, prolly think I'm stupid retarded, or what not, well, uhm, I guess you'd be right in thinking that. But that was a mistake, due to drinking way more than I should have :/

oh, and according to her, she hasnt really had any boyfriends...so yeah....I feel bad now

Well....here's a thought for you.

If drinking clouds your character judgment....

Stop drinking!!!

* That is your Captain Obvious Moment for the day *

Ohhhh, well that makes even more sense. If you slept with her, she got attached. Oh well, just tell her you want to be friends. It'll hurt her, but she'll get over it. Eventually.

Ok, now there is your answer. I knew it by just reading your posts. Drinking or not, you should talk with her as soon as possible. Also, see if she's pregnant and if she is step up and be a man for the kid.

Now, as for her, you encouraged her feelings.

Ok man. Here's a relatively simple solution to your dilemma.

Talk to her. Let her know that she can't be calling you that many times because it comes off as kinda creepy. Let her know that you don't appreciate losing sleep.

Draw the lines that you feel are necessary. If she can't accept those boundaries, or she just ignores them, then it's time to tell her that it simply isn't gonna happen.

Give her the benefit of the doubt. She is really young and may not have the slightest clue of how to handle things.

Well whats done is done. Did you use protection? She isnt pregnant is she? You do have some responsibility in this based on that and you do owe her a discussion of some kind. She's obviously a young girl who probably had a crush and then you took advantage of her attachment to you. She might have assumed you were now boyfriend and girlfriend. You two are not on the same page at all and it's really on you to explain this to her.

Don't just give her a drop of the hat. That's cruel. Be cool with her and friendly. Explain things to her, but always show her that respect of being nice and cool to her.

I understand its partially my fault, yes I used protection...I gotta stop getting so drunk when I go to parties...

but I can't really talk to her right now, its 4 in the morning -.- Im pretty sure she wouldn't appreciate talking about it, at 4 AM.

Why not? She woke you up earlier than you wanted to be woke up???

Nice, but I dont like to do that to people, regardless of what they do to me.

I didnt mean right this second. But yeah dam straight you have responsibility in this. You need to have a talk as soon as possible. Like tomorrow as to meet with her. The avoidance will only serve to upset her more and she might do something rash. At least you used protection so she cant be pregnant. Well hopefully not. At least as far as you knew, there was precaution being taken. Your off the hook as far as that goes but you essentially used her. Keep that in mind. She has a right to feel hurt but not irrational or dangerous.

I'm joking, no don't spill this all out to her tonight, but you should tomorrow. If you do it tonight, you may never get sleep again!