hope this comes out right

We are all scared, but do you want to live your life afraid of your own shadow?

I used to think that men over 40 that had never been married were bad but now I think divorced PEOPLE in general have to do some serious soul searching about what they are holding on to.

I have been married twice, divorced and widowed. I guess after my first marriage i was not fit for man nor beast for above two years and I made damn sure I told men I got involved with that all I wanted was a warm C88k and i did n't want to hear then talk to much in between.

If that is how you are feeling great be honest with yourself and others. But on the other hand if you think you are going to be able to calculated a way to avoid ever being hurt by someone you love them you need to get over it and grow up.

What makes relationships worthwhile is that you aren't having them with yourself.

I am smiling while writing this. Point is life is Short, Live it.

Good morning, relationships with other people mean you risk getting hurt, to one degree or another. Most of it depends on our expectations of the other person.
If you think having a relationship is going to fix your life, forget it.
A relationship can enhance your life, sure.
Find fullfilment, sure.

Thank you!

I agree with your philosophy in this matter - you need to love and be comfortable with yourself before you will have to fortitide to love and be comfortable with another person in your life.

What I have found, however, is that so many people do not know who they are. They have never taken the time, nor the effort, to strip away their outside masks and stand openly naked before the mirror of self reflection - honestly acknowleding their good, their bad, and their deep, dark, truths about themselves. Without this process of getting to KNOW who you are, there is little chance you will ever get to share the real you with anyone - yourself, or another.

People seem to prefer the easy way out... telling themselves and the people in their lives what they think they want to know or hear - without true authenticity in thought and actions, strong relationships are nothing but a fantasy.

If you reach this level of self understanding, there is nothing to fear - you can acknowledge that pain is a part of growth and has its place in life.

had to read it twice before i got it!

i am not used to feeling that way - oh well,
guess you are either having a relationship or
you're not. in my view it is all about
communication. interaction with yourself and
with others.

and so, i hope they come out...at night like
vampires or in the day like rays. it is morning
now, time to get up!



the coffee is on...