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Topic: The one?
JustcallmeJohn's photo
Tue 04/21/09 10:11 PM
If you feel you have found the one person who could ever make you feel content with life, is she the one?

What if she doesn't want you in her life?


Is she still the one? Just meaning that no one will make you happier than her? But you should still move on?


I'm coming out of an engagment lasted nearly a year a relationship that lasted little over a year.

She made me feel amazing, I missed her when she went to work!
Right up till the day she ended it I loved her now she's dead to me.

Could miss right still be found?

Or should I just be happy with what I had and try to make things better for me now?



And I think to hell with miss right and hello to miss right now!

Winx's photo
Tue 04/21/09 10:37 PM
flowerforyou

JustcallmeJohn's photo
Tue 04/21/09 10:38 PM
Yeah? Thanks.

JasmineInglewood's photo
Tue 04/21/09 10:41 PM
ouch.

i understand heartbreak. frown

if she doesn't want you, you have to move on. she isn't making you happy, or else you WOULD be happy right now. it'll get better in time, right now the wounds are still fresh.

just take some time and focus on yourself for now. don't think about finding anyone.

at the right time, after you've readied yourself for miss right, the universe will send her to you.

JustcallmeJohn's photo
Tue 04/21/09 10:46 PM
Well that's kinda my thing, I'm not one for cosmic wonders and true destiny.


I feel that I was lucky to have known such a person as she was for so long.

And I kinda feel that there is no more ms. right just whoever can make me feel normal, around them.

Or failing that a good friend who doesn't mind sex. {this is what I kinda have}

And I think that I might go celibate for a while, see how long that lasts. I'm open to finding someone else, I'm just not really looking for someone.

Winx's photo
Tue 04/21/09 10:51 PM
It takes time to heal.flowerforyou

JasmineInglewood's photo
Tue 04/21/09 10:52 PM


And I think that I might go celibate for a while, see how long that lasts. I'm open to finding someone else, I'm just not really looking for someone.


sounds like a good plan to me bigsmile

74Drew's photo
Tue 04/21/09 10:56 PM
i don't believe in the one.

i believe in a one.

there are too many people on the planet for there to be just one person for each of us.


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davidben1's photo
Tue 04/21/09 10:56 PM
real love is unconditional???

it matter not what another does than???

the question is, is your love for her that kind???

if it is, you can sleep with a thousand of them, and it won't change a thing???

if it is unconditional love, then THE LOVE IS NOT BASED ON "HOW SHE MAKE YOU FEEL GOOD"???

IS IS BASED ON HER, AND HER ALONE???

if you are willing to love her, and WANT NOTHING IN RETURN, EVER, AND IT CHANGE NOT HOW YOU FEEL FOR HER, THEN IT IS UNCONDITIONAL LOVE, SO REAL LOVE, THAT DOES NOT END, EVER???

for this, a man wait forever forever for, and give TOTAL FREEDOM TO ANOTHER FOR???

WHAT GIVE FREEDOM, AND STILL LOVE, WILL ALWAYS FLY BACK HOME TO TRUE UNCONDTIONAL LOVE THAT GAVE IT FIRST, SO THE WOMEN LEARNED WHAT IS WAS FROM THIS, AND NOTHING WILL SATISFY HER BUT THIS???

total freedom man, do as you WISH???

i expect NOTHING BACK FROM YOU???

and i still love, as love is but freedom, as to put a butterfly, under a 'cap', in a jar, to keep beauty and love for itself, will WILT IT???

all things must LEARN WHAT IT MOST WANT, BEFORE IT KNOW WHAT IT LOVE, SO ALL MUST GO TO THE OTHER SIDE OF THE FENCE, TO SEE THE GRASS, AND TASTE IT, AND THEN, ALL RETURN HOME TO TRUE LOVE IF IT IS OR WAS THERE???

peace bro




JustcallmeJohn's photo
Tue 04/21/09 11:11 PM
Ok ben Learn the language and stop ripping off bits and pieces of romanticism, and literature.

It's just annoying.

Thanks to the others who have posted.

Cinderella75's photo
Tue 04/21/09 11:15 PM
John,

She was not the ONE. Miss Right whatever.
Although you may have felt that way, she just was not it.
You have to move on..I know its hard..I have been down that road before..more than once.

Some ppl spend half of their lifetime looking for their "Soulmate".
Is there such thing as a "Soulmate"??. I dunno.
But I know that there is more than just one person that is right for us.
And you will find her..when you least expect it!! Trust me on this one!! :wink:

JustcallmeJohn's photo
Tue 04/21/09 11:27 PM
I mean I guess, I feel as if she might be the only person to make me feel that way, I've moved on for sure.


This woman is dead to me in everyway.

I've had relationships serious, not so serious, flings, etc.

She's the one person who made me feel more than ok, she made me feel amazing, her smile laughter, holding her hand. Right till she ripped my heart out.



I feel that I'm moving on sufficiently fast, {One more day makes it a month} I'm dating {sort of} I'm living with myself and my decisions.



I don't know and don't think I ever will find the answer to a question much greater people than I have been asking for centuries!

davidben1's photo
Tue 04/21/09 11:29 PM

Ok ben Learn the language and stop ripping off bits and pieces of romanticism, and literature.

It's just annoying.

Thanks to the others who have posted.


and one wonder why she left???

one that wish to hear what it wish to hear will always find it, but find nothingness indeed???

was she annoying as well???

romanticism, and literature???

are they not both as equal???

how the hell did you get so smart???

damn man, thanks for fillin in the blanks for me???

i think i wish to thank you???

yes, that right, wish to thank you, for all your wise insight and help???

so, i send to thee, all my blessing in the universe, for thee to entreat, and to bless your eye's with good sight, and to bring all gifts of the universe to your door, and to bless you with the love and romanticism of all the universe, straight to you, starting today in fact, just for you so special indeed.

peace wise man...




mscherbear's photo
Tue 04/21/09 11:32 PM

i don't believe in the one.

i believe in a one.

there are too many people on the planet for there to be just one person for each of us.


. . .


I completely agree

JustcallmeJohn's photo
Tue 04/21/09 11:34 PM





Try thinking it through, you have good stuff some of the time, word it better less ????? more clear sentences, and correct spelling.


Sorry I'm in a crappy mood, My ex decided to try and talk to me.

Then she decided to try and come over for sex.

And I told her to go away.

mscherbear's photo
Tue 04/21/09 11:40 PM
Edited by mscherbear on Tue 04/21/09 11:40 PM

Sorry I'm in a crappy mood,


Yep, looks that way.

I'm sorry for your loss, hun. But you are 20. As much as I hate to say this, you will likely go through this many more times in your lifetime. Learn and grow from each one.

flowerforyou

davidben1's photo
Tue 04/21/09 11:43 PM





Try thinking it through, you have good stuff some of the time, word it better less ????? more clear sentences, and correct spelling.


Sorry I'm in a crappy mood, My ex decided to try and talk to me.

Then she decided to try and come over for sex.

And I told her to go away.




all you have so far, is one side of the story, and you gonna tell another how to live it's life???

are you gonna be there, to bear ALL THAT PAIN OF THAT LIFE AS WELL???

ARE YOU GONNA CARRY AND PROVIDE FOR THAT MOUTH YOU TELL WHAT TO DO, AND HOW TO LIVE IT'S LIFE???



who is that, all but you???

???

???

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that the number of the beast???

upside down???

three sixes in a row???

did you not know that???

the beast can breath on you, and bring all bad to you???

did you know that???

lets see just how all those blessing make ya feel, who thinks the world and other's are but a playground, for itself to mire and find satisfaction for itself alone in???

smell that foul breath all the way from here???

it shall linger in the brain for quite some time, so have fun.

peace


mscherbear's photo
Tue 04/21/09 11:48 PM
Wow. surprised


JustcallmeJohn's photo
Tue 04/21/09 11:53 PM
Not all that I say serves me, and not all who listen to me hear me as I say.


But most people do feel the marks of some foul beast upon there necks, I for one am A nonbeliever so I guess that helps, but I do see the point in what you say.


I know I see only what I wish and that I obscure what makes me uncomfortable, I am as I am only human.


I offer no cure all no panacea, only my two cents worth.
Take or leave it as you will.


I take full responsibility for my actions and my words the same.


But you sir, are the Smart one, he who preaches but does not practice. Offering what he wishes not what he himself would do.

davidben1's photo
Tue 04/21/09 11:56 PM
there is nothing more unjust, nothing more arrogant, nothing more foul, nothing more unequal, than one that deem itself wise enough, to direct another human being's fate and all happiness, taking it's life into it's own hands, with ad vice???

a man most that does this, abuse's many with no sight of anything but itself, and deem it's own wants and pleasure's as king and god, with no sight of the effect of it's action's on all other human things???




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