Life and living on the Internet has taught me that MANY here who say they have been single for many months or years.
Have in fact a friend with benefits to call on when needed.
And MANY who say they are looking for LOVE, just want to SEEM like they are ABOVE friends with benefits.
And REALLY just want to TRY several different ones for a perfect fit.
And as for FRIENDS ON this net,,MANY will LOSE YOU after a short,,,,BESTFRIEND,,,,to them for awhile.
And then MOST just forget about even a HELLO after many months of thinking THEY were so GREAT A FRIEND, wink.
And then there is ALL the ones who write you saying they would LOVE to meet you, and how HOT YOU are.
BUT, when ya get close to where you could meet them for a drink????
THEY run,hide, and YOU can't get a hold of them by site or phone, for DAYS,,,THIS has happened to me so many times I can't tell ya...
WHO KNOWS???lol
But this is my views on dating and this INTERNET PLACE,
MANY,,,,,,,,JUST PLAY HERE.....And THATS IT!!!

Finding a REAL heart and SOUL,,,is something I can tell you is VERY HARD! I have met maybe five people on the net, who are really who they project their self to be. In my almost three years on here...THATS just sad.....

GOOD LUCK to all YOU seek to find in this place, and be careful of the NUTS!!!!!

ME,,,I just keep on keeping on,,lol



What do you FOLKS have in your findings or thoughts as to YOUR experiences??????? Please share your minds....

I seem to be able to meet a few, very small few, of people I click with, but it doesnt last long, so then I guess I never really did click with them?? I think you have the right idea...to keep on keeping on.

Live, Learn, Grow. Life is GREAT! ty

Wow! I think I came on here with a much more "doubting Thomas" attitude. Mainly, I came to learn how to communicate with people and was delighted when I found the forums. My expectation was to find "fake" people, writing what "should" be said rather than what they actually felt or thought. The more heated the discussion or the more the topic meant to me, the more I paid attention to what type of communication pushed my buttons and what type I could discuss with and still enjoy myself immensely. I also learned what type of communications I used that were more easily misunderstood. I also like the option of listing "looking for an intimate encounter". These are people who are honest enough to state exactly why they're here rather than acting like that fish with the light in "Finding Nemo" hiding in the shadows cast by their own brilliance looking for prey.

I think you run into all kinds of people here just like you do out in the "real" world without the immediate physical danger, yet the same type of filtering is necessary. Pretty much if it feels off or BS, it probably IS so don't do the "polite nicey" thing and ignore it.

I've learned
And I've learned fast!

Most men want sex (sorry so blunt)
Most women are NOTHING like they say (sorry so blunt)

But they are all ok
As long as you don't get to close and fall for all the many headtrips

There are a few "real people" (they know)

So on with Internet life.....

People are people. No one is perfect and no one is solely flawed. I think how any person chooses to conduct him/herself is irrelevant as to how I choose to conduct myself. Like anyone, I can only take responsibility for myself.

There are people who truly care about one another here; some who simply enjoy the site for what it is; and some who conduct themselves in a way I do not believe they would ordinarily conduct themselves if not for the anonymity afforded by the internet. I don't think this is any different than on any other site.

There are different personalities and temperaments on-line, and we have a choice as to how we view what happens or does not happen here. I see people as essentially good yet know, this being cyberspace, the nature of a given relationship may be different than what is found in day to day life. Yet having said that, I see, and have met, some beautiful Souls on Mingle.

Relationships here can certainly be fleeting but I don't think that necessarily indicates someone is playing, or isn't authentic per se. People come and go for varying reasons, and also have lives to live, and so live them.

I write and share on this forum, and also truly appreciate what others share on this forum. I have met very good, supportive people and others where there is no mutual chemistry; this is life and is to be expected.

If a permanent friendship or love relationship develops while here, that is great. If it doesn't, it doesn't. What will be will be. I truly believe we will be with who is meant for us...that our loved one has already been given as gift, and it is only for us to meet and receive our gift.

JMO, and experience.

So anyway, as you say T, just keep on keeping on ...
Namaste

I came HERE and had never been anywhere esle on the net.
So I had NO idea what to expect or do,lol..
But this site has taught me WELL as to what NOW to see and read.
But NEVER will it make me turn away from people nor new friends.
THEY just have to BE polite to the ones they talk with and THAT, makes me like them,wink...Thanks for sharing to this..

It SEEMS that the MORE I write about truth here,lol
The MORE people want to turn from iy and go back to their ACTS,,,lol

ShLt just cracks me up...

Some day I will find someone who also believes in holding their values and morals CLOSE to their hearts and words, in that special place we call our SOULS.

I've found it no different than real life, you wade through the many to find the one. Of course, I've also always found that impossible and highly improbable. Dating has if nothing reinforced loves nonexistence, you crawl up and there is something, anything, that knocks you right back down. As small as a speck or as large as a moon.

Which is why I am only here for friends, I've lost too many possibly good friends over this...I refuse to lose more.