Ok. I am a good guy. I don't sleep around, or treat women poorly at all. So When something doesn't work out with someone I take out a couple of times, why must i call them and let them know that i'm not interested in them after a date or even two. When a girl isn't interested in me. I understand what it means when she doesn't return my phone call, or text. Why is it that as a man it's ok for women to reject us with a subtle hint like an unreturned phone call. But if men use this tactic we are considered womanizing, or disrespectful In some way. Don't get me wrong I love women, but being single this something I've noticed and it kinda bothers me. It's saying that a woman's emotions are more important than a man's or that men don't even have emotions so it' shouldn't matter if you call us to let us down gently or not. not that you even have to because i get the hint and i respect it. Why do so many women not reciprocate? Maybe the reason someone doesn't call is because it's an awkward situation that would be best dealt with by both sides silently wishing the other well and continuing there search for love in another direction. I know I'm going to get killed for this point of view but i really want to understand.

If she doesn't call you, it might not mean she isn't interested. We are suppose to lay low after the first few dates and let the men pursue as and let us know he is interested. I have heard that woman shouldn't come off as needy when barely knowing someone. So they don't call or show interest. often times it makes the men more interested.

And please, I've had men take me out twice and not call back. And even ignore my phone call when i let a couple of days pass.

The way I see it, I feel men need to work hard in the beginning to show that they really are interested.

And most people are selfish anyway and don't reciprocate. Which shows disrespect and a waste of time.

OK and when these guys take you out and don't call back or ignore your phone call you don't begrudge them at all? honestly? Never left an angry voice mail, or ward every woman away from them that might know them? Look I know the roles and how men are supposed to follow you and chase you until you finally cave. But some of us actually mean what we say when we say it. Your cute, your smart, let's hang out. If i say this I mean it and i don't want to strut around like a peacock or do some sort of mating dance to get you to show interest. My mating dance is letting you in, in the first place. If you don't find that to fit your own expectations, than when I call, text, or email. feel free not to respond. That's ok with me. My point being women in general (witch means there are exceptions) in my experience women always need an explanation no matter how short we date for. Dating for week or two weeks in my mind is in the realm of "thank you for the nice couple of evenings, have a nice life" So why must i ruin both our days by calling you at actually saying that? Because that's what women expect for the most part.That's all I'm asking. Instead we both could chalk it up as a square peg and a round hole (no pun intended) and move on. either way I'd call you back. Literally.

I've never left an angry voicemail. why give them the satisfaction? sure it hurts, but at least you know then that they are an a**hole. There are a lot of us who have let people in easily and then we end up getting hurt real bad. Me, personally I would like some effort. It doesnt have to be anything extreme. Because the more effort a guy puts in, the more it might show that perhaps he isnt just after sex. and honestly, that's why most guys dont ever call me back -- because no one can handle the fact that I wont give in on the first date, or the second and they dont want to stick around, get to know me and go from there.
So it wouldnt kill the people with good intentions to show a little bit of effort.

YES I HIGHLY AGREE!! I like the sound of that!! GOod coice of words here.. Too bad Im still single (a.t.m.?) :-(

MORE good choice of words. My Ex from 2011 I "tried" to date we rushed it and it ended badly. I like where this conversation is going.. :-) but Im still trying to be good facebook freinds with her now too even though she is too busy raising her son. :(