Topic: Creating an issue that doesn't exist...
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Fri 11/06/09 11:19 PM





Oh,,, perhaps they were already under some influence,,,,


I've been drunk plenty of times, and in the company of a black girlfriend...I never once said "this is my girlfriend, she is black"...



I am going to start saying that...


Poor pinklady.....sad


Maybe i should say 'this is my girlfriend, she has pink bits'


Mine aren't pink they're navy blue.....

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Fri 11/06/09 11:22 PM






Oh,,, perhaps they were already under some influence,,,,


I've been drunk plenty of times, and in the company of a black girlfriend...I never once said "this is my girlfriend, she is black"...



I am going to start saying that...


Poor pinklady.....sad


Maybe i should say 'this is my girlfriend, she has pink bits'


Mine aren't pink they're navy blue.....


drool drool

Stop! Needn't this get pushed to Forks and Dorks...rofl

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Fri 11/06/09 11:27 PM







Oh,,, perhaps they were already under some influence,,,,


I've been drunk plenty of times, and in the company of a black girlfriend...I never once said "this is my girlfriend, she is black"...



I am going to start saying that...


Poor pinklady.....sad


Maybe i should say 'this is my girlfriend, she has pink bits'


Mine aren't pink they're navy blue.....


drool drool

Stop! Needn't this get pushed to Forks and Dorks...rofl


Ahahahhhaaa, fine enough talk of bits.......

At any rate, at least you had an entertaining evening. When I worked retail people usually whined about their children or something equally boring, so at least you got a "we are the world" education.laugh

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Fri 11/06/09 11:34 PM
Edited by PacificStar48 on Fri 11/06/09 11:36 PM
Sounds like she was acting crazy to distract you from someone else shoplifting. Or maybe she thought you would say something stupid so she could use it to threaten a law suit. People have 999.999 reasons to be stupid. Heck it might be some made up scenario for a college sociology class. I had a dumb Professor that tried to assign something like that. Finally someone reported him and they fired him.

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Fri 11/06/09 11:38 PM

Sounds like she was acting crazy to distract you from someone else shoplifting. Or maybe she thought you would say something stupid so she could use it to threaten a law suit. People have 999.999 reasons to be stupid. Heck it might be some made up scenario for a college sociology class. I had a dumb Professor that tried to assign something like that. Finally someone reported him and they fired him.


What a weird thing to assign....

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Fri 11/06/09 11:47 PM
I'm a 21 year old white man living in suburbia.
My step-father, whom has been my step-father for over a decade is black man from Texas.

Race is an issue.
Sadly, it is. Something that we deal with.

I love him. Consider him a father as I do my biological father whom I was extremely close to.

But we're not blind. We do see. And we distinguish.

It's kinda shitty... sorry to be semi-vulgar...

It would be sweet if it became a non-issue.

But as was explained to me by my father, I will never know the pain of being called a nigger. It has to be sickening... but I will never know. Ugh... maybe I went off topic.

The ****ing race thing has always pissed me off... getting into fights because someone is insulting my father's race... so weird. Pointless. I think it's just another exercise we maintain so we don't have to focus on things that are more important or more pertinent in our lives.

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Fri 11/06/09 11:51 PM

I'm a 21 year old white man living in suburbia.
My step-father, whom has been my step-father for over a decade is black man from Texas.

Race is an issue.
Sadly, it is. Something that we deal with.

I love him. Consider him a father as I do my biological father whom I was extremely close to.

But we're not blind. We do see. And we distinguish.

It's kinda shitty... sorry to be semi-vulgar...

It would be sweet if it became a non-issue.

But as was explained to me by my father, I will never know the pain of being called a nigger. It has to be sickening... but I will never know. Ugh... maybe I went off topic.

The ****ing race thing has always pissed me off... getting into fights because someone is insulting my father's race... so weird. Pointless. I think it's just another exercise we maintain so we don't have to focus on things that are more important or more pertinent in our lives.


She was stupid to make it an issue before it became one. If someone had insulted them I could see her being defensive, but to my knowledge no one did, so she was just being a paranoid b!tch for no reason.

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Sat 11/07/09 12:05 AM


She was stupid to make it an issue before it became one. If someone had insulted them I could see her being defensive, but to my knowledge no one did, so she was just being a paranoid b!tch for no reason.


Probably paranoia, then, really.
I could see it making sense.
We are living in a time of identity obsession, though. Some people just find whatever they can identify with, be it race or sex or whatever, and latch onto it, trying to connect to a greater theme in life.

Usually this is a miserable failure.

But I live in a place where people are more afraid of me than I am of them... it's a nice luxury.

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Sat 11/07/09 12:05 AM
so i was in line, and this woman wanted to cut in font of me...so i said" madam, the line ends behind me'

she looked at me like i killed her father, mumbled something rude...so i said "dont talk to me like that' she said make me' i said, ok, lets go out side and will be yours ***" she proceeded to tell her daughter that i'm talking to her like that cause she is black, and as a black person blah blah blah....i told her to shut her face or i'm gonna beat whatever white is leftover in her.


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Sat 11/07/09 12:07 AM

so i was in line, and this woman wanted to cut in font of me...so i said" madam, the line ends behind me'

she looked at me like i killed her father, mumbled something rude...so i said "dont talk to me like that' she said make me' i said, ok, lets go out side and will be yours ***" she proceeded to tell her daughter that i'm talking to her like that cause she is black, and as a black person blah blah blah....i told her to shut her face or i'm gonna beat whatever white is leftover in her.





mmmmm,,,,ok

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Sat 11/07/09 12:08 AM
Edited by Calleigh12 on Sat 11/07/09 12:26 AM
Probably paranoia, then, really.
I could see it making sense.
We are living in a time of identity obsession, though. Some people just find whatever they can identify with, be it race or sex or whatever, and latch onto it, trying to connect to a greater theme in life.

Usually this is a miserable failure.

But I live in a place where people are more afraid of me than I am of them... it's a nice luxury.


People like that have too much time on their hands and not enough problems to occupy them.grumble

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Sat 11/07/09 12:10 AM


so i was in line, and this woman wanted to cut in font of me...so i said" madam, the line ends behind me'

she looked at me like i killed her father, mumbled something rude...so i said "dont talk to me like that' she said make me' i said, ok, lets go out side and will be yours ***" she proceeded to tell her daughter that i'm talking to her like that cause she is black, and as a black person blah blah blah....i told her to shut her face or i'm gonna beat whatever white is leftover in her.





mmmmm,,,,ok


it's true...why make it a racial thing...i just wanted her to move back....i was suuuuuuper nice.....she made a "black" issue....wtf?

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Sat 11/07/09 12:13 AM

I'm a 21 year old white man living in suburbia.
My step-father, whom has been my step-father for over a decade is black man from Texas.

Race is an issue.
Sadly, it is. Something that we deal with.

I love him. Consider him a father as I do my biological father whom I was extremely close to.

But we're not blind. We do see. And we distinguish.

It's kinda shitty... sorry to be semi-vulgar...

It would be sweet if it became a non-issue.

But as was explained to me by my father, I will never know the pain of being called a nigger. It has to be sickening... but I will never know. Ugh... maybe I went off topic.

The ****ing race thing has always pissed me off... getting into fights because someone is insulting my father's race... so weird. Pointless. I think it's just another exercise we maintain so we don't have to focus on things that are more important or more pertinent in our lives.


I know the feeling. I have a multicultrual/race family and I feel like I have to call out racism when I know I see it if I am going to be a good Grandma. I just always try to be absolutely sure it is in fact someone being a bigot. Being hyper sensitive and blameing people for something they are not doing is being a reverse bigot to me. And just as harmful.

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Sat 11/07/09 12:34 AM

Yet again, humans cease to amaze me. So here I am at work, doing, well, doing whatever it is that a clerk at a convenient store does...when all of a sudden a black female (she made it quite obvious she was "black") comes in with a white male (another thing she seemed to continously point out) whom, and I'm assuming here, were lovers (the main reason I'm assuming is the conversation went from "really good friends" to "my boyfriend"). And through this entire conversation, if one can just imagine a stoner with the "I don't give a ****" look on their face, I stood listening.

About a dozen times throughout this conversation she noted she was "black" and the guy was "white", I guess I was supposed to get up in arms and throw back my head while letting out a howl...well, I didn't, because I don't care.

Why the **** do people seem to have the incessant need to create an issue where one simply does not exist? I understand the whole preconcieved notion that white people don't approve of said relationships, but regardless of me telling this lady multiple times "I don't care", she still seemed to want a different reaction...WTF people...WTF?!

She assumed that YOU cared because most of the world does..from the government to state officials to just regular old joe blow..It is not right and its just plain old stupid for people to be concerned with what goes on in a total strangers bedroom but they are..that's why interracial marriages needed to be legalized and thats why homosexual marriages still haven't been legalized in most places because people DO care what happens behind the four walls of a supposed FREE citizens home.

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Sat 11/07/09 12:36 AM


Yet again, humans cease to amaze me. So here I am at work, doing, well, doing whatever it is that a clerk at a convenient store does...when all of a sudden a black female (she made it quite obvious she was "black") comes in with a white male (another thing she seemed to continously point out) whom, and I'm assuming here, were lovers (the main reason I'm assuming is the conversation went from "really good friends" to "my boyfriend"). And through this entire conversation, if one can just imagine a stoner with the "I don't give a ****" look on their face, I stood listening.

About a dozen times throughout this conversation she noted she was "black" and the guy was "white", I guess I was supposed to get up in arms and throw back my head while letting out a howl...well, I didn't, because I don't care.

Why the **** do people seem to have the incessant need to create an issue where one simply does not exist? I understand the whole preconcieved notion that white people don't approve of said relationships, but regardless of me telling this lady multiple times "I don't care", she still seemed to want a different reaction...WTF people...WTF?!

She assumed that YOU cared because most of the world does..from the government to state officials to just regular old joe blow..It is not right and its just plain old stupid for people to be concerned with what goes on in a total strangers bedroom but they are..that's why interracial marriages needed to be legalized and thats why homosexual marriages still haven't been legalized in most places because people DO care what happens behind the four walls of a supposed FREE citizens home.


Interracial marriages are legalized, they're not always approved of, but they are legal....

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Sat 11/07/09 12:37 AM
Sex lives are private,, marriage (as an institution) is very legal and public issue.

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Sat 11/07/09 12:42 AM



Yet again, humans cease to amaze me. So here I am at work, doing, well, doing whatever it is that a clerk at a convenient store does...when all of a sudden a black female (she made it quite obvious she was "black") comes in with a white male (another thing she seemed to continously point out) whom, and I'm assuming here, were lovers (the main reason I'm assuming is the conversation went from "really good friends" to "my boyfriend"). And through this entire conversation, if one can just imagine a stoner with the "I don't give a ****" look on their face, I stood listening.

About a dozen times throughout this conversation she noted she was "black" and the guy was "white", I guess I was supposed to get up in arms and throw back my head while letting out a howl...well, I didn't, because I don't care.

Why the **** do people seem to have the incessant need to create an issue where one simply does not exist? I understand the whole preconcieved notion that white people don't approve of said relationships, but regardless of me telling this lady multiple times "I don't care", she still seemed to want a different reaction...WTF people...WTF?!

She assumed that YOU cared because most of the world does..from the government to state officials to just regular old joe blow..It is not right and its just plain old stupid for people to be concerned with what goes on in a total strangers bedroom but they are..that's why interracial marriages needed to be legalized and thats why homosexual marriages still haven't been legalized in most places because people DO care what happens behind the four walls of a supposed FREE citizens home.


Interracial marriages are legalized, they're not always approved of, but they are legal....

I know they are legalized NOW..Thats why I said they NEEDED to be(had to be legalized I guess should have said)..They weren't always legal.

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Sat 11/07/09 12:55 AM
If you really wanta throw people for a trip that always havta say look at that white dude or that black chick, you know those that paraphrase everyone upon the color of their skin... be like, "oh yeah, you mean that 1/4 German 1/2 Irish, and 1/8 Pilgrim over there" or "you mean that 1/4 Phillipino, 1/4 Hondurian, and 2/3 Blackonese chick over there standing next to the Albino midget"... they'll totally forget what they are talking about because they are so confused with the mathematical arithmatic going on in their head as they are actually looking to see who you are talking about. Or just be like me and say, "WTF are you talking about whitey; Snowwhite called and said she wants her pale @ss back!"

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Sat 11/07/09 01:01 AM
Edited by Calleigh12 on Sat 11/07/09 01:14 AM




Yet again, humans cease to amaze me. So here I am at work, doing, well, doing whatever it is that a clerk at a convenient store does...when all of a sudden a black female (she made it quite obvious she was "black") comes in with a white male (another thing she seemed to continously point out) whom, and I'm assuming here, were lovers (the main reason I'm assuming is the conversation went from "really good friends" to "my boyfriend"). And through this entire conversation, if one can just imagine a stoner with the "I don't give a ****" look on their face, I stood listening.

About a dozen times throughout this conversation she noted she was "black" and the guy was "white", I guess I was supposed to get up in arms and throw back my head while letting out a howl...well, I didn't, because I don't care.

Why the **** do people seem to have the incessant need to create an issue where one simply does not exist? I understand the whole preconcieved notion that white people don't approve of said relationships, but regardless of me telling this lady multiple times "I don't care", she still seemed to want a different reaction...WTF people...WTF?!

She assumed that YOU cared because most of the world does..from the government to state officials to just regular old joe blow..It is not right and its just plain old stupid for people to be concerned with what goes on in a total strangers bedroom but they are..that's why interracial marriages needed to be legalized and thats why homosexual marriages still haven't been legalized in most places because people DO care what happens behind the four walls of a supposed FREE citizens home.


Interracial marriages are legalized, they're not always approved of, but they are legal....

I know they are legalized NOW..Thats why I said they NEEDED to be(had to be legalized I guess should have said)..They weren't always legal.


Oh yeah, I misunderstood. Definitely.flowerforyou

What bothers me is that the woman acted as if someone was persecuting her before it even happened. I assume people have stared at her and her white bf's in the past so she was anticipating a reaction, and thinking an "offense is the best defense" so to speak. But in my opinion that's stupid; you can't go around just assuming people will be against you, for whatever reason. Reacting to an imagined threat is not only paranoid, it's ignorant, and it makes her into the prejudiced person, not the other way around- she had no idea about the OP's beliefs on race, she made an assumption.

For one thing, interracial relationships have become more prevalent and more socially acceptable in many parts of the world, so pretty soon she won't even have that to base her paranoia on. If you see a black child on tv, it's usually a "mixed" child, and the same goes for black actresses, if you read their bios, most of them aren't "just" black they're made up of other ethnicities, as well. If you watch television and movies, they're making efforts to cast interracial couples, usually without mentioning their differences at all. So some opinions are changing, albeit slowly...

I'm prone to agree with what others have said, for explanations of why she acted paranoid- maybe she was high, or drunk, or providing a diversion while someone else tried to shoplift. Or maybe she's just an idiot who wanted attention. Either way, I still say it looks ignorant to start a fight over a perceived notion, that kind of thing just keeps stereotypes and racism going with no intelligent end in sight.

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Sat 11/07/09 01:04 AM

If you really wanta throw people for a trip that always havta say look at that white dude or that black chick, you know those that paraphrase everyone upon the color of their skin... be like, "oh yeah, you mean that 1/4 German 1/2 Irish, and 1/8 Pilgrim over there" or "you mean that 1/4 Phillipino, 1/4 Hondurian, and 2/3 Blackonese chick over there standing next to the Albino midget"... they'll totally forget what they are talking about because they are so confused with the mathematical arithmatic going on in their head as they are actually looking to see who you are talking about. Or just be like me and say, "WTF are you talking about whitey; Snowwhite called and said she wants her pale @ss back!"


Yeah, that's what I said, most people now aren't entirely one or the other anymore, so it's rather hard to tell who to discriminate against sometimes.laugh