i noticed when i talk the time to make myself what i believe look decent
i dont get alot of looks... but if i roll out of bed. grab a clean
increadibly wrinkled shirt off my closet floor, throw on a pair of
shorts and some flip flops with no makeup and havent shaved in like 2
days i get more looks? what is that? is the rolled out of bed look in or
something?

Maybe they stare in shock Jane Did I welcome you to the
family? If I didn't then let me extend a warm welcome to the
family.

When guys see me they always stare. Gals, too. Must be the
suspenders... :)

Jane, welcome to JSH. :)

WOW i AM ALWAYS BEING STARED AT....JOIN THE CLUB SISTA!!!!

they look at u when you're not made up cause you're not made up! you're
not looking for attention or them. you don't want it at that time so
that makes u a challenge.
they're the 1st ones 2 say, I don't want any drama or games!" but that's
not true. they're instinct takes over & they want to hunt.
when you're made up, they consider you to be on the prowl or make, &
therefor an easy target & no challenge. game over! they know they've
one.
so now i don't dress to empress anyone but myself, & believe me when i
say i'm no barbie or goddess. i'm not an ogar either. i'm just like
everyone else. but i can't believe that at my age, weight, &
disposition, i don't have enough arms to fight them off. i never had
this problem when i was younger & i was much better looking. foxy lady
type.
it's cause i've learned to like myself the way i am & i'm not looking AT
ALL! i don't feel i need a man in my life 2 make me happy. i make myself
happy.

To: Janedoe And Oddangel... Here is the reason from my point of view.

When I see a woman that is so very attractive, and dressed up in what
apears to be real nice clothes, (dress, hair made up nice, makeup on to
perfection, etc...), and here I am just an average looking guy, I feel
like I would never stand a chance of getting to know you or ever dating
you, and that most likely you aleady have some guy that you are very
happy with, so therefore I will not even approach you. But, when you do
not dress up so much, but still dress in an attractive way, (hair
brushed nice, not a lot of makeup, jeans, and nice t-shirt, etc...),
then I would feel more at ease in walking up to you and talking with
you, and just might stand a chance of being able to take you out on a
date sometime.

This is just MY point of view and does not speak for every guy out
there.

So it's not just the suspenders. I feel better now. :)

wow...........strange you feel that way dave....so good looking girls
are not in the reach and unavailable>>?????

no shenerd... it is not your suspenders...lol



its the glasses...lol jk

Too bad I can't see without em... :)

well Gypsy, to me, that is the way that I see it given that I am not a
guy that looks like any Addonis supermodel, and feel like a woman who
does look like a model would not be attracted to me.

But I will say this also, what I lack in the looks department, I make up
for in kindness, and caring love for the woman that I do get with.

Hey Dave, don't worry about it. Just don't wear suspenders on a first
date like I did. Biiiiiiiig mistake... :)

and shenerd... I can't see without my glasses either... except up close

Maybe you need to get new ones. Can I interest you in a pair of
oversized red frames... ?

thank you... but not that big of frame...lol
thanks for the offer anyway

It's OK. I need to get contacts myself...

And stop hiding this adorable little face behind glasses. :)

actually for myself, glasses are best because of my work. When I am not
driving, I work in the shop and with all the stuff flying around in
there, they require safety glasses anyway.

Safety glasses, hmmmmmmmmm. Sounds like the perfect nerd accessory
(just kidding)... :)