DV = domestic violence... can also be called relational violence, family violence, spousal violence

yes DV is domestic violence, and i am not sure of the state she is in, but there is an 800 hotline number, or local YWCA usually has a program for women and kids where they can go and stay, until temporary lodging is found. then, there is a program, they put the women through to explain the cycle of DV....

what she does is pack a bag with things in it. make a plan first. she should have clothes, overnight stuff, money, whatever she wants to take with her. extra set of keys. hide it. make sure he cannot find it.
then, she either leaves when he is not there, or once something starts, and she can feel conflict, walk away....don't buy into the conflict. it fuels the fire.
then, when time is right, escape, and i mean escape, and don't go back.
i will have to get more information to be specific. tell me your location, and i will find an 800 number someone can call, and have the information ready for the next time, because there will be one.

i know i post lots of garbage sometimes, but this time i am serious. there r others out there that know about domestic violence, so speak up. this woman needs help.

Hey Duffy

Then you also know

You cant really do all that much for the woman in this situiation-depending on how long she has been in the relationship and how bad it is

The woman has to help herself--by finding out what to do and do it

But sadly many many do not

The woman has to find her own power and self worth

and most likely

we will not give it to her-------sad---------but true

Yes I know but get this...she does not know her options nor does she understand the cycle of abuse. then, there is a dead child unaccounted for...
mental abuse, emotional, physical.....she does have to find her power, but right now she could be scared, frightened, afraid to leave, depressed, and a victim trapped in her own fear.

all i can do is what i promised before. feed me the information, and i will find a number....
it takes one phone call...made by the victim to a support agency to find the power to point the way.... to the light to get out......

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Michigan Domestic Violence Advocates & Support Contacts Location Program Phone
STATEWIDE Michigan Coalition Against Sexual & Domestic Violence
Michigan Victim Services
Michigan Victims Alliance 800-996-6228
517-373-3740
517-487-8278
Alcona County Shelter, Inc. 800-396-9129
Alger County Harbor House 800-455-6611
Allegan County Center for Women
Sylvia's Place 269-673-8700
800-848-5991
Alpena County Shelter, Inc. 800-396-9129
Antrim County Women's Resource Center 800-275-1995
Arenac County Bay Area Women's Center 800-834-2098
Baraga County Indian Community VOCA
Shelter Home 906-353-4533
906-524-7078
Barry County SAFE Place 888-664-9832
Bay County Bay Area Women's Center 800-834-2098
Benzie County Women's Resource Center 800-554-4972
Berrien County Safe Shelter 888-983-4275
Branch County Coalition Against DV 517-278-7432
Calhoun County SAFE Place 888-664-9832
Cass County Domestic Assault Coalition 800-828-2023
Charlevoix County Women's Resource Center 800-275-1995
Cheboygan County Women's Resource Center 800-275-1995
Chippewa County Peppler Resource Center 800-882-1515
Clare County Women's Aid Service 989-772-9168
Clinton County RAVE 800-720-7233
Crawford County River House Shelter 888-554-3169
Delta County Alliance Against Violence 800-682-1649
Dickinson County Caring House 906-774-1112
Eaton County SAFE Place
SIREN/Eaton Shelter 888-664-9832
800-899-9997
Emmet County Women's Resource Center 800-275-1995
Genesee County Domestic Violence Services 810-238-7233
Gladwin County Shelterhouse 989-835-6771
Gogebic County DV Escape 906-932-0310
Grand Traverse County Women's Resource Center 800-554-4972
Gratiot County Women's Aid Service 989-772-9168
Hillsdale County Domestic Harmony 888-439-1454
Houghton County Gundlach Shelter House 888-337-5623
Huron County Crisis Center 800-292-3666
Ingham County EVE, Inc.
MSU Safe Place 888-796-5222
517-372-5572
Ionia County RAVE 800-720-7233
Iosco County Shelter, Inc. 800-396-9129
Iron County Caring House 906-774-1112
Isabella County Women's Aid Service 989-772-9168
Jackson County Aware, Inc.
Catherine Cobb DV Program 517-783-2861
800-874-5936
Kalamazoo County DV program 269-385-3587
Kalkaska County Women's Resource Center 800-554-4972
Kent County Domestic Crisis Center
Safe Haven 616-451-2744
616-452-6664
Keweenaw County Gundlach Shelter House 888-337-5623
Lake County Community Services 800-950-5808
Lapeer County Citizens Against DV 810-667-4175
Leelanau County Women's Resource Center 800-554-4972
Lenawee County Catherine Cobb DV Program 800-874-5936
Livingston County LACASA 866-522-2725
Luce County Peppler Resource Center 800-882-1515
Mackinac County Peppler Resource Center 800-882-1515
Macomb County Turning Point 586-463-6990
Manistee County CHOICES 800-723-7220
Marquette County Harbor House
Indian Community VOCA 800-455-6611
906-353-4533
Mason County C.O.V.E. 800-950-5808
Mecosta County WISE 800-374-9473
Menominee County Alliance Against Violence 800-682-1649
Midland County Shelterhouse 989-835-6771
Missaukee County OASIS 800-775-4646
Monroe County Family Counseling & Shelter Services 734-241-0180
Montcalm County RAVE 800-720-7233
Montmorency County Shelter, Inc. 800-396-9129
Muskegon County Every Women's Place 231-722-3333
Newaygo County WISE 800-374-9473
Oakland County HAVEN 877-922-1274
Oceana County C.O.V.E. 800-950-5808
Ogemaw County River House Shelter 888-554-3169
Ontonagon County Gundlach Shelter House 888-337-5623
Osceola County WISE 800-374-9473
Oscoda County River House Shelter 888-554-3169
Otsegodf County Women's Resource Center 800-275-1995
Ottawa County Center for Women 800-848-5991
Presque Isle County Shelter, Inc. 800-396-9129
Roscommon County River House Shelter 888-554-3169
Saginaw County Underground Railroad 888-399-8385
Sanilac County Crisis Center 800-292-3666
Schoolcraft County Alliance Against Violence 800-682-1649
Shiwassee County RAVE 800-720-7233
St. Clair County Safe Horizons 888-985-5538
St. Joseph County Coalition Against DV
Domestic Assault Coalition 269-279-5122
800-828-2023
Tuscola County Crisis Center 800-292-3666
Van Buren County Domestic Assault Coalition 800-828-2023
Washtenaw County DV Project SafeHouse 734-995-5444
Wayne County Domestic Violence Project
First Step
Women's Justice Center 313-833-9813
888-453-5900
313-922-3000
Wexford County OASIS 800-775-4646

This is all I could find so far. Pick one, and go for it.

Yes

dont get excited

but you did what ya could

you gave info----which is good and helpful

But thats really all you can do on a public forum

The rest is up to her

Now lets hope it ends well

because truthfully

In a week when this thread has died

we will not give it a second thought

Just like all the others

sad

but true

okay GM I am with you all the way, harleys, the color purple, cooking, and so on.

However, where u stop and where I begin r 2 different things.

Sometimes counselors go the extra mile if they think they can save a life. Read between the lines.

Umm

I worked at a DV shelter for many years when I was younger

Information is power

But then you know that the victim can be armed to the gills with information yet time and time again return to the abuser

Only the victim can help herself any counselor worth her salt knows that

In DV training your taught that Help with providing the info but to get them out of the situation is a feat only they can accomplish

I have seen women so battered I had to run to the bathroom and cry--We would give them shelter--but days later they went back to the abuser You can give them the ammo but ya cant make it work


Only they can!

I have 2 words for your friend, GET OUT!

No one should take any abuse from anyone....

Yes noone should!

yup they go back, and that is where u step in GM..
so go to work...it is all there in front of u.....

me, i have said my piece by outlining all the 800 numbers 2 call..
i can't call 4 her, nor can i pack a bag, and make the escape. but i can pray, because it will take more than just a prayer 4 this one..

Love to you duffy

Thank you GM. Let me know how it turns out.

SID'S sudden infant death