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Topic: ever feel like you are too picky????
Ladylid2012 Joined Sun 07/05/09 Posts: 42269	Sat 03/12/11 02:46 PM
<--------------Picky b!tch

stephanie_chicago Joined Sat 02/12/11 Posts: 146	Sat 03/12/11 05:39 PM
i am not picky about a persons job, neighborhood (which is a big thing in Chicago), height, weight. but good grooming is essential I agree, one has to be honest about what is important to them and set those things as standards,,,,unless they just want a mate to avoid 'being alone',,,and then it makes no sense to be picky ur options are endless I agree i was too general. Maybe because i was too tired to think

KAY KAY Joined Sun 05/06/07 Posts: 1795	Sat 03/12/11 05:48 PM
YES!!! AND WITH EVERY RIGHT TO BE!

vthepoet Joined Tue 12/21/10 Posts: 954	Sat 03/12/11 06:01 PM
I feel a lot of people have unrealistic expectations, and they set there mind to these expectations at a young age. Then, when they want to find a person to be with long term and they go awhile (talking years here) without finding that person, they become desperate and settle for what they feel is "close enough" to what they wanted. The reality here is that these two situations are both negatives. You really shouldn't set unrealistic expectations nor should you just settle for someone who is close enough to what you want. Being picky isn't a bad thing. But setting the bar so high that you leave yourself a small percent chance to finding a person who meets all your criteria? Yeah..I feel that is a bad thing. A guy isn't always gonna be a "Prince Charming". He will have days when he is an a-hole. A chick won't always be loving and caring. She will have days when she is a biatch. But what you should focus on is how he/she treats you, respects you, is there for you, and vice versa. You never know who you are gonna fall in love with. And it may be out of that "idea" you have in your head of who the perfect person for you is. Just my two cents though. ai but at the same point dont lower your standards if they arnt unrealistically high ;-P

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 03/12/11 09:23 PM
good luck u r not picky to have preferences I am also "picky" and it comes from a lot of expereince wiht what I DON"T want just watch the "desire athletic / slender" if that's not what u r also bringing to the table there dear and friends dropping in all the time can have serious negative consequences on the intimacy of a relationship - so if u were considering me for example (Im out of your age & geographic range) - my question would be - will this guy be happy if his friends aren't around 24/7 - will he value our relationship enough to want to put our intimacy first?

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sat 03/12/11 09:26 PM Edited by sweetestgirl11 on Sat 03/12/11 09:26 PM
I feel a lot of people have unrealistic expectations, and they set there mind to these expectations at a young age. Then, when they want to find a person to be with long term and they go awhile (talking years here) without finding that person, they become desperate and settle for what they feel is "close enough" to what they wanted. The reality here is that these two situations are both negatives. You really shouldn't set unrealistic expectations nor should you just settle for someone who is close enough to what you want. Being picky isn't a bad thing. But setting the bar so high that you leave yourself a small percent chance to finding a person who meets all your criteria? Yeah..I feel that is a bad thing. A guy isn't always gonna be a "Prince Charming". He will have days when he is an a-hole. A chick won't always be loving and caring. She will have days when she is a biatch. But what you should focus on is how he/she treats you, respects you, is there for you, and vice versa. You never know who you are gonna fall in love with. And it may be out of that "idea" you have in your head of who the perfect person for you is. Just my two cents though. agreed 100%

wux Joined Wed 07/29/09 Posts: 7426	Sat 03/12/11 09:57 PM
Relationships are the biggest decisions of your entire life. All others will depend upon it. Good time to be picky. Being picky is a positive thing when the picking is good. Pickiness is the bread-and-butter of the pecking order, which was named after the Peking man, who got his name by being hen-pecked by his wife, whom he hand-picked from the pack of pikies by seeing which of the pack peaqued his pecker the quicker. That send her to pack: pickles, pack of cards, packets, pocket data. Tennis raquets, pinning paquettes. Pac man. Picked for her pic, poked for her puck. She puckered, he pickerelled. Pakk.