Shiki has been asked this question quite often. When a man and a woman are friends, and decide to make it a romantic relationship, you can never go home again. That is, once you cross that line, you can't go back. It's never the same.

So, if you have a friend of the opposite sex, and you are thinking "What if we take it to the next level," you do so at your oen risk. It's like swimming at the beach without a lifeguard.

For if the break-up happens, and the woman says, "Well, we can still be friends," run, run, run to the hills. It just doesn't work.

Just my two cents.
Shiki

Actually, it does.

Trust in the Wisdom of Shiki. It most definitely does NOT work.

Wabbit season!

Been there, done that. Have the t-shirt.

So be vewy, vewy quiet.

if believed everything i read, would it than be that it does not work while it's working

Red Lace, were you the dumper or the dumpee. BIG difference in your way of thinking.

Shiki

Shiki, I have been in both situations. There will always be a difference in thinking among individuals.

If you were the DUMPER, that was merely a pity invite, or a deesire to hold on.

If you were the DUMPEE and said yes, you have low self esteem.

Never works.

Duck season.

Shiki

When I was the dumper, I genuinely wanted to stay friends. There was no pity involved. We're still the best of friends today.

When I was the dumpee, I didn't have low self-esteem. I simply accepted the offer of friendship in the spirit in which it was given.

Both worked.

What happened in your case, if that were your experience, is entirely yours. Do not assume that it fails for everyone else.

Red Lacey, when you were dumped, did you remain friends with the person? Are you still friends with him?

Yes, I did and I am.

You have to let go, sweetness. He's not that into you. Move up and move on.

Elmer season.

"What happened in your case, if that were your experience, is entirely yours. Do not assume that it fails for everyone else."

^ that about sums it up. don't assume you know someone elses life shiki.

It's actually possible to move on without letting go of the friendship. It's called growing up.

It's called "holding on." You can't go back.
Denial is not just a river in Egypt.

Thanks. One experience is not the sum total of everyone else's.

Haha. Going back to the romantic relationship? Never. I can move on. If you can't, don't make it my issue.

Let go, sweetness. It'll be better that way. Come into the light. The light is your friend.

Aaw, resorting to cheap theatrics. How quaint.