It's not as easy as I thought finding other bi ladies in Kansas. I have been lucky enough to meet a couple of women, though other responses to ads tend to be men, spam, couples, or men pretending to be a woman. I suppose being big is part of the problem, though it is a shame that so many of us are so obsessed with pics and appearance. I agree it is human nature to be attracted to looks...But I would think that there are others that truly want someone who is honest, caring, fun, and just as beautiful on the inside. I realize that this sounds cliche..But I have hope for us (ladies). I have yet to meet a woman that doesn't enjoy being massaged, touched, teased and pleased with hands, fingers and toys. Once other women realize that bigger gals tend to please others in ways they cannot imagine (perhaps due to self-esteem and acceptance issues)...They might wake up and give us a chance...Who knows.