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Topic: How to start a conversation!!!!
singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Wed 01/04/12 10:42 AM
I am basically a good guy who wants to make new friends. But when ever i start a conversation,girls disconnect just after i say how r u? Is that wrong? How to start a conversation and take it forwards? Any ideas guys? basically girls are afraid of goodness of guys. If your intention is to make friends,then I guess gender shall not be a criteria. Air bubbles in fuel line makes vehicle movement jerky & scary. What do you mean by girls are afraid of goodness of guys? Some guys goodness costs much to girls so they are afraid by experience.Latter they call them douchebags. What do you mean it costs much to girls?

prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Wed 01/04/12 10:46 AM
"How are you" is a conversation killer... Either they say "fine" and end it or they tell you at great length why they are NOT fine (in which case you should hope the conversation dies.) Try another approach. Hmm...another approach shall be... "How am I looking today?" "Are you alright?" "Why did u wear this dress?" & something like that Asking how you're looking may make it seem as though you're fishing for compliments. Asking if they're alright may seem like you think something is wrong. Questioning why they wore something may send the message that you don't like what they're wearing. Exactly....!! So...aren't those best conversation starter?? Why would they be the best? because they would start the conversation better than better. (( Are u really taking it serious singme???....don't tell me...!!)) I was joking.....

prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Wed 01/04/12 10:49 AM
I am basically a good guy who wants to make new friends. But when ever i start a conversation,girls disconnect just after i say how r u? Is that wrong? How to start a conversation and take it forwards? Any ideas guys? basically girls are afraid of goodness of guys. If your intention is to make friends,then I guess gender shall not be a criteria. Air bubbles in fuel line makes vehicle movement jerky & scary. What do you mean by girls are afraid of goodness of guys? Some guys goodness costs much to girls so they are afraid by experience.Latter they call them douchebags. What do you mean it costs much to girls? I mean they have to pay extra cost somehow.....

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Wed 01/04/12 10:53 AM
"How are you" is a conversation killer... Either they say "fine" and end it or they tell you at great length why they are NOT fine (in which case you should hope the conversation dies.) Try another approach. Hmm...another approach shall be... "How am I looking today?" "Are you alright?" "Why did u wear this dress?" & something like that Asking how you're looking may make it seem as though you're fishing for compliments. Asking if they're alright may seem like you think something is wrong. Questioning why they wore something may send the message that you don't like what they're wearing. Exactly....!! So...aren't those best conversation starter?? Why would they be the best? because they would start the conversation better than better. (( Are u really taking it serious singme???....don't tell me...!!)) I was joking..... Of course you were. I was just trying to see if you'd actually keep going as if you were serious.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Wed 01/04/12 10:53 AM
I am basically a good guy who wants to make new friends. But when ever i start a conversation,girls disconnect just after i say how r u? Is that wrong? How to start a conversation and take it forwards? Any ideas guys? basically girls are afraid of goodness of guys. If your intention is to make friends,then I guess gender shall not be a criteria. Air bubbles in fuel line makes vehicle movement jerky & scary. What do you mean by girls are afraid of goodness of guys? Some guys goodness costs much to girls so they are afraid by experience.Latter they call them douchebags. What do you mean it costs much to girls? I mean they have to pay extra cost somehow..... What exactly are you talking about??

The_Pete_Man Joined Sat 09/15/07 Posts: 21383	Wed 01/04/12 11:05 AM
Well...........one thing NOT to say is, "How's your wife and my kids?" - even in a situation where you know she swings both ways.........

prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Wed 01/04/12 11:11 AM
"How are you" is a conversation killer... Either they say "fine" and end it or they tell you at great length why they are NOT fine (in which case you should hope the conversation dies.) Try another approach. Hmm...another approach shall be... "How am I looking today?" "Are you alright?" "Why did u wear this dress?" & something like that Asking how you're looking may make it seem as though you're fishing for compliments. Asking if they're alright may seem like you think something is wrong. Questioning why they wore something may send the message that you don't like what they're wearing. Exactly....!! So...aren't those best conversation starter?? Why would they be the best? because they would start the conversation better than better. (( Are u really taking it serious singme???....don't tell me...!!)) I was joking..... Of course you were. I was just trying to see if you'd actually keep going as if you were serious. Hell with my heart beats...

prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Wed 01/04/12 11:15 AM
I am basically a good guy who wants to make new friends. But when ever i start a conversation,girls disconnect just after i say how r u? Is that wrong? How to start a conversation and take it forwards? Any ideas guys? basically girls are afraid of goodness of guys. If your intention is to make friends,then I guess gender shall not be a criteria. Air bubbles in fuel line makes vehicle movement jerky & scary. What do you mean by girls are afraid of goodness of guys? Some guys goodness costs much to girls so they are afraid by experience.Latter they call them douchebags. What do you mean it costs much to girls? I mean they have to pay extra cost somehow..... What exactly are you talking about?? Cant't tell exactly as it depends on how good is the guy & how bad (bad lucky) is the girl.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Wed 01/04/12 11:42 AM
Cant't tell exactly as it depends on how good is the guy & how bad (bad lucky) is the girl. Yeah, I have no clue what you mean.

prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Thu 01/05/12 09:32 AM
Cant't tell exactly as it depends on how good is the guy & how bad (bad lucky) is the girl. Yeah, I have no clue what you mean. Really?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 01/05/12 09:50 AM
Well, the reason I have said I have no clue what you are talking about is because I have no clue what you're talking about.

prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Thu 01/05/12 09:52 AM
Well, the reason I have said I have no clue what you are talking about is because I have no clue what you're talking about. but this time I've a fear in mind to trust you.you trapped me last time

teadipper Joined Wed 10/19/11 Posts: 2732	Thu 01/05/12 10:02 AM
Guys over think this so much, it's silly. Let's say your at Target and there is a pretty, you think single, woman/girl buying something. Let's say it's cat food. Ask her "Is that a good brand? How does your cat like?" You can move from there into "What kind of cat do you have? What's it's name? I have a 20 pound gray tabby named Vinnie". If she is talking move into, "Hi, my name's Dave. What's your name?" If she talks, you can move into "Ya know Starbucks is right next door. I'd love it if you let me buy a cup of coffee or a smoothie and oatmeal bar or whatever you want. Would you like to go get something and sit down for a moment and talk........."

prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Thu 01/05/12 10:05 AM
Is that a good brand,terri?

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 01/05/12 10:09 AM Edited by singmesweet on Thu 01/05/12 10:11 AM
Well, the reason I have said I have no clue what you are talking about is because I have no clue what you're talking about. but this time I've a fear in mind to trust you.you trapped me last time What are you talking about?!?!

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 01/05/12 10:11 AM
Guys over think this so much, it's silly. Let's say your at Target and there is a pretty, you think single, woman/girl buying something. Let's say it's cat food. Ask her "Is that a good brand? How does your cat like?" You can move from there into "What kind of cat do you have? What's it's name? I have a 20 pound gray tabby named Vinnie". If she is talking move into, "Hi, my name's Dave. What's your name?" If she talks, you can move into "Ya know Starbucks is right next door. I'd love it if you let me buy a cup of coffee or a smoothie and oatmeal bar or whatever you want. Would you like to go get something and sit down for a moment and talk........." People absolutely over think these kind of things. They get so afraid of rejection that they don't even try to start conversations.

prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Thu 01/05/12 10:13 AM Edited by prashant01 on Thu 01/05/12 10:14 AM
Guys over think this so much, it's silly. Let's say your at Target and there is a pretty, you think single, woman/girl buying something. Let's say it's cat food. Ask her "Is that a good brand? How does your cat like?" You can move from there into "What kind of cat do you have? What's it's name? I have a 20 pound gray tabby named Vinnie". If she is talking move into, "Hi, my name's Dave. What's your name?" If she talks, you can move into "Ya know Starbucks is right next door. I'd love it if you let me buy a cup of coffee or a smoothie and oatmeal bar or whatever you want. Would you like to go get something and sit down for a moment and talk........." People absolutely over think these kind of things. They get so afraid of rejection that they don't even try to start conversations. u both are operating like an expert surgeon now. Singme seems expert in tearing the body & terri in stitching it again.

prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Thu 01/05/12 10:16 AM Edited by prashant01 on Thu 01/05/12 10:16 AM
Well, the reason I have said I have no clue what you are talking about is because I have no clue what you're talking about. but this time I've a fear in mind to trust you.you trapped me last time What are you talking about?!?! yesterdays test,in which I failed.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 01/05/12 10:16 AM
Guys over think this so much, it's silly. Let's say your at Target and there is a pretty, you think single, woman/girl buying something. Let's say it's cat food. Ask her "Is that a good brand? How does your cat like?" You can move from there into "What kind of cat do you have? What's it's name? I have a 20 pound gray tabby named Vinnie". If she is talking move into, "Hi, my name's Dave. What's your name?" If she talks, you can move into "Ya know Starbucks is right next door. I'd love it if you let me buy a cup of coffee or a smoothie and oatmeal bar or whatever you want. Would you like to go get something and sit down for a moment and talk........." People absolutely over think these kind of things. They get so afraid of rejection that they don't even try to start conversations. u both are operating like an expert surgeon now. Singme seems expert in tearing the body & terri in stitching it again. Huh? It just doesn't make sense to over think starting a conversation. It isn't as difficult as some make it out to be.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Thu 01/05/12 10:17 AM
Well, the reason I have said I have no clue what you are talking about is because I have no clue what you're talking about. but this time I've a fear in mind to trust you.you trapped me last time What are you talking about?!?! yesterdays test,in which I failed. Test?