Like most people on this dating site, I joined this site about three years ago in the hope of meeting 'The One'. Countless dates and tons of emails and phone calls, guess what? Yup! I'm still single. You got that right.

My quest in finding a suitable life partner has lead me through many roads; a journey of self discovery where I have learned so many things about my self and hopefully, the workings of the other sex. (if that is even possible). I met quite a number of women who were looking for the same thing I was searching for - companionship. What amuses me is that a lot of us think when we meet that someone special then everything is sorted. Right? Maybe it's true. Maybe it's not.

Happiness is not what someone can give to you. It's what you discover on the inside. If you can't be happy all by yourself, what makes you think you can find happiness on the outside. If you are dependent on another person for happiness there's a grave danger in doing so. What if the person decides to move on or terminate the relationship. What are you going to do?

Everyone wants to be loved and appreciated and this cuts across gender, race, religion or creed. It's a human thing to want to feel loved and to give love. However, because of the systematic programming we have received from society, we are deceived into thinking love or happiness comes in a particular shape, size, height or skin colour. Such stereotypes have been enforced, unfortunately, by the media. What this has lead to is an out-of-touch experience of the very 'humanness' we all share.

We sometimes, consciously or subconsciously, find ourselves manipulating our feelings to fit a particular situation to get what we want. I'm not in the least surprised to see how this has affected our skewed perspective to relationships. These days, relationships become very complicated and it is not rare to see two people engaging in a relationship with their masks on. Our inability to be free to be who we are before others stems from a fear of harsh judgement and criticisms from the other person. So, here we are chasing and chasing that mirage that is so often out of our reach. If at all we find it, we most probably don't know what to do with it.

I have resolved to be as very human as possible and not expect a lot from this site or anybody I meet on here. After all, we are human and imperfect at best. Why complicate things? I hope everyone finds what or who they are looking for. Isn't that what is called success?

Have a great day people.

With Love,

nep2ra.