i always looked at relationships like this if you meet someone and become involved you do not own anyone you don't stop living your life just because you met someone live and let live. I believe that this special person is just an add on to your life and should not become your life ~Alanna

Which maybe why we,re all here on this site.

I agree, Alanna. You need to have separate lives. Too much togetherness means neither person is bringing any new experiences or perspectives to the relationship. And I _fully_ agree on the ownership aspect. If I'm dating a woman, what right do I have to put any sort of claim on her? Her respect for and loyalty to me should be her choice, not something she by which feels obligated. If I claim to trust her and love her, then I should show it and give her free reign to show her love and commitment to me in whatever ways she feels comfortable.

Just my two cents worth.

I have been striving for this for a long time alanna. Its called an interdependant relationship. Its not being independant or dependant. I find that too many people have tried to lock me in a box, telling me what to do, and for me, that has led me to be too independant.

I am working on not being so independant though...

this is so true