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Topic: Ethics question?
singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 09/04/12 11:32 AM
How bad do these people look that you can't think of something nice to say? How about just "thank you! It's so wonderful to see you after all this time!" I think something like that would work just fine.

prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Tue 09/04/12 11:34 AM
They're distinct categories based on what? Are you saying they're specific categories listed somewhere that have to do with compliments? They weren't just your opinion? TOO DISTINCT.... based on their behavior in context of this on going topic of course. Yes,these are my opinion & I'm happy that I could put them clearly. Sorry,don't have enough time to search for any listing. No need. You said they were distinct categories, so that's why I asked. I figured they were your opinion. hey come on...I already said ( though i need not say) that these are of course my opinion & they are really so clearly distinct from each other,I wonder how any one can mess up between them!! Relax, man. I was saying there's no need to search for anything. You answered the question I asked. Come on girl,I already got u there,don't worry! And I'm already relaxed.I've & I can answer questions like this,but how listener takes it, is not of course in my hand.

wux Joined Wed 07/29/09 Posts: 7426	Tue 09/04/12 01:16 PM Edited by wux on Tue 09/04/12 01:21 PM
My suggestion to you, wux, is not to assume that I or others didn't read the full post just because you do not agree with the response. {I did not assume that. I assumed that YOU did not read the full post. Again, you added a clause that is misdirecting the meaning. I just told you not to do that and again you are committing the same fallacies.} I did in fact read the whole thing. It just didn't seem to make sense, hence my response.{the paragraph made sense. Full sense. Your response to it made no sense. Your response to it made sense if one assumed that you read only the first part, and the second part never existed. If one assumed that you read the whole paragraph, then one needed to assumen that you did not understand an otherwise perfectly clear paragraph. I think you were given the benefit of doubt of my assuming that you did not read the second part of the paragraph, rather than my being forced to see that you can't understand and comprehend a clearly written five- or six-line's worth of text of average complexity after reading it.} No need to talk down to me simply because you did not like the way I responded. I'm not here to make myself more popular. There will always be people who don't like my posts, as not everyone is going to like what everyone else has to say. If I irritate you, don't read my posts.{granted. I will never again read your posts.} It really is as simple as that. Awfully demanding, though, to say I need to respond the way you tell me to in order to be more popular.{I did not say this at all. I did not say you will be more popular this way or that way. It never was mentioned by me. READ again. You must READ, first, THEN talk. I also did not say how you must respond. I suggested (not demanded) for you read the paragraphs you respond to in full, but I never said how you must or must not respond.} More popular with who? You? There are several people here I get along with very well, so I don't see that as being a problem. Like I said, this was the last post ever that you wrote and I read. Just as well... you paraphrased me and put words in my mouth four or more times, and responded to falsehoods, attributed to me as having said them. You responded, as quoted here above, to things I never said, by slightly or seriously turning my words, and blaming me. In particular, the more serious mistakes you made: 1. You said I demanded some thigns of you, which I did not. 2. You said I told you how to become more popular. I did not give you instructions at all in reality, how to become more popular. I am glad you asked me to not read your posts in the future. This futile arguing with a person, you, who keeps arguing over staff that NEVER HAS BEEN SAID is really tiresome. Should you respond to this post of mine here, I shall be unable to respond to that, since I won't read your response.

s1owhand Joined Fri 05/18/07 Posts: 29437	Tue 09/04/12 01:34 PM
WOW! Who did your rhinoplasty?! You look faboolus!! Do you smell better now too?!

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 09/04/12 06:04 PM
My suggestion to you, wux, is not to assume that I or others didn't read the full post just because you do not agree with the response. {I did not assume that. I assumed that YOU did not read the full post. Again, you added a clause that is misdirecting the meaning. I just told you not to do that and again you are committing the same fallacies.} I did in fact read the whole thing. It just didn't seem to make sense, hence my response.{the paragraph made sense. Full sense. Your response to it made no sense. Your response to it made sense if one assumed that you read only the first part, and the second part never existed. If one assumed that you read the whole paragraph, then one needed to assumen that you did not understand an otherwise perfectly clear paragraph. I think you were given the benefit of doubt of my assuming that you did not read the second part of the paragraph, rather than my being forced to see that you can't understand and comprehend a clearly written five- or six-line's worth of text of average complexity after reading it.} No need to talk down to me simply because you did not like the way I responded. I'm not here to make myself more popular. There will always be people who don't like my posts, as not everyone is going to like what everyone else has to say. If I irritate you, don't read my posts.{granted. I will never again read your posts.} It really is as simple as that. Awfully demanding, though, to say I need to respond the way you tell me to in order to be more popular.{I did not say this at all. I did not say you will be more popular this way or that way. It never was mentioned by me. READ again. You must READ, first, THEN talk. I also did not say how you must respond. I suggested (not demanded) for you read the paragraphs you respond to in full, but I never said how you must or must not respond.} More popular with who? You? There are several people here I get along with very well, so I don't see that as being a problem. Like I said, this was the last post ever that you wrote and I read. Just as well... you paraphrased me and put words in my mouth four or more times, and responded to falsehoods, attributed to me as having said them. You responded, as quoted here above, to things I never said, by slightly or seriously turning my words, and blaming me. In particular, the more serious mistakes you made: 1. You said I demanded some thigns of you, which I did not. 2. You said I told you how to become more popular. I did not give you instructions at all in reality, how to become more popular. I am glad you asked me to not read your posts in the future. This futile arguing with a person, you, who keeps arguing over staff that NEVER HAS BEEN SAID is really tiresome. Should you respond to this post of mine here, I shall be unable to respond to that, since I won't read your response. I'm sorry you're having such a bad day, but no need to take it out on me. I don't know if you're normally this way with people, but your attitude is uncalled for. You're awfully bossy and condescending.

Kahurangi Joined Thu 04/26/12 Posts: 1970	Tue 09/04/12 06:14 PM
Actually he is right, you do tend to take bits of what you want out of a post and twist it around to suit you....regardless of what is being said as a whole. Take that anyway you want to....which you undoubtedly will.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Tue 09/04/12 06:25 PM Edited by singmesweet on Tue 09/04/12 06:27 PM
Actually he is right, you do tend to take bits of what you want out of a post and twist it around to suit you....regardless of what is being said as a whole. Take that anyway you want to....which you undoubtedly will. If you don't like my posts either, no worries. I don't know either of you much at all, so I don't know if you usually complain about the way others post. Either way, it's ok. There are plenty of other posts here for you to read. Maybe they won't cause you to be snippy. We all have different ways of thinking. Not everyone will think or post the way you want.

prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Wed 09/05/12 09:40 AM
It is more about digestion than just liking or disliking...!!

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Wed 09/05/12 10:50 AM
It is more about digestion than just liking or disliking...!! Not quite sure what you mean. Care to explain?

prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Fri 09/07/12 10:45 PM
Certainly,I would have....but seems useless....so,why to waste efforts..!!

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 09/07/12 10:57 PM
If you're unable to explain your thoughts clearly enough so someone else can understand what you're saying, ok. Not a problem.

prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Fri 09/07/12 11:01 PM
It is easy to awaken those who are really sleeping very difficult for pretenders....

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 09/07/12 11:15 PM
It is easy to awaken those who are really sleeping very difficult for pretenders.... Who is pretending and what are they pretending about?

prashant01 Joined Wed 05/06/09 Posts: 14148	Fri 09/07/12 11:20 PM
Someone is understanding the mistake made,but poor thing....not able to commit.

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Fri 09/07/12 11:24 PM
Someone is understanding the mistake made,but poor thing....not able to commit.

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Sat 09/08/12 01:09 AM
How bad do these people look that you can't think of something nice to say? How about just "thank you! It's so wonderful to see you after all this time!" thats a great response, ty everybody has bad days when they arent looking so great for whatever reason,,,,and I like to be genuine with compliments I just worry that the other person picks up on the type of compliment I am paying if it isnt reciprocating theirs,,,silly, but thats my concern it doesnt even happen often, just something I was pondering

msharmony Joined Mon 08/31/09 Posts: 61041	Sat 09/08/12 01:09 AM
WOW! Who did your rhinoplasty?! You look faboolus!! Do you smell better now too?!

singmesweet Joined Mon 07/28/08 Posts: 26661	Sat 09/08/12 07:55 AM
How bad do these people look that you can't think of something nice to say? How about just "thank you! It's so wonderful to see you after all this time!" thats a great response, ty everybody has bad days when they arent looking so great for whatever reason,,,,and I like to be genuine with compliments I just worry that the other person picks up on the type of compliment I am paying if it isnt reciprocating theirs,,,silly, but thats my concern it doesnt even happen often, just something I was pondering Don't worry about it so much. I don't think most people compliment others with the intention of getting a compliment in return. The above suggestion would probably work just fine.

sweetestgirl11 Joined Fri 09/12/08 Posts: 30087	Sun 09/09/12 07:44 AM
When you say they dont look good, what do you mean? As in sick or let themselves go? That makes all the difference to any response. either one lets say, they look like lifes treated them hard, tired, unfit, etc,,,, simply say thanks and find something to compliment that does not cover their overall appearance such as a nice hairstyle or success in a new job - gotta be something there. I agree you are wise to be cautious about a false compliment

Cutiepieforyou Joined Wed 10/17/07 Posts: 43085	Sun 09/09/12 07:50 AM
So ,I have trouble with this one. What do you do when someone who hasnt seen you in a while pays you a compliment about your appearance, but they dont look so good themself? I always feel the 'proper' response when someone says something nice is a 'you too' or 'so do you' and I think most people are expecting that response but what if its not true? do you say it anyway? if you dont or if you pay a different type of compliment is that offensive? I guess a simple 'thanx' is fine, but then they may be offended if there is no compliment in return,,,, this isnt really an issue, Im just tired, and I was wondering...lol I just say thank you.