I can't believe the nerve of some people lately, but what happened last week takes the cake.

At my brother William's wake last week, my other brother's mother-in-law and sister-in-law came to pay their respect...well, the mother-in-law did. I went up to his sis-in-law to thank her for coming and she says "Oh...I didn't think anyone would recognize me." I answered her and said "of course I do."

Her next statement made me want to beat the living crap out of her. She started playing with her hair and said "Am I still pretty?"

Are you kidding me????? With my brother in a casket five feet away, you would ask something so stupid and vain???????

I wanted to tell her "No....you look worse than William right now" (or you will in a few minutes!)

What is the rudest thing you have heard lately?

I had a similar situation at my Sister,s wake.
MY sister in laws,s sister came and put her arms around me and said: Finally somebody here is as fat as me"

Not only was that so rude and tacky , but totally offensive because nobody is as fat as her.
I thought my girls were going to slug her lol.
Funerals really do seem to bring out the worst in people.

It sounds like both women were insecure about their looks. Sorry to the both of you that they chose a time like that to say those things

I understand it is uncomfortable to be at a wake and feeling that the words "I'm sorry for your loss" sound so common and overused but sometimes that is all the family needs to hear.

A few days later I was at the store and the cashier was too busy chatting with another employee that she didn't see my cart had other big items in it and she says over her shoulder to me "Take some of these bags off here...." I went to move things so she could scan the big items and I could put the bags away and she says again, really nasty "DID YOU HEAR ME?????? I said take some of these bags off here!!"

My answer to her, right in front of her manager, was "If you want me to pile them on top of my other items, I will. But don't ***** at me when I don't take out to pay for them then!"

Funerals are difficult at best. My father was good about injecting humor into every situation, even at funerals, but always in a kind way. Not many people can do that.

When I die I hope that anyone at my funeral or having a discussion about me laughs and thinks of the good things in me and others and sees my death as just another chapter.

I don't excuse the rudeness, but some people just don't know how to act. Try to not let it add sorrow to an already sorrowful situation.

I recall being at a family member's funeral. I watched distant family members laughing and recall being angry at them. It is a very difficult time.

We were raised to celebrate the person at the wake, celebrate the good times, the family parties, encounters we had with the deceased. I guess most people would call it an Irish funeral It wasn't a time to feel bad because we were the ones left behind. The person who passed is in a much better place....if not rejoicing in Heaven they'd be partying in Hell.

Good attitude.

Thanks klc... He fought the cancer for more than three years but his body just couldn't do it anymore

Anyone else come across rudeness lately? In their day-to-day life?

Yea Because someone had helped me when my Dad was dying (driving me to a nearby grocery, which I paid for handsomely since it was much faster than the shuttle bus and I could return quickly to nurse my Dad ) anyway I spent and entire day cooking a meal for 50 neighbors at a fundraiser, without so much as a thank you. So much for reciprocateing a favor. Least my neighbors were nice enough to Thank me.

I am sorry that people have to act like fools when someone is dying or recently passed. Especially for you and Capt..

But seems to happen in every Hospice I have seen. Some would curl your hair if you only knew.

yeah, I was pretty rude with a salesgirl the other day... she started it, she wanted to sell me a pair of support bras, but I put her in place, I told that young brazen hussy, I told her I'd need at least two sizes larger, wtf she thinks she is doing as a professional saleswoman.

It turned out she was not a professional sales woman, she was a Korean exchange student, and her question to me was actually if I knew where the last three surviving Canadian prime ministers had been buried.