What do you think is a healthy amount of sex in a relationship. Say for the sake of this topic, at 3 months into a relationship, 6 months 1 year, 5 years and 10 years.

I think it depends on the couple. Opinion only, but I believe that honest and open communication about how much, where, when and how are crucial. I'm not saying that you should take spontaneity out of the relationship but I do think that both people should let their preferences be known.

For sake of this topic, I'd say for averages:

@ 3 months - 2x a day
@ 6 months - 1x a day
@ 1 year - 5x a week
@ 5 years - 3x a week
@ 10 years - 4x a day (gotta get that spark back somehow)

Oh, jeez...

Yes, it really does depend on the couple. Some people have higher sex drives, some have lower. Age and health (well, health more than age, I think) factor in as well, not to mention opportunity which can be affected by everything from work schedules to living arrangements to the presence of children.

I'll answer for myself, speaking as a middle-aged woman with a relatively high sex drive:

3 months - 1 year: Preferably after every date (this assumes we don't live together). Say that adds up to a minimum of once or twice a week. If we spend an entire week together or we move in together during this time, I'm probably going to want it every day or every other day... but I'll take what he can give me.

1 year - 5 years: Somewhere in this time-frame, I would hope we make a commitment that involves marriage and living together (if we haven't already), so see above.

10 years: As often as possible. (For me, this is the point where age and health would likely become factors, especially if my partner is older than me by more than a couple of years.) But assuming we're both healthy and capable, I'd still want it at least twice a week, if not more.

2 times a week is okay. Although after life with kids you learn to get r' done whenever the opportunity arrives.

the amount that matches the energy and time of the couple,,,

some have time and energy for several times a day, while others are lucky to find the time or energy for several times a month,,,

Every day, whether permitting. Whether or not you're too tired or too busy. Then 3 times a day on vacation days to make up for the whether.

Sex for 20 minutes, then watch a show.

Sex for 20 minutes, then eat supper.

Sex for .....well, do I need to go on?

I like Cyndi's ideal !
hehehe...

The sexcation? Amazing that no one's coined this one before? How soon can we get this in the dictionary?

Well just all the sex for sure !
hehehe
I don't know about in the dictionary
But now it is in my head for sure !
Gee i keep imagining all the positions a ballet dancer could...
Well you get the picture right ?

Yum Yum Bubble gum !






I think i need a "Sexcation" for real !

KIK! Shame on you!

About once every night, if possible. I know people get tired because of work, so I wouldn't demand it, or get angry at them. You have to negotiate with these things :)

So how many are getting a healthy amount.

*snork* If only!

I sure as heck wouldn't find time to hang out much on here!

daily or until it falls off

{Eyebrows going up and down}

well he asked