My parents been die for 8 years now before my mother die she made me
promise I wouldn't come visit their grave site. My siblings think that I
were wrong for making that promise and go visit them are they right?

Wow,sexy
Thats a hard one. why did she ask you not to visit the site? I dont know
I might have to break the promise myself because I would want to go take
care of the site and take flowers and so on. I am fortunate because I
have both mine alive but I really dont know what to say. The best I can
do is tell you follow your heart.

hello, lady
my father is dead and he wad burried in another country
I, wish I could go and visit his grave anytime but I can't and it hurts
sometimes, but I travel, go to his grave when I can.

If my sisters don't feel the same way thats their feelings and I respect
that, but taino is right
follow your heart, that is what I do.

morena

Thanks for your advise Taino she told me to stay among the living and 8
other siblings can take care of grave site I guess that were her reason
plus I'm the baby so that could be it also.

I think that you should do what you need to do for yourself. A promise
is a promise...but you also need to take care of you. Your parents
aren't there in the graves...they are all around you and will always be
as long as you keep them in your heart and mind. I think your mother
would understand if you went to the gravesite because you NEED to for
yourself. Forget being the baby or going to maintain the sites...maybe
you go because you want to visit them...or maybe to talk...or maybe for
closure. You have to take care of you and what you need before you can
take care of anyone else's needs or wants. Your mom and dad would
understand...and a visit there doesn't mean that you are leaving the
living world...you are still very much here. Maybe a visit is what
keeps you part of the living...

Hey sexy,

I agree with peachie and follow your heart !

Thanks guys I will follow my heart because honestly that were they are
right now tell me to stay where am at right now with my son yet he knows
all about his grandparents they even want me to take him to see their
site which I'm not having it. I will do as I promise and remember them
as were a live:)