many of you know that i am a divorced mother of one he is my world and i guess i should stop from doing this to myself but every year i think maybe just maybe this will be the year that my ex's family will try to contact my son regardless of what his father has told them

i have had contact with them and told them that just cause my ex and i are ex's that it should not stop them from being part of my sons life i have never told them that they are not to contact my son


i wish i could just accept it and move on but i guess its because i didnt have my whole family(anuts, uncles, cousions) around that i wanted it to be different for my child\


what the hell happened to family

I'm not sure what happened to family but I understand where you are coming from... my parents split when I was 2 and my mom would right my grandma on my dad's side all of the time and send her pics of me and my brother and one day my grandma just stopped writing.... my mom said the last time she saw me in person I was about 9 months old.... she passed away when I was 17 I never met her... or anyone else on my dad's side of the family and I am 25 now.....

i hear ya i would take my sons pics every 6mths till he was about 4 and i payed everything sent to all his dads side and i hardly every got a call or anything hes got a grandpa in Fl. that has never seen him

i have tried everything and nothing seems to work

how old is your son now?

he is 8

Hello u all how are you doing i am larry i just wanna say hi toy you all can we have a chat meet me at mickeywise2004@yahoo.co.uk

it's hard.... I don't have a very good relationship with my real dad... and like I said I have never meet his side of the family... my grandpa on his side passed away in december of 1995 and my grandma past away somewhere around june-october of 1999 I don't even know what they look like... it was a battle with my dad for a long time about how things went down between my parents.... and when I was 16 I went down to FL to live with him after not seeing him in 8 or 9 years... my aunt said it was better for me to get to know him myself instead of what people told me.... but what people told me was the truth.... I have learned to accept that our relationship is what it is and no matter how hard I try or how bad I want it to change it never will.... it's just who he is

Hi, I understand completely what you are going through cause at the moment I am going through it. But at the same I am confused on do I want my husband ( soon to be x ) side of the family really fully involved. I know how it was with his x wife and how they treated the daughter ( my stepdaughter ) I am afraid for mine... Like I dont want her to be drilled every time I drop her off or he picks her up. I know what they put my step duaghter throw with all the questions and stuff. I just get all emotional when I think about that. I am not ready to deal with this at all. But I can't be with the father anymore due to his cheating ways! I am in a world of lost and confusion. HOW DO U JUST DEAL?

Angel Marie

sometimes i think i understand about his dad not being in his life or his side of the family and then its like a Mac truck that hits me Why is it this way and will it ever change

but one thing i can say is i have never spoken ill of my sons father in his presense9sp)

that's good.... and it's hard to understand why someone wouldn't want to be there... coming from the child's point of view it took me becoming an adult to half understand sometimes I still don't but have accepted it for what it is that maybe it's just the way God wants my life to be... I have a step-dad who I didn't always get along with but I have a great relationship with now.... and he is there for me when I need him... and he didn't give up one me... and he was willing to change and put in a little effort unlike my real dad

Nights

i am truly sorry that you ar egoing through this

my son doesnt even get a phone call from them or a Christmas card anything

i am currtenly living with a man that has accepted my son like his own i am so thankful fot that

I haven't heard from my Mom since I was 21. My parents had a very bitter divorce, making use choose between them. So even though I refused to choose, it was made for me because I was still willing to talk to my Dad. I am the oldest of 5, and only 3 of us are in touch. And no way to know if things are ever going to change. So I feel what you all are going through. Too often we just cut people out of our lives and don't think about it. As a result, I never cut anyone out of my life now unless they really want it that way. Then I can only respect their wishes.

my ex-wife's family have completely ignored my kids for the last 7 yrs. then when i see one of them in walmart they try to say that i turned the kids against them. but they know my number. they could call anytime. i don't get it either

UR A GOOD MOM

and to make things even crazier he got married before the ink on the divorce was dry and yes it was my choice to put him out but he got married and had another baby introduced the baby to our child as his baby sister and now my son ask about her and they have since gotten divorced and he says he doenst know if the baby was his or not the little girl that is

Kids when told that they have a sister or brother that they didn't know about can tend to want to see them. Half, step or real sisters and brothers can be just sisters and brothers to them. Of course, brothers and sisters that they have known are going to be closer to them at first sometimes. Roots can be important no matter how distant they are to people.

You rock little mama!!! just like YOU with the feelings of hoping the other side would be decent with my boy and be a part of HIS life because to ME family means something. Instead they remained in the background. No xmas presents, birthdays, holidays or even calls with the multitude of surgerys he had to endure from being premature. I had to see a throat surgeon a few years back for laryngitis being constant. The doc told me he wanted me to travel to vanderbilt as he felt i had throat/voicebox cancer. OK so thats where i said ENOUGH. I called his grandma. I was not married to this man let me stress this his mother was always buting in, my job, bogus calls to cps and calling my boys specialists, docs, pharmacys, neighbors, my LANDLORDS, trying to get mY son so she would be able to play mommy again. She is one sick biatch., I let it go and called. Within 2 months i was in custody battle #3. lawyers here ar 3-5 grand CASH up front. I tried THREE times and in may i was back in front of the JUDGE being sued for custody. I am DONE. BE CAREFUL as I wish NOW I would have NEVER TRIED to reach out and keep family ties in place. My folks passed and i have no immediate REAL family here. I do know how you feel and i am always around if you need to talk, cry, scream or just a friend to be there.

Nice to see you posting again, Laurie. I bet you got that house looking good with Allen's help. How is he doing these days? Did ya'll get the house all painted like you wanted to?