Trust is bigger than Love???

Depends on how you want to measure it.

I think most of your life you use "trust" more often than you do "love," so it's a "bigger" component of your everyday decisions.

But I think if you ask any parent of a teenager which they have more for their kid and love will seem far "bigger."

Not sure what you mean to be asking.

But TRUST is one of the most basic, and subtle concepts that all of us need to come to understand.

The thing I most wish I would have grasped earlier in my life, concerning trust, is that the most important person to be ABLE to trust, is oneself.

It is extremely common to run into lots of trust problem scenarios when you are young. We start by learning about "trusting" parents, and parents "trusting" us.

That kind of trust, is the most common and basic. What this kind of "trust" really is, is just that we anticipate that our parents will deal with us consistently, and our parents trust that we will do the same. They don't "trust" us to do the right thing, or even to know the right thing, they trust us to respond to their training and teaching.

Later, most of us extend that basic idea to non-family members, and we do it in various ways, all centered around the same basic "expectations of consistency."

The "trust" we hope to have with a mate, is consistency, and agreement in most basic areas of human behavior and values. "Compatibility" is the most common term to use to describe this in a moment to moment functional way.

This finally gets to what I THINK you are after.

We can have strong bonds of affection and desire for someone (love), without finding the agreement and consistency we want in a mate. We can love someone, without being able to trust them.

Now. Using the term "bigger," to mean "more decisive," or "more important," then when it comes to building an overall positive and healthy relationship, "trust," is more functionally necessary than "love."

But the two are really equal, in the ideal mate relationship.

TRUST has 5 letters

LOVE has 4 letters

TRUST is bigger.

I dont think any relationship can survive without either

I think if you can't trust u'r partner in relationship. Why are u in relationship at the first place....trust must be there

that's on my list of things that cant be quantified,,,and therefore cant really be ranked or compared

trust

when we first meet a person we size them up, sort of a judgment call. what

happens next is up to us, depending on our script we were handed...trust is that

a social intercourse term making someone responsible for our feelings????...so

we can feel upset...?????????

I don't know

I agree with Igor Frankensteen. Trust is an expectation of consistency.

Statements about trust should also be weighed through the lens of the scammer. More than once I've scambaited scammers through various sites. When they hit me up for money and I refuse, they accuse me of not "trusting" them. I explain to them that they haven't earned my trust, their expressions of affection notwithstanding, and until they earn that trust, I won't give them any financial support.

Igor's explanation gives me an even better come back, by hitting me up for money, they've violated a trust that I had in them. I trusted them to be looking for a match, and self-sufficient. They asked me for money and broke that trust by claiming poverty and raising scammer red flags.

A relationship demands trust, but trust isn't given blithely, it is earned by a pattern of consistency that in turn gives us an expectation of consistency.