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Topic: Is Shared Laughter Important In Dating?
peggy122's photo
Tue 08/02/16 06:49 PM


If you meet a date with some wonderful attributes eg attractiveness, intelligence, kindness etc, but neither of you feel inspired to joke and laugh when you are together, does it affect your level of attraction for the person?

In other words, you both smile, engage fully, and converse, but you seldom inspire each other to LAUGH ,how much does that affect your desire to date them?

Is "Laughter chemistry" important to YOU?



Yes definitely, I can be serious at times, but there's nothing like a giggle to lighten the load.

The very lucky girl who ends up with me will think her life has become a real life romantic comedy ohwell




And lucky , she will be indeed Joe flowerforyou

peggy122's photo
Tue 08/02/16 06:59 PM



..Is "Laughter chemistry" important to YOU?

VERY. Important.
Here is why..when you share humor you also share
a 'kinship' of understanding.

They make you laugh because you 'get' it (them.)
And vice versa.
If it is consistent, you are in the groove with that person.
Nothing better :-)

^^^^^ This
It's very important. NOt unlike getting a language. You do not really get a language until you get the humour in that language.
Same with a partner. If you don't get each other's humour, you don't really get each other. You're on different wavelengths. Don't want that with a partner.


When I was confronted with it in my own dating life , I couldnt identify the words that Soufie , twin and you used to validate what I was feeling . I actually worried that I was being superficial or overly picky. But what you guys said is exactly what I was sensing in myself Crystal :)

searay260's photo
Tue 08/02/16 07:06 PM
For me sharing the same sense of humor is important.
Nothing like going out on a date and you end up cracking
each other up. It kind of eases the nerves for both
parties especially on the first couple of dates. You
go home actually feeling like you had a great time.
That's the way I feel anyway and definitely would want
to date the lady again. :smile:

peggy122's photo
Tue 08/02/16 07:07 PM
Edited by peggy122 on Tue 08/02/16 07:18 PM
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Nah

Dissident


laugh Not really. The blatant obviousness to my sensibilities sent me sardonic. (Not that it is not great question and subject)

I'm sure there are very pragmatic people out there who don't put as much a value as (I think) most of us do. I wouldn't want to hang out with them though.


As I alluded with Crystal Beach, I actually felt really guilty when I was confronted with this decision in my dating life . I was thinking that so many women complain about there being no good men around, and here I found a good guy who made me smile but who I couldnt generate any laughter with, and I was vacuous enough in my mindset to release him? whoa

Yeah. definitely second guessed myself on it but what the respondents said here , though I couldnt find the words to articulate it at the time, was ulimately what validated me in my feelings :)

peggy122's photo
Tue 08/02/16 07:07 PM
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Nah

Dissident


laugh Not really. The blatant obviousness to my sensibilities sent me sardonic. (Not that it is not great question and subject)

I'm sure there are very pragmatic people out there who don't put as much a value as (I think) most of us do. I wouldn't want to hang out with them though.


As I alluded with Crystal Beach, I actually felt really guilty when I was confronted with this decision in my dating life . I was thinking that so many women complain about there being no good men around, and here I found a good guy who made me smile but who I couldnt generate any laughter with, and I was vacuous in my mindset to release him? whoa

Yeah. definitely second guessed myself on it but what the respondents said here , though I couldnt find the words to articulate it at the time, was ulimately what validated me in my feelings :)

peggy122's photo
Tue 08/02/16 07:10 PM


If you meet a date with some wonderful attributes eg attractiveness, intelligence, kindness etc, but neither of you feel inspired to joke and laugh when you are together, does it affect your level of attraction for the person?

In other words, you both smile, engage fully, and converse, but you seldom inspire each other to LAUGH ,how much does that affect your desire to date them?

Is "Laughter chemistry" important to YOU?




"Laughter is vital to life... period...

So if I can't laugh with the person I am with then there is no chemistry...

This thang called chemistry to me is made up of so many different components, that is really isn't describable....


Thats so true Sitka, I cant totally define what chemistry is , but for me, shared humor is a huge part of it :thumbsup: waving

peggy122's photo
Tue 08/02/16 07:12 PM


Soufie
Why are you so damn wise all the time?
Can't you be wrong and stupid for ONCE, like us mere mortals??? !:heart: :heart:flowerforyou happy

Gee, no pressure there..




No pressure at all Guru of chat :wink:

lionsbrew's photo
Tue 08/02/16 07:13 PM

If you meet a date with some wonderful attributes eg attractiveness, intelligence, kindness etc, but neither of you feel inspired to joke and laugh when you are together, does it affect your level of attraction for the person?

In other words, you both smile, engage fully, and converse, but you seldom inspire each other to LAUGH ,how much does that affect your desire to date them?

Is "Laughter chemistry" important to YOU?



Yeah it is. I see humor in just about everything. Life can be rough and its a lot easier to handle when you don't take it to seriously. Also I'm pretty witty myself and if a woman isn't laughing she has no sense of humor.laugh

peggy122's photo
Tue 08/02/16 07:14 PM

For me sharing the same sense of humor is important.
Nothing like going out on a date and you end up cracking
each other up. It kind of eases the nerves for both
parties especially on the first couple of dates. You
go home actually feeling like you had a great time.
That's the way I feel anyway and definitely would want
to date the lady again. :smile:


Most of us are in full agreement with you searay.

Welcome to the forum :)

Beachfarmer's photo
Tue 08/02/16 07:14 PM
flowerforyou Yes a total validation.

How difficult Peggy!flowerforyou Every other wonderful quality but laughter. I probably (with sadness) would have to say, "it's not enough" as well.

peggy122's photo
Tue 08/02/16 07:22 PM


If you meet a date with some wonderful attributes eg attractiveness, intelligence, kindness etc, but neither of you feel inspired to joke and laugh when you are together, does it affect your level of attraction for the person?

In other words, you both smile, engage fully, and converse, but you seldom inspire each other to LAUGH ,how much does that affect your desire to date them?

Is "Laughter chemistry" important to YOU?



Yeah it is. I see humor in just about everything. Life can be rough and its a lot easier to handle when you don't take it to seriously. Also I'm pretty witty myself and if a woman isn't laughing she has no sense of humor.laugh


That's right lionsbrew. The sound of crickets in the room MUST BE the woman's fault :tongue: happy drinker

peggy122's photo
Tue 08/02/16 07:23 PM

flowerforyou Yes a total validation.

How difficult Peggy!flowerforyou Every other wonderful quality but laughter. I probably (with sadness) would have to say, "it's not enough" as well.


Yeah. A definite dilemma for me at the time flowerforyou

tmh1063's photo
Tue 08/02/16 08:28 PM
If we can't laugh together, then how fully engaged are we? If you connect with someone and get along well with them, you should be able to laugh together. Something is missing if you can't. flowerforyou

RustyKitty's photo
Tue 08/02/16 08:41 PM
Totally agree - we have to share similar humour
Make each other smile and laugh

peggy122's photo
Tue 08/02/16 08:43 PM

If we can't laugh together, then how fully engaged are we? If you connect with someone and get along well with them, you should be able to laugh together. Something is missing if you can't. flowerforyou


For some people, generating smiles is more important than generating LAUGHTER. I guess it all depends on a person's personality and needs Tmh flowerforyou

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