Words get their meaning from the context in which they are used which is somewhat based upon the experiences and character of the person using them.

Just like they say one mans terrorist is another mans freedom fighter, the english language has many adjectives that carry either a negative or positive slant.

I know that I have lived places where the neighbors were ALWAYS in each others business, and I have lived places where neighbors could pass in the street and not recognize each other.

I have heard people ask other people questions that seem to me quite strange and pointless, let alone useless. Questions like,, what nationality are you? or Are those contacts? or Are those your nails/hair,,,etc,,,,


When I hear these questions I often wonder why people want to know the answers, often forgetting the power of pure (and mostly innocent) curiosity.

MY question to you is: When it comes to people being 'in your business',, where do you cross the line between what is innocent curiousity and what is rude imposition?

I think the big red warning light thing, is when they have an AGENDA about what they want to talk about. I can talk with someone about almost anything, without feeling sensitive. And I only say almost, because I'm not sure someone COULDN'T come up with a subject I'd be upset to be asked about.

But if the person has an agenda about it, absolutely anything at all can be off limits. I'm trying to think of a good example. I guess politics is the most obvious, and if it's a lead up to trying to sell you something it's really annoying. I can't quite put it into words. I've had experiences where the person was talking about the most mundane and meaningless, impersonal stuff in the world, but I felt as though they were asking me for the password to my ATM card.

Communication has many forms/styles/skills but it depends really on every individual's personality. Everyone behaves differently from the other, some are sensitive, compassionate,considerate and understanding, they speak softly and uses gentle words careful not to offend anyone , others are truly opposite that they are blatantly rude, swears or speaks harsh words and they think that having the freedom of speech is they could already speak whatever they want without the consideration of other's feelings. Lucky are those who have good skills in communicating with confidence on how they could relay the right messages to someone, but other's have a hard time starting a conversation. Anyhow, we cannot judge people right away with just a few exchange of words. Listen carefully, observe and understand the person you are talking to then you will know if he or she has good intentions towards you. Trying to dissect everything he or she says is normal , but becareful with your judgement, reading and putting meanings to every word in a negative way could give you false judgement. Having an open mind and heart with a good discernment will lead you in knowing the real person. Listen to their questions , how they deliver it and the succeeding questions will help you recognize if it's only curiosity or rudely imposing on you already which can be irritating. But there are people who are not quite aware of how they talk, some sounds rude and careless but others are very tactful. Human behavior is a very complex thing to study and understand.