Good evening once again my night owls, your man is back with some more good " Hot Tea Topics" thanks a trillion for the responses i recieved, luv ya dearly. Okay lets go in on this one. Now when we are attractive to various types of people in the world. We all have a taste or type. Some like tall some like short. Some like thin build while others prefer thick or muscular. Whatever right? What if i ask America how do you feel dating a person maybe 2 or 3 times your age? Dating a cougar is forbidden or for you ladies sugar daddies. Ir is it a trend? Could you see yourself being in love with an older mate? If so how old is your limit?. Lets talk about this one. Please let me remind you to keep it cordial i dont want this be flagged. Okay. We can all learn from each other. So on that note lets get it started.

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EyeAmYourHist39

EyeAmYourHost39,

Okay i am into older women. Usually no more than 5 to 7 years older. I am usually equal opportunity kind of guy but far as dating a extreme cougar like a woman in her 60s naw....why well i would feel odd. It would look like im only with her for her money or it would look like i with her for a mother figure. Then its the generational differences. I dont think i have anything in common with a 60 or 70 year lady. I mean i seen some nice looking older women from all cultures.but i have to draw the line in the sand sometime. Ya feel me?

EyeAmYourHost39,

Ladies love can affect anybody. I think the oldest woman i was well....i was 30 then she was 45. I mean she was nice. Very attractive. You know im into Asian italian and spanish women and she had a great personality. I had to end it because back then i wasnt ready for what she had planned for me then. See she already had 2 beautiful kids her own place and she would pay for everything even though i would insist. Thats when i realized to stay in my lane.

There was a time , when I was younger, that age didnt really matter one way or the other as long as we were both 'grown'. We either had similar interests and values or we did not and I did not see age as a guarantee of that.

Now, however, as a mother to a 25 year old, and a believer that marriage and commitment makes two units into one, I would feel awkward dating anyone who is not old enough to comfortably be seen as a 'stepfather' and not mistaken for a friend, brother, or grandfather to my son.

I see a five year age difference as preferential as well, younger or older.

Msharmony's standard seems about right to me as well, although in my case, it's not because I would worry about my relationship adversely affecting my children. It's because I'm specifically looking for a mate who is a thorough companion on what's left of my life journey, and not minor rest-stop entertainment. No one with dramatically less experience of life is going to be able to fill that specification.

Ms. Harmony,

Good morning beautiful, i was like you. When i was in my early 20's i was so fly i had older women wanted me to date them. As a young adult in his 20's i thought this is an ego booster. While some of my male friends was dating girls in school with us. I was dating mothers, older women. I really didnt know my lane. Now that i matured within time and im 40, i can appreciate an older woman. But too old. Like i said in my early opening, i got to draw the line in the sand. I go 5 yeare maybe 7. 10 if she has a youth spirit. No higher than 10.

IgorFrankensteen,

Welcome back, let me play God's advocate for a minute. On the other hand an older woman is alot better than girls younger. See older women lived. They in a position to teach. Older women do take care of there men only if you show the same care first. Older women ohhhh.....the sex is awesome. Taught me a few tricks. But most importantly older know what & who they want.

Now older negatives:

From what i observe dating a few. Some older women are stuck in there ways rather its positive or negative. Older women sometimes want to date young guys for freakier sex. Older women some may be controlling.

So it really depends on the woman but i think its cool to be with a woman a few years older.

EyeAmYourHost39,

Ladies & Gents. Let me say this is my ideal older woman. Remember in my last post i love a good chase of a mature woman. I live her curves. I love her painted toes to her long to short hairstyle. The perfume she wears. Her sexy lipstick. When she in control it drives me wild. Her touch & caresses melts my heart. I look at how she treats her kids. I look at how she hold it down at her job, how she manages her finances. Older women are far more superior.
Go my older queens

Hey, there was a time I wanted to have "dated" a woman from every decade that was younger than my mother and still legal. It was one of those testosterone-driven things in my early 30s.
For me, there are obvious concerns when you think about growing old together, i.e. if it is to be a long-term or lifelong thing, which these days is my aim when I start a relationship (I at least want to see if it can be that, and if I realise it can't then I'm outta here, because I don't have time to waste with flings). How will I feel when I am retired and my girl is still going out to work for another 20 years. How will she feel? Or how will I feel if I'm 50 and it's time to discuss aged care for my 80+ partner?
But this doesn't mean I can't and don't feel attraction - mentally, emotionally, spiritually, physically - for younger or older. My serious relationships have spanned an age range of +7 to -11, and age was never an issue in any of them. Neither for me nor for her. Both have positive and negative aspects, and really, the maturity and ability to share comes down to the person.

Ms. Harmony,

Hey, good seeing you back in conversation. Yes i can relate, again in my early 20s i stayed with a older girl. I thought a older girl was an ego thing. I was a handsome cat back then. I drove the girls crazy.......why girls back then my age was noticing me. I was more interested in seeing there mothers or older sisters. But now at 40, i know the value of that one good woman. With my standards they way it is today i still only go as far as no higher then 10 years age difference

Pawliago,

I agree with you dealing with an older mate with time goes by I will get older she get older. I don't want to be the want to have out live my girlfriend in that case. even worst have to bury her too.

My closest friend is 66 and his daughter is 7. When he told me his wife was pregnant, I tried to be positive. And the daughter is great... but the mother walked out on him and now he's a single father. And in the last 7 years he has aged a lot. 66 is not old, but he is an old 66. What bothers me, is what happens in 10 years when she wants to bring her first boyfriend home to meet dad, but dad is busy being washed by carers. Sorry, that sounds cynical, but I can see it coming. And she's my goddaughter, so I'm going to be playing the father role in a few years time.
Kind of OT, but related.

Pawliago,

Wow, poor friend. I. Can only imagine the level of awkwardness your friend faces when your ex brings a new lover into the equation when co parenting. His health being an issue, my advice for you. As he explaining his plight continue to hear him out. Give him advice and maybe it will get better, Okay....please continue to voice here.

EyeSmYourHost39

I came up with a older woman & young women hot list.

Older women hotties:

Kris Jenner
Susan Lucci
Diane Carol
Cyndi Crawford
Angelica Houston
Whitney Houston
Michelle Obama
Jackie Kennedy
Just to name a few

Young ladies Sexies:

Megan Goode
Megan Kelly
Salena Gomez
Zoe Kravitz
Rihanna
& many others was well.

The point i was getting at is its beauty in both generations. If you the cougar loving type go for it. If you like me the young girls lover bravo as well.

I must be a cougar b/c my last bf was 20 yrs younger and my last husband was 12 yrs younger.

I went through a dad phase because my dad was the last man who loved me unconditionally outside of my first husband. Once I recognized that lapse as the stimuli that caused my attraction to the older man, it subsided quite a bit.

So I am still 'attracted' to men of all ages, but I would only choose to date those in a certain age range.

LadyLiz1417

Welcome to my cyber home...yeah if you liked a guy 20 years apart yes in this modern world we live in you are considered a cougar. But that's not bad thing at all. You ladies in this world out number the men. In the future and beyond its going to be a rise of older women younger men dating.

Ms. Harmony,

I'm glad you brought that to light. America, sometimes when a child or teen missing that figure male or female, sometimes as they get older they target older men & women to fill a parental void. While others just enjoy the attention.

EyeAmYourHost39,,


Remember Anna Nicole Smith marries that 80 year old guy, maybe she loved him but it look to me she was for his money.

Gosh!