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i am disabled with degenerative disk disease and also degenerative S.I. disease.i walk with a cane and sometimes walk with a walker around my house. it just hurts that men won,t accept me with my disability.i guess it takes a very special man to date and eventualy take care of her. I've had several lower back degenerated discs, including a sacroiliac joint. Went to a reputable (local) neurosurgeon and had them fused. No longer a problem. Living with the vertibrae pinching the root nerves will eventually lead to permenent nerve damage. Have you looked into having them taken care of? |
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it just hurts that men won,t accept me with my disability.i guess it takes a very special man to date and eventualy take care of her. I have courted two disabled women. One a head injury from an accident that maimed her and killed her husband, the other is a double mastectomy survivor of breast cancer. Both women had issues that prevented me from getting close. I tried but it was not possible for me to open their shells. I am disabled. I will never get better than I am right now and tomorrow, may not come. But...I am not hung up about it anymore. I'm willing to work with any limitations as long as they don't have a personal issue dealing with their own disability. I expect them to understand my limitations too. As a man with a disability, it is very difficult to find a woman that can deal with my limitations. Hear Hear! I can so relate. Only being 54 and have DDD (3 blown discs), DJD (every joint in the body is going buhbye), legally blind, had a stroke yadda yadda, but by golly if I give up now might as well just be done. I can live alone, I got all the time in the world to do what I can... financially, well, that's a different matter, but money isn't everything. |
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i am disabled with degenerative disk disease and also degenerative S.I. disease.i walk with a cane and sometimes walk with a walker around my house. it just hurts that men won,t accept me with my disability.i guess it takes a very special man to date and eventualy take care of her. Sorry to hear this. Men won't date me because of my looks or my age. I feel your pain but there are few men and women for that matter that won't judge a book by its cover. My friends ask why I stay single and I explain that if I can't be accepted for who I am; why even try? All we can do is live out our lives and see that there is so much to enjoy in life and we need not be coupled up to feel complete. Don't know what the male's problem is. I'm sure you will find a beautiful man perfect for you. |
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Edited by
Valeris
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Wed 09/13/17 01:23 PM
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i am disabled with degenerative disk disease and also degenerative S.I. disease.i walk with a cane and sometimes walk with a walker around my house. it just hurts that men won,t accept me with my disability.i guess it takes a very special man to date and eventualy take care of her. Having suffered a serious stroke at the end of 2016;I can tell you that I am much more "Disabled" than you describe yourself to be;} The left-side of my body was almost completely paralyzed & even now, almost one year later, I still move like Quasimodo on a bad day with the utmost of efforts as well I might add. But, at least I move, right? *grins* Now, I'm going say that I think your post is kind of "ballsy", not fair[to the fellows-you have addressed in your post], whiny, & not based in reality. Before my stroke, I would never have thought to seek out those individuals who seemed to have more problems than I had. * "Never play cards with a man called Doc. Never eat at a place called Mom's. Never sleep with a woman[man] whose troubles are worse than your own." Nelson Algren (1909 – 1981)American writer. * Sound advice from someone who had been around the block a few times. I would not expect nor would I even think of soliciting romantic[sic] attention from any individual on a site that wasn't set-up or dedicated to those who faced many of the same life challenges that I do on a daily basis. Some folks on here have given you the same wise advice in regard to joining those sites dedicated to disabled peoples if you're interested in finding an intimate relationship. At this point in my life, I am still seeking answers in regard to all the available treatment options that might further restore some of the physical functions that have been compromised. I seek nothing here[ or anywhere] but friendship as any other type of personal attention would not be comfortable at this time. Blessings, Good luck, & Best wishes to you. PS : In reading over your profile, it seems that you define yourself in terms of A Disability as opposed to just being an Individual who in addition to having many other qualities,happen to possess a troublesome & quirky physical dysfunction. "Everybody's got or is gonna get Something"... it's the nature of a mortal body. |
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I met and married a lady from meetme who was disabled. Unfortunately she couldn't cope with her illness so our marriage only lasted a year. I thought I'd found the woman of my dreams. It was the first time I had married and it will be the last. I'm 54 now and I don't think anyone would want someone my age
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I met and married a lady from meetme who was disabled. Unfortunately she couldn't cope with her illness so our marriage only lasted a year. I thought I'd found the woman of my dreams. It was the first time I had married and it will be the last. I'm 54 now and I don't think anyone would want someone my age I beg to differ on your last line my friend. I am older than you and I know there is a special lady out there somewhere. And I care not if that lady is disabled or partially disabled. A guy cannot control his feelings to only accept someone who is free of any physical defects. His mind can see any physical disadvantages but his heart cannot. The heart is in control but if his mind cannot accept the woman for who she is, then she deserves better than his one dimensional thinking.  for ALL ladies...
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im also disabled
and i have been on kidney dialyis now 11yre it bothers me when people including men say im sorry dont be sorry and dont pity me im just like anyone else a human with a heart i had a heart valve replacement 11yrs ago as to find out it was a birthdefect that doesnt show up untill your early 40s 7 days after i had my surgery they put in a pacemaker and then i learned at the same time i also have another birhdefect called lawerence beild moon syndrome where it effects each person in a differnt way but it does cause issue with the kidneys i have been in and out of the hospital sense april of this year i was diagnosed with c-deff in september again in april along with mrsa how did i get that... who knows but any how i have more health issue i had water intention in my stomach sense april and nothing was done untill the other day.. they estracted 4/2litters which was 10lbs of water... crazy so now i have to get appt with the vascular doc to get my dialyis arm fixed and a tooth needs to be pulled before i have two important surgies i have a infection in my heart valve and my pacemaker and yes im staying positive if a man cant accept you for who you are then thats there problem |
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A healthy person wants and deserves a healthy partner in a first time meeting. Heck jade, I don't know if I've ever been truly "healthy" j/s I've actually been legally blind all my life. It's not a biggie and no one would know any different. It's how two people communicate together, has some things in common, but enough difference's that you don't feel you're dating, or engaged, or married to yourself. I found that out myself. Just my drop in bucket. 
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my daughter dad
was half blind but the state declard him to be legally blind i never had a problem with that we just had our issue and i walk away there was a guy i was with for a few months it turned out that i went to high school with his younger sister...LOL he was a sweet heart, i only wish i knew him way before he was in a semi truck accedent where it left him disable i didnt have a problem with that the problem i had was he couldnt emotionally support himself nor me i still talk to him every so often and his older sister its kinda funny his daughter used to work where my mom worked and she knew her |
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i am disabled with degenerative disk disease and also degenerative S.I. disease.i walk with a cane and sometimes walk with a walker around my house. it just hurts that men won,t accept me with my disability.i guess it takes a very special man to date and eventualy take care of her. Having suffered a serious stroke at the end of 2016;I can tell you that I am much more "Disabled" than you describe yourself to be;} The left-side of my body was almost completely paralyzed & even now, almost one year later, I still move like Quasimodo on a bad day with the utmost of efforts as well I might add. But, at least I move, right? *grins* Now, I'm going say that I think your post is kind of "ballsy", not fair[to the fellows-you have addressed in your post], whiny, & not based in reality. Before my stroke, I would never have thought to seek out those individuals who seemed to have more problems than I had. * "Never play cards with a man called Doc. Never eat at a place called Mom's. Never sleep with a woman[man] whose troubles are worse than your own." Nelson Algren (1909 – 1981)American writer. * Sound advice from someone who had been around the block a few times. I would not expect nor would I even think of soliciting romantic[sic] attention from any individual on a site that wasn't set-up or dedicated to those who faced many of the same life challenges that I do on a daily basis. Some folks on here have given you the same wise advice in regard to joining those sites dedicated to disabled peoples if you're interested in finding an intimate relationship. At this point in my life, I am still seeking answers in regard to all the available treatment options that might further restore some of the physical functions that have been compromised. I seek nothing here[ or anywhere] but friendship as any other type of personal attention would not be comfortable at this time. Blessings, Good luck, & Best wishes to you. PS : In reading over your profile, it seems that you define yourself in terms of A Disability as opposed to just being an Individual who in addition to having many other qualities,happen to possess a troublesome & quirky physical dysfunction. "Everybody's got or is gonna get Something"... it's the nature of a mortal body. I always did like your posts. This one is no different, positive to say the least. I wish you a speedy recovery and I hope you post more. 
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I have bi-polar disorder and receive disability and live with family for some guys it seems to be a turn off but there might be the one that doesn"t mind, I am on medication but I live a healthy and normal life just like everyone else you can"t judge a book by it"s it"s always best to get to know the person first if he loves you he wont care of your disability question is your love true? |
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show me a disabled woman ready for love and i will show you a million guys ready to be there.
personally it doesnt matter to me as long as i love her! |
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Dealing with rejection is never easy
Generally men are rejected more than women as the men are generally the ones doing the chasing while the woman do the picking and choosing. Such as life. Now deal with it. |
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I love this.
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