Good evening my lovely mingle2 family, shout out my fellow Europeans out there. My Czech's, my Germans...heeeyy Deutschland in the house!. My Ukrainians, French & British comrades. Okay, let's get right into this. Normally I do my political " Hot Tea Topics", but tonight I feel like leaving my comfort zone and post a gem in the dating room. Ladies, what do I mean when I headlined this topic about having the cure for your love wellness? Well, speaking on myself I recently had a nice talk with a good female friend & she asked me " Corey, what do men really want? I mean why is it so hard to find a great guy?" then she added the usual examples on how we either locked up, turn to men, token by good women, or the ones they chasing think they hot stuff and cocky, not taking you too serious! Well, I may have some friendly suggestions on a cure for that. Ladies, I want you to realize men today are " The New Women". We want the same as what you want, some guys like myself will express it thru action and communication. Other men egos are bigger than there heads( I let you pick which one...lol). Okay, Mingle tell me if you agree with me. lets talk about what makes you happen? Why is it harder for some & not so hard for others? Is wanting a awesome person in your life is asking too much? Are you willing to empower yourself to make changes in your dating life to make happiness a reality? Okay, now's its your turn to talk. Can't wait to hear from you all.

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EyeAmYourHost39

EyeAmYourHost39,

Ladies, let me help you out okay, Good guys are still in the world believe me I'm a by product of being one, but I'm not the issue here....lol. Well for start, you have to change your perception of a fairytale type chivalry. I mean, its a new day in age so you have to take old school courting and bump it up a notch. First tell yourself, is it me? is my expectations are way too high? Do I have a man wish list that he has to past? Eliminate that kind of thinking. Be honest with yourself. With a guy or girl of your liking. Make great conversation, share interest. Have a opinion with villianizing those who don't think your way. If it don't work out take the experience and use it for fuel to be better and not be biter. Now, your heart telling you he's a creep, jump ship, get out , don't lower standards to just for face value.

EyeAmYourHost39,

Another thing, Fellas this goes out to you now, leave the swag at the front door. Like women we are the new women now! Men are emotional too. Men don't want there feelings hurt either! Men don't want to be lied to & cheated on either. Guys, trust me on this, I want you to be a man, play your position but stop being " Chatty Patty" on social media or to each other & tell her how you feel without game. Like women, if she's " Hood Boooger" than leave her to her thoughts.

Im not sure if this is only a topic for the guys

and I am no expert obviously because Im single

but,,, to this day, my first husband and I love each other dearly, and probably will not find a love that matches what we once had and I think the simplest explanation is that, at the time, we focused more on how wonderful we could be to the other person, instead of how good they made us feel

there is something about focusing on what we have power over, instead of focusing on actions that are not in our control, and in feeling the warmth and security of knowing our feelings are a priority to our partner,

and I believe, if both parties simply focus on each other that way instead of on self,,, relationships would be more successful, fewer would notice or care about all the other 'options' that may be available


just a thought

btw, our relationship came to an end when one of us started to change their focus to themselves and their other options ...

I thought about your views. You know a straight woman does not need another "new woman" in her life yes some of us are still looking for the masculine chivalry man. The one who would understand and accommodate. Who will care and be kind, empower and appreciate her presence in his life. A man who would be happy with the love of a female woman. Maybe because of all the new women around us we became the new men! Independent hard feelings self sufficient know our own values and will not lower our standards to be just in a high maintenance relation? I think this what happened to me personally. I think men need to return to being men so women could be themselves again.