if your waiting for him to change don't hold your breath.

Thanks for your advice, Jayme. Maybe you're right. Maybe I'm just starting to feel this way because I'm leaving soon and things are changing. He is around my age..he's 21 and he's graduating college this year. It's kind of weird because I'm not sure if he even considers me a friend...We met at a frat party..yes, he's a frat boy. I never hang out with him and his friends and he never hangs out with mine. I have no idea where I stand with him. Maybe that's why I want to tell him how I feel...to at least try and figure out what I mean to him.

wait... arent' you the girl who recently asked how guys feel about girls who wait? And he knows this and has tried to hook up with you? HMMM... Hate to sound crude, you know him better than I so I may be wrong, but he may just be trying to deflower you. You'd be suprised how long they'll 'wait' and then turn on you once they get it...

One guy I was seeing for a while before I signed up for JSH, I made him wait for like 6 months and once we finally 'did it' he dumped me. I know its not b/c I'm bad at it...lol, its because some men are just like that...

EEEEK! Frat boy? Oh sh!t honey, high tail it outta there! Frat boys are ALL the same, I've never hooked up w/ one b/c I actually used to be friends with a few before they became frat boys. Something about the frat mentality that turns men into major horn dogs for the next 10 years of their life. I've met frat boys and they all had the same sleezy mentality. He's trying to sleep with you, bottom line.

Yeah, that was me who made that post. I'm not sure if he knows how I feel about the topic...We've never directly talked about it. I never flat out told him that I'm a virgin and I'm planning to wait, but I think that I sort of implied it by other things I've said. I'm sure he knows that I'm not easy like most girls he knows. I hope he's not just sticking around to try and deflower me. Maybe it is better that I'm leaving. I'm really sorry to hear that jerk dumped you after waiting for you that long. I know there are guys out there like that, but I know there are lots of good guys out there too.

going by your last few posts ........if He knows You are in fact a virgin then that's exactly what he hanging around waiting to do. Don't wind up another notch in his bed post.

You guys only hang out at HIS place around HIS bed where he's banged so many other girls? Its possible he's seeing if he can get you to sleep w/ him before you leave... He KNOWS you're leaving, so if he can get it he knows there's no commitment b/c of the fact. Stick to your guns honey, I smell a dog.

So to answer the question of what will he say: "I love you so much, blah blah blah, I want to make 'love' to you" A guy like that will tell you whatever he thinks you want to hear to get what they want. Just don't do that to yourself, its not worth it.

Thanks for the heads up. I'll try to be even more wary next time I hang out with him. I think subconsciously I'm nervous to kiss him because I'm afraid he'll expect more once it gets to that. However, he does seem different from the typical frat boy. He's very intelligent. I went to a different university last year and lived in the dorms and all of the frat boys were the and most would get really upset when I didn't hook up with them. He's really different though...he doesnt seem to mind at all and he's very patient. But maybe you're right, maybe it is just part of his game.

Baby girl, let me tell you like this: He's not a good guy, he's just smooth. I'm sure he is intelligent, but intelligence only goes so far. You already said you don't want to date him, and I think he will tell you whatever he thinks you want to hear to get what he wants. Of course he's being patient. Not to be vulgar, but most guys that age will do whatever it takes to get the virgin p*$$y. Trust me, its probably in your best interest to not even hang out with him alone next time, or at all for that matter. IF you want to hang with him, why dont' you ask him if you guys can go do something this time? See what he says about that. If he has a problem with you guys NOT being alone, then you'll know what he's after.

So you think if i tell him how I feel, he'll lie about his feelings just to sleep with me? I know a lot of guys are like that, I think I just dont want to believe that he's one of them. Im not concerned about hanging out with him alone, I've done it all these other times and nothing ever got out of hand, I trust him not to take advantage of me. However, I am kind of curious to see if he'd be willing to hang out with me in a different setting...because I think that would tell me whether he really respected me or not. I know he hasn't taken a girl out on a date for about 4 years, I dont want to make things awkward, but maybe I can just suggest something really platonic. Any ideas?

Just try calling him up and going "I'm bored, wanna go play pool or something this weekend?"