Topic: Feeling jaded
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Sun 09/20/20 12:03 PM
Edited by Smarter than you on Sun 09/20/20 12:08 PM

Been single for a while and looking for love, friends first. Seems women my age ( hate to generalize ) are looking for a man to compliment their lives, like a new lamp or bracelet or something. I wonder who is the fairer sex?
I dated someone for 9 years we talked a lot about moving in together even buying a motor home to tour the mainland in out retirement. I worked my but off fixing up her house getting it ready to rent so she would have income and I live bill free we would live in my house.
I made so many compromises through the years and she was set in stone. None of us needs another to complete them. I feel in a relationship it’s not the quest for other half we seek after all half times half equals one forth. I feel you need to be a complete person to truly love.... one times one equals one.... that’s what I seek to be one.... not saying loose our individuality but to grow together. After all if you’re not growing you’re dying.
I almost feel these dating sites are designed to find reasons not to get together when we all seek to get together.
So I ask all... men and women.... what do you! Want? If your life is “perfect as it is” or you are “ happy being alone” why do we post here?
I don’t know about anyone else but I don’t “need” anyone. If I want. Sex I can get, activity partner? Got it covered. I take care of myself don’t need money. And I like my own company.
So we should all be honest if you need a handy man hire one, if you don’t have an activity partner, what wrong with you? That’s what a friend is.
Be kind and be honest, want don’t need, share and keep an open mind. And remember “ if you take time to judge.... you have no time to love” Aloha to all