Topic: Some help ?
Nightsnack's photo
Sat 12/29/07 01:26 PM
My ex just ask me that she wants to see what's out there as in looking for "Man" and i said why ... to see what's out there for me and i said well is there something that i am not doing that ur thinking to look i do everthing that a man can do i work i love my baby girl that we have and i love her as if i seen her the day i mat her like that....


It's hard to think that she's going to have sex with someone
She says it's not like that but now days how thing's are man and woman just look for sex and out u go i dont want to see her hunrt or my baby she's 3 now and her seening man in the home u know it's hard for me what can i say to her ? i suck at typeing to ......lolohwell







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She says she dont care if i have sex with someone but i am not like that at all i'm not just going out there and look for a girl for sex i like to have someone that love's me for me and move on like that ....



idk help ?sad ohwell

MirrorMirror's photo
Sat 12/29/07 01:32 PM
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Lakeman's photo
Sat 12/29/07 01:35 PM
The grass always looks greener on the other side of the fence. She may just have the 7-year itch! People think they are missing out on something being tied to one person. They feel life is passing her by. Think up something unusual to do with her. Check the travel agencies for a romantic getaway and go with her. Leave the baby with the relatives. This way she may miss the child as well as get your romance on track. Call her up during the day and just say...I was just thinking about you and wanted to hear your voice.drinker

Nightsnack's photo
Sat 12/29/07 01:48 PM
thx's Lakeman
I'll try that i been trying for 2 Yr now to make it work but it's hard when "None" likes me when she is at she can't move b/c of my baby going to school but i think i will do the getaway i do think she thinks that she is missing in alot
i told her that ppl think they are missing in alot that when it's there but she is not she did mat man but no good at all good thing she didnt have sex just as friends but he just about got her kill "><" we'll see where gods lead us i hop in a good way

no photo
Sat 12/29/07 02:02 PM
You BOTH need to seek out professional help, counseling.

Before THINGS happen that will seperate you BOTH for life...

If you BOTH LOVE each other you can MAKE YOUR SELVES work..

But their MUST be ISSUES that you both are not sharing?

Your children are beautiful and THEY NEED you BOTH to be in their LIVES...

Im sure you both will do that even if ya split....but ??????

It CAN NEVER BE AS GOOD TO THEM,,, As with you BOTH TOGETHER IN LOVE...

She has to have an idea on WHY she WANTS to LOOK ELSE WHERE,

At a man....

And to SAY IT or to TELL you of HER intentions,,,might just be HER TRYING TO GET,,,,,,,YOU to ASK HER WHY,,,or to LET YOU know that SHE has some PROBLEMS with BEING with YOU??

No-one IN-LOVE with THE OTHER, would WANT TO go out on them , unless their was some conditions that cause that to happen, but if YOUR BOTH healthy, then THAT shouldn't be one of the issues....:heart:

If you want to talk off line just email me man,,,,I have BEEN where YOU are.....:cry: :heart: smokin

Lakeman's photo
Sat 12/29/07 02:04 PM
Look up the super-saver flights on the web or at a travel agency and look for discount flights. You would be surprised what locations come up real cheap at certain times of the year.

Even a movie works at times....there is a need for them just to go SOMEWHERE. It's hard for us guys to do that because we work all week and then just want to chill all weekend. We need the recharge time so...find a re-charge spot that will give her a different surrounding...something for her to look forward to.
If she like wine...go to a winery and taste some wine while getting a tour of the place.

no photo
Sat 12/29/07 03:00 PM
One of life's worst lessons (and most important to know) is that we can't make anyone love us. If they choose to move on, we have to as well.

Nightsnack's photo
Sat 12/29/07 03:48 PM
She loves me but everone that is with her is just telling her to quit on me and just look for a guy when noone is with us we are happy but like her mom and al that she dont like me at all i tryed to tell her to move out where there is noone that can tell us what to do but she says no b/c of the baby going to school

irisheyesinKy's photo
Sat 12/29/07 03:53 PM
First of all you had a relationship and share a child.And it looks like she has given up on you,so why hang on to something that is good as gone.You say she wants to see whats out there,give her wings and let her fly.And get yourself together and find one who deserves you.

Nightsnack's photo
Sat 12/29/07 03:55 PM
Hard to do then say "><"

irisheyesinKy's photo
Sat 12/29/07 03:57 PM
Maybe so,but you have to think about the child and having all this negative attitude cannot be good for her.

thunderbear1967's photo
Sat 12/29/07 04:01 PM
if it helps i went through the same thing, and i know the guy she is with now, she talked of getting back together and we would still be friends and talk every day that happened for a month and now every once in a while i hear from her.

What worked for me, I first of all stopped thinking of me, I want her to be happy and if who she is with makes her happy then that is good this allowed me to stop hurting as much and has allowed me to do the things i want. I do and will always love her, But as the song goes I aint her cowboy anymore. And remember you never stop loving somebody you just start loving somebody else

Nightsnack's photo
Sat 12/29/07 04:06 PM
thunderbear1967
k u just make me cry now but a man need's to do what a good man do and let her go "`><`"
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well have a long talk with her

thunderbear1967's photo
Sat 12/29/07 04:10 PM
just keep you little one in your life. and pay attention to those brought into her life. find your place i found mine i have my music, and i see how people react to it, It is my place without pain, find yours bro, this is just one chapter in your life, the next one will be better.

Respect

Thunder Bear

MicheleNC's photo
Sat 12/29/07 06:17 PM
Nightsnack, I'm confused. You referred to her as your 'ex' in the first post.

Are you offically broken up? If this is so, you are both free to see others.

You will always be in each other's lives since you share a child.

If she is done with the relationship (no matter who put the idea in her head), let her go and get on with you life. Easier said than done, but let life take it's course.

flowerforyou M