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Topic: HELP!! I NEED SOME ADVICE!!
paterafan's photo
Sat 08/26/06 10:23 AM
I HAVE A 9 YEAR OLD SON JOE,HE IS MY BABY,WELL SINCE HE WAS 2 HIS FATHER
HAS BEEN MAKING ME JUMP THROUGH HOOPS TO HAVE ANY TIME WITH HIM,AND WE
SPENT 6 YEARS OF THIS TIME IN FAMILY COURT,WELL FOR THE PAST YEAR COURT
HASNT BEEN A ISSUE,BUT NOW JUST WHEN THINGS WERE GOING GOOD,HE MOVES OUT
OF STATE WITH MY KID,AND TELLS ME I DONT KNOW WHEN YOU GET TO SEE HIM,IM
SO HEARTBROKEN SOMEBODY PLEASE GIVE ME SOME ADVICE!!! JENN

lionsbrew's photo
Sat 08/26/06 10:25 AM
find a good lawyer ....and dont give up

paterafan's photo
Sat 08/26/06 10:28 AM
IM ON DISABILITY WITH A HEART PROBLEM ,IHAVE ENOUGH MONEY TO TAKE CARE
OF MY KIDS BUT NOT FOR A LAWYER,AND HE KNOWS THIS

countryboy4u's photo
Sat 08/26/06 10:28 AM
pray and keep your head up kid .ill pray 4 u 2

countryboy4u's photo
Sat 08/26/06 10:30 AM
there are free legal advice/services out there look into it .

paterafan's photo
Sat 08/26/06 10:31 AM
GOD IM DYING INSIDE WITHOUT MY CHILD

lionsbrew's photo
Sat 08/26/06 10:38 AM
keep your head up girl call legel aide or domestic relations and see if
they might atleast know were you can find help because unless you gave
up your rights to the child he has to let you see your kid .

countryboy4u's photo
Sat 08/26/06 10:44 AM
DONT GIVE UP , MANY OF US HERE ARE PULLING 4 U .GOOD ALWAYS WINS IN THE
END STAY STRONG!!!

paterafan's photo
Sat 08/26/06 10:46 AM
WELL IM SITTING HERE ENDLESS TEARS FOR MY SON,IVE TAKEN SO MUCH FOR SO
LONG..NO MORE IM HEADED DOWN TO THE LAW CLINIC AND GOING FULL FORCE THIS
TIME,I HAVE ALOT TO BACK ME THIS TIME THAT WOULD HELP ME,HE GOT MY SON
BEFORE BY USING MY TOUGH LIVING SITUATION AGAINST ME BUT IM STABLE IN
THE SAME PLACE NOW FOR 4 YEARS,ITS TIME TO GET MY SON BACK

no photo
Sat 08/26/06 10:48 AM
Is there a free legal service near you? They may be able to help you
with minimal costs. Good luck...

paterafan's photo
Sat 08/26/06 10:55 AM
OH YEAH 100% FREE,IN FACT THEY KNOW ME BY FIRST NAME DOWN THERE,ITS JUST
THE COURT PROCESS IS VERY LONG AND FRUSTRATING TO DEAL WITH IF YOUVE
EVER BEEN IN MY SITUATION,NOT A JOY BY ANY MEANS.IN FACT I HATE IT,BUT
THIS TIME IM GONNA WIN

no photo
Sat 08/26/06 10:59 AM
That's great. Continue to think positively. I'm sure it will work out
in the end.

lionsbrew's photo
Sat 08/26/06 11:00 AM
good for you ...thats the attitude you need cant say i know how you feel
my ex and i are the same page at least that we both want whats best for
our son and she knows id move heaven and earth for my son

greeneyedlady42's photo
Sat 08/26/06 11:56 AM
I went thru the same thing hon, I am so sorry you are going thru this.
My suggestion is contact a local church -Many churches have access to
lawyers who will take on your case "pro bono". When you win for him
taking your child across state lines-Have one of the stipluations be
that HE pay your legal fees. Some lawyers even offer free consultations
so you are not out of options dear. It is very hard I know but dont
panic-Your kids need you to keep a calm head about you and dont let
their father think he has the best of you. He's used to seeing you jump
when he says jump-take that out of his hands and
stand strong.He gains strength from seeing you weak -dont let him do it
any more.It will not be easy but well worth it.
Im living proof my ..kids came to live with me and then the shoe was on
the other foot.But I was not mean and I let my kids see
that It was not me being the impossible on to deal with.Now they are
gorwn and they cant get enuf of their mom.

paterafan's photo
Sat 08/26/06 12:10 PM
THANK YOU,YEAH IT AINT EASY,HIS FATHER HAS ALWAYS THOUGH MY SON WAS MORE
HIS THAN MINE,WELL ITS TIME FOR HIM TO BE THE WEEKEND PARENT....

noster's photo
Sat 08/26/06 03:20 PM
have You ever thought about going to cops?
report kidnapping?
after all, You are the mother (with legal rights, I presume).

ImJusKat58's photo
Sat 08/26/06 05:28 PM
Right off the bat, I need to put up a disclaimer:

"Laws and rights vary from state to state"; and
"I am NOT an Attorney".

That being said, I do work for a great firm with nine attorneys on
board; 4 are Partners and 5 are Associates. Almost every Family Law
attorney in this area charges a minimal consultation fee (my attorneys
charge $80).

I would suggest that you contact the original attorney who represented
you in your Custody procedure as he/she knows the facts of your
particular case. If they have any heart at all, they'll let you make
payments for their services while negotiating with your child father for
reasonable visitation and/or custody.

I know this isn't much to offer you, but it's based on my personal
knowledge anyway. Best of luck, Girlie ~ you're in my prayers, as is
your son (for his well being) and his father (for temperance and logic).

XOXO
Kat

SteveJarvis's photo
Sat 08/26/06 07:20 PM
Your Ex sounds like a douchebag. Did you ever do anything to make him
want to do this?

moomoo64's photo
Sat 08/26/06 07:50 PM
keep your head up contact every church or organizations and see if they
can help u. maybe u good do something for someone in the church and they
could help u with money. Show him who the boss is when it comes to your
son. Kids can not be replaced men can.

scouter007007's photo
Sat 08/26/06 11:14 PM
Get on line and find out how to file asap. Contact the sheriff, county
court house for advice also. I don't no the laws of CA, but this sort
of stuff usually has laws to prevent this behaivor on his part. Go get
him, and don't stop for nothing. Just use the law ok. Michel

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