Topic: How my latest one ended
blamzino's photo
Thu 03/06/08 08:31 PM
Everything was cool until this:

I went back to college on top of working full time so I don't get to see my girlfriend (of 14 months) as much anymore...so she ended it a few days ago and wants me to promise to call her when I'm done with school, so she can see how I'm doing.

So I guess my advice is: DON'T EXPECT SOMEONE TO STICK AROUND WHEN YOU ARE TRYING TO BETTER YOURSELF, CUZ THEY MIGHT NOT BE ABLE TO HANDLE IT

MirrorMirror's photo
Thu 03/06/08 08:32 PM
noway OUCHnoway

harley46's photo
Thu 03/06/08 08:33 PM
Sorry to hear that!noway

azrae1l's photo
Thu 03/06/08 08:33 PM
well at least for free to take the drunk girl home from the frat parties now.

think positively....

hikerchick's photo
Thu 03/06/08 08:34 PM
Maybe she just got tired of being alone. I assume she is young?

blamzino's photo
Thu 03/06/08 08:39 PM

Maybe she just got tired of being alone. I assume she is young?


I'll be 30 at the end of this month and she just turned 25 in december...our social views are different too I think...she needs people and to go out, where I am more close circle/self reliant and homebodied I guess

hikerchick's photo
Thu 03/06/08 08:45 PM


Maybe she just got tired of being alone. I assume she is young?


I'll be 30 at the end of this month and she just turned 25 in december...our social views are different too I think...she needs people and to go out, where I am more close circle/self reliant and homebodied I guess


yeah, I see. I would try not to take it too personally or blame her too much. She is a young extrovert and needs to be out among people her own age. She was probably dying of lonliness.

blamzino's photo
Thu 03/06/08 08:53 PM
I just wish she could see the "big picture" of what I was trying to do instead of looking at what she is missing out in the present...if that makes any sense. I just get tired of opening up to people and starting over again...it just sucks...and I still want her too...which sucks even more

and thanks for reading my sh%t...it helps me out just to type about this sh%t...for real

danni08032006's photo
Thu 03/06/08 08:53 PM
i guess the only thing i could say here is try to find someone a little more like you. people with differences that big usually don't work out.....or at least mine didn't.

hikerchick's photo
Thu 03/06/08 08:55 PM

I just wish she could see the "big picture" of what I was trying to do instead of looking at what she is missing out in the present...if that makes any sense. I just get tired of opening up to people and starting over again...it just sucks...and I still want her too...which sucks even more

and thanks for reading my sh%t...it helps me out just to type about this sh%t...for real


It hurts when things end, for all of us. Usually the reason that people end up hurting each other is because they are simply trying to get their needs met. Often, our needs conflict and someone gets hurt.

She may change her mind later, if this is meant to be.

danni08032006's photo
Thu 03/06/08 08:59 PM
sweetie there really aren't alot of people who do look at the "big picture" no matter how many of them say they do.....alot of them aren't. it takes more compromise to do that, and try to stick through everything with someone than it does to just throw it away, and if they can't try to see the big picture now, it isn't something you want anyway.

just my opinion

lynn83's photo
Thu 03/06/08 09:06 PM

Everything was cool until this:

I went back to college on top of working full time so I don't get to see my girlfriend (of 14 months) as much anymore...so she ended it a few days ago and wants me to promise to call her when I'm done with school, so she can see how I'm doing.

So I guess my advice is: DON'T EXPECT SOMEONE TO STICK AROUND WHEN YOU ARE TRYING TO BETTER YOURSELF, CUZ THEY MIGHT NOT BE ABLE TO HANDLE IT


Yeah that happens to me too. I work and study both full time and alot of guys just can't handle it. ohwell

no photo
Fri 03/07/08 08:56 AM
You were too busy for her, whether you went back to school or better yourself........dont blame other people and accept the fact that you both contributed to this.flowerforyou I take full responsibility for being single. I work too much, I work stupid hours.....for me to expect anyone to rearrange their schedule would be silly of me.noway

blamzino's photo
Fri 03/07/08 04:01 PM

You were too busy for her, whether you went back to school or better yourself........dont blame other people and accept the fact that you both contributed to this.flowerforyou I take full responsibility for being single. I work too much, I work stupid hours.....for me to expect anyone to rearrange their schedule would be silly of me.noway


I agree with that. I have talked with her about this too...its still upsetting to me though...and I know I will get thru it...time will heal everything...I just feel like I'm going thru detox over it right now.sick