Been on dating sites a while, basically I'm looking for daytime fun and nothing more, at least I'm honest about it lol

Woohoo!!! Another cynic!!! lol

Love grows and changes.

The heady emotional brew that brings couples together in the first place is very different from the love that emerges five or fifteen years down the road. Love relationships go through three stages. All are important and none can be circumvented if love is to flourish.
Following are the different phases through which you will travel in your love life and only those who pass it will have an endless love.

Stage 1: LUST
Lust is driven by the sex hormones testosterone and estrogen. Testosterone is not confined only to men. It has also been shown to play a major role in the sex drive of women. These hormones as Helen Fisher says “get you out looking for anything”.

Stage 2: ATTRACTION
This is the truly love-struck phase. When people fall in love they can think of nothing else. They might even lose their appetite and need less sleep, preferring to spend hours at a time daydreaming about their new lover. Attraction can be defined as something, which is more than friendship and is a step towards getting ready for a relationship. Now attraction is of two types:
a. Physical Attraction - happens when your body reacts to another person. Heart rate increases; temperature rises, palms get sweaty; stomach flutters; throat tightens; etc. This is what will tell you that you are ready for the first contact and also whether you are comfortable in the company of the other person.
b. Emotional Attraction - develops next if the circumstances are right. After being drawn to a person physically, you then begin to come closer. If you find you have things in common — hobbies, ideologies, career, education, or some other common ground — then an emotional attraction starts to form. Sometimes an emotional attraction can occur even when a physical attraction does not. And in this case, the bond will be stronger between the two who connect, since no preconceived notions based on physical appearance has occurred. In the attraction stage, a group of neuro-transmitters called ‘monoamines’ play an important role:

Dopamine - Also activated by cocaine and nicotine

Norepinephrine - Otherwise known as adrenalin. Starts us sweating and gets the heart racing

Serotonin - One of love’s most important chemicals and one that may actually send us temporarily insane

Stage 3: ATTACHMENT
This is what takes over after the attraction stage, if a relationship is going to last. People couldn't’t possibly stay in the attraction stage forever, otherwise they’d never get any work done!
Attachment is a longer lasting commitment and is the bond that keeps couples together when they go on to have children. Important in this stage are two hormones released by the nervous system, which are thought to play a role in social attachments:

Oxytocin - This is released by the hypothalamus gland during child birth and also helps the breast express milk. It helps cement the strong bond between mother and child. It is also released by both sexes during orgasm and it is thought that it promotes bonding when adults are intimate. The theory goes that the more sex a couple has, the deeper their bond becomes

Vasopressin - Another important chemical in the long-term commitment stage.

Important Notes:





A relationship cannot remain in the infatuation stage indefinitely. The ebbing of romantic love should not be construed as a signal that you are in the wrong relationship or have a serious problem. Romantic love is not mature love.




Dissatisfaction occurs in a relationship when the infatuation wears off and disillusionment sets in. You and your partner are now ready to blend personalities and learn to live together in true partnership. Areas of friction indicate problems that need to be solved.




You can only change yourself in a relationship. Changing your partner must never be the goal. Put your focus where you have control: on yourself, your behavior, and your communication patterns. Healing your past, building self-esteem, dealing with feelings, and speaking from your own experience will eventually impact your partner, creating new patterns of relating.




Conflict is inevitable. Whenever two people get together, eventually some of the belief systems and personal habits of one will annoy the other, regardless of how much love there is. In healthy relationships couples learn how to resolve conflict.




Confrontation is normal and healthy. The sooner you bring up issues when you feel hurt, taken advantage of, irritated, misunderstood, or ignored, the better for the relationship. Suppressing them keeps you a victim and only leads to hostility and feelings of separateness.




Good communication tools can help you and your partner to solve problems, resolve conflicts and process emotional upsets. With good communication, you can almost always navigate your way to a more fulfilling relationship.

Thank you for your heart felt response. You touched my heart and soul that is for sure. I will never forget the things that are important in my life because of the impression your life made on mine.

Jimmy

Does the experience of lifes ups and downs matter.
When a woman loves a man ?

You will wake up tomorrow (correction, today in the morning) and ________________ (fill in the line)