Topic: Single Parent attempting to date
amber030583's photo
Sun 07/06/08 06:57 PM
So I am a single mom to a hyper two year old boy. My previous relationship was with the father which I had to end because it was never going to work. We were together for 4+ years and for about a year and half of it (scattered durations) he was in either jail or prison. Just so you know I am not that type of girl went to school/college and I guess I just was not thinking. The only good thing that came from it was my precious little boy.

So needless to say I have never dated with a kid. I am very shy and I am just at a lost. Before I met my ex I really didnt date so I am not only rusty but not experienced. I would appreciate any help anyone can give to me.

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Sun 07/06/08 07:00 PM
Just be yourself and if they can't accept your child, thay aren't worth the trouble...good luckbigsmile flowerforyou

kerbear73's photo
Sun 07/06/08 07:00 PM
take it one day at a time....

MAKE_ME_GIGGLE's photo
Sun 07/06/08 07:03 PM
I kept my son and dating seperate for a long time.. he was little and impressionable and didnt want him exposed to alot of men.... so he wasnt

stardust50's photo
Sun 07/06/08 07:08 PM
Been on one date since the birth of my daughter that was 9 years ago but if I ever do venture out again I would not bring my daughter around the preson I am dating at lease for awhile.

beachbum069's photo
Sun 07/06/08 07:12 PM
You don't want to introduce your kid on the 1st-5th date. You never know if it's going to last and at that age they are very impressionable.
My son is 12 and he now thinks I'm a stud with all the women I talk to. Unfortunately they're all online.

amber030583's photo
Sun 07/06/08 07:15 PM

I kept my son and dating seperate for a long time.. he was little and impressionable and didnt want him exposed to alot of men.... so he wasnt

See that is what I would like to do however I have no one that can watch my son. I guess I should have mentioned that. My exes mom does watch him for me sometimes however I would feel bad having her watch him so I can go on a date. Does that make any sense?

chuck35's photo
Sun 07/06/08 07:26 PM
what kid isnt hyper at two.There are good men out there When i met my wife she had three sons 4,6,9,that i raised them as my own for 10 years People just need to look past the stupid crap.A kid is a kid no matter who his parents are If you can raise yours you can raise another one Im not sure what anybody wants from life but people make it a lot harder than it has to be. Dating is easy living with someone for years is the hard part

brooke007's photo
Sun 07/06/08 07:30 PM
i dont let guys that i date around my kids.
that to me..is just a serious level..and if u r just dating....i wouldnt want my kids to get attched unless i knew this was somebody really special to me and that understood exactly how i felt.

burgundybry's photo
Sun 07/06/08 07:31 PM
Edited by burgundybry on Sun 07/06/08 07:34 PM


I kept my son and dating seperate for a long time.. he was little and impressionable and didnt want him exposed to alot of men.... so he wasnt

See that is what I would like to do however I have no one that can watch my son. I guess I should have mentioned that. My exes mom does watch him for me sometimes however I would feel bad having her watch him so I can go on a date. Does that make any sense?


i wouldn't feel bad, provided you weren't taking advantage of her generosity..why not sit down with her ahead of time, and see if you can work something out with her?

..but yeah, dating and impressionable young ones are best kept separate..sometimes, you just need to make the sacrifice..comes with the territory

DQ66's photo
Sun 07/06/08 07:33 PM
I have a six year old, so I understand where you are coming from. I have dated a little and I have my mom near by who'll gladly keep him for me if I want to go out. I don't take advatage of her.
I will not introduce my child to a "date". I will introduce him slowly once I know a relationship is going to last. I have found though that I am a lot pickier about my dates now than I was the first time around. And that's a very good thing :wink:

brenlee1965's photo
Sun 07/06/08 07:50 PM
Don't bring men in and out of any childs life. Remember you are the role model for their future ideals/behavior. But mention your children upfront and then see where things lead. Picnics were multiple people are----ok to bring him along. Just be careful---lots of sicko people out there. Better to be safe than sorry.

chuck35's photo
Sun 07/06/08 07:57 PM
Our oldest just graduated the other two live with there dad now Partly my fault But better off then being with her I hate the fact they have to go through another divorce cause she wont quit drinking and now are son has to go through the same stuff So find a good guy and both of you work on the relationship