Right behind financial problems is household division of labor as one of the divorce.

Newly weds sometimes fall to completely discuss how things will go in the household and how everyone will contribute to the household before getting married. It is just as important to discuss how the dishes will be done as it is to discuss how many times a week you will be having sex.

So keep in mind, if marriage is on the horizon or even in the far distant future... that its just as important to discuss the who/what/where/when/how of bills as it is to discuss the who/what/where/when/how of household chores.

(if you don't believe me, just google divorce and household division of labor)


Ok, so wage in... is there a chore that you hate to do and would like a spouse to do... would you rotate your chores? do you feel whoever makes the most money, should do less chores? Do you think the women should maintain the home, even though she works outside the home? What are your thoughts?

When I was married, I took care of the outside, ie. mow the yard, clean the pool, etc. and she took care of the inside chores.

lol...i love doing dishes...i love housework in general..it just makes me happy...but i'm not doing car stuff or outside stuff...that's for my guy

Honestly, being that it's been so long since I've been in a relationship and been doing everything myself, I wouldn't know what to do if I had "extra" help.

You mean, guys can do dishes??? OMG...that is why my marriage failed, LOL!!

Me either, but the idea is kinda exciting isn't it??

Yes it is.

Thank you to everyone that read and made comments.

I found that even with discussing things.....like sharing childcare........my ex lied!!! Said he would help feed/change the baby etc........but when it came down to it......he absolutely refused!!!

So basically, words are just words unless put into action.

Gypsy does the dishes at my house

I do not!!! Thats what the dishwasher is for!!!

and I thought that's why you hae children

They do dishes??? Mine cant do dishes because he ends up getting his entire shirt wet!! That's his excuse and he's sticking to it!!!

see then he keeps doing them until he gets it right


PRACTICE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!


he needs it

Great point...
Since I've been doing it all now about three years I'll have to admit, the at home stuff is a lot harder than the working part...
A partner to help out would be great...
But would I want a lady that worked all day came home than took my remote and wanted me to fix her supper. Hmmm...by the time I got dishes done, the kids to bed, dog/cat fed...a quick shower...no skip that aint got time...Hmmm would I crawl into bed wanting sex???...
Ha you have to be kidding me...
NO WONDER women needed to revolt...

you need to learn how to get a system

dang nothing you listed is difficult or time consuming when you stay on top of it

iF A woman works full time, then both should help with household chores. If she doesnt work, then she should do the household chores......its only fair. But that is not to say that the man has to be a total slob and leave things so gross just because he feels that is her duty!!

yep did you pick my socks up out of the living room this morning