If you start talking to someone and the other person is over cautious because of past relationships and wants to take things slow relationship wise but wants to be F*** Buddies, should you stop talking to other people?

Say this other person wants to date you, but doesn't want to call you their girl/boy friend just yet? They want to take things one step at a time...you know oral and sex and then get to know you?????

It depends on what you want

Until there's a ring and date everyone is a free agent.

Balls in your court,

you make the call,

You will know when it is time to stop looking elsewhere... until then... Party on!

I told the guy that I was ok with that for a while but I am looking for a boyfriend, someone exclusive. He said that is what he wants to, but he is being cautious because of the past 3 girls he was with turned out to be psycho.

Last night we were talking on the phone and I told him I would stop talking to all the other guys I have been so that I can get to know him better. He thought that sounded good. He told me he wouldn't be f***ing with anyone else. How do I take that???

i think the initiative to stop talking to other people should have come from him. at this point he seems like he is perhaps just telling you want to hear. you should be on the same page with what you're seeking or it will not lead to a good place.

He also said he likes me and wants to keep seeing me. Said he would liek to hang out and stuff.

My exact quote to him was..."I know you are a pimp, so I don't expect you to do the same. I know that is a lot to ask since we jsut met".

He said..."I'm no pimp. I am not gonna be f***ing anyone else".

He told me he wants to date me. He just wants to take it step by step.


WTF does that mean???? LOL

If you're asking me what I'D do, that would be move on. Wanting to take things slow is not an excuse to have sex and not have to be committed. Committed relationships can go slow too, as can non sexual relationships.

If you're asking what you should do...I can not say.

Sounds like to me...he is just wanting a "Free Ride". Sorry! JMO

Really???? Sighhhhh

Run away from him, you want a man who wants to be with you & has no doubts & will be faithful to you

I have the WORST luck with men....

sounds to me that you would save alot of time and trouble if you just stay home and flick the bean

I am getting arthiritis from the over usage of my fingers though! I'd like a man to take care of it for me! Any takers????

Awwww

my fingers arnt any better lol

Listen to the advice of these men ... DON'T SETTLE for a F-Buddy (under the guise of 'taking it slow') ... you've said upfront that you're looking for a 'real relationship' and you deserve someone who's proud to call you his girlfriend, etc. It just sounds like he's getting everything he wants at zero risk or cost to himself ... hardly fair to you!

Thanks. I am taking all of this advice seriously. I talked to the man last night and we discussed things. He wanted me to come over last night and I told him I couldn't. He stayed on the phone with me and talked about other things. I told him the next time I would be available would be Friday to which he replied That will work for me. So...I am going into this as a DATE and nothing more. I will hold back the "goods", if I hear from him again, then I know he is interested in "ME" if I don't, then I will know he was just wanting some!