To start out with, I have not dated much in these last few years. The women that I have dated seem to be possessive. And I have tried to date outside of my desires. (Older, younger, wiser and just different)
The women after about two weeks want me to give up my whole life for them and do only things that they want to do; as in only going out to their friends, spending all my time with them, or only doing what interest them. The last three out of the four I have dated even wanted me to give up all of my friends for them. And I have only dated four women.
So my question is what is up with the dating thing? They want to get married within a week of dating, well they start talking about marriage. Planning my next visit and even asking me to move in. I really don't understand the rush; shouldn't we get to know each other first?

I agree man....those girls you dated wanted you to give it all up so they can posses you and hoard all of your time and attention hoping you don't find someone else....that's the reason for control and manipulation....to do what they want

I think it's actually pretty cool when BOTH parties feel like they want to move in together so quickly, but giving up friends and only being concerned about one parties interests is not a good sign, and moving in too fast is not a good idea. If you BOTH feel so strongly about how quickly you've bonded, it will only grow stronger if you wait a while.

My thinking is that you seem to make a rather enchanting first impression on these women...so maybe try to reign in the voodoo that you're putting on them just a tad.

Here is a thought....

All these women are the same, but yet you say they appear different. It just might be that although the outer appearances are different, there is a key element inside them that is the same. You are looking for it, or are attracted to it, or some deviant of it.... in a subconscious way.

Here is a thought....

All these women are the same, but yet you say they appear different. It just might be that although the outer appearances are different, there is a key element inside them that is the same. You are looking for it, or are attracted to it, or some deviant of it.... in a subconscious way.

I have been told by my friends that I have that type of a personality, easy going and just a general good person. The thing is that I would like to meet someone; who would also like to take the time to get further into a relationship. I don't want to move in with them right away. I also try to explain at first that I need time before making any real commitments.

I think Lilith is spot one here. Maybe after having been without female companionship for so long, you now find yourself drawn to women who are OVERLY attracted to you and too easily impressed with your charm.

It is only natural to be drawn to where we know we'll receive adoration...it feels good. It's good to know that you realize that is not all you need in a relationship. There are men who jump easily at the offers you've had so far...women too.

Hold out for what you truly deserve.

I disagree with Troublemaker in this: you are the common denominator in all these relationships. People seem to form relationship patterns, which can be hard to break; if these are the women you're attracting, there must be something about them that attracts you, and/or something about you that attracts them to you. If you can figure out what you're doing that attracts that sort of woman, you can work on breaking that pattern and dating less clingy and controlling women.

One thing you could try is to bring up early on, on the first or second date, that you're looking to take things more slowly. That might clue people in that you're not looking for what they are. If you haven't learned to set boundaries when women you date request things of you that you don't want to do, that's also an incredibly useful and necessary skill that you could work on.

Good luck!