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Topic: how long is to long?
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Wed 09/24/08 06:35 PM
me and my bf have been with each other for 8 years. Our relationship has not advanced one bit. how long should i give him to make up his mind about were he wants up to end up in our relationship or should i just call it quits and walk away so my question is how long is to long to date?

dawnyhi's photo
Wed 09/24/08 06:37 PM
just talk to him about what you want and if it doesn't match with what he wants let him go.

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Wed 09/24/08 06:37 PM
If it was me, I'd have been gone long ago. Just saying. You have to decide what you want out of it and ask for it. If he can't provide, then it's time to go. Only you can know if your getting out of a relationship what you want to.

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Wed 09/24/08 06:40 PM
My problem is i am worrie if i do walk away i will end up alone.. I fell like there will not be anyone else that will want me

beccaloveslife's photo
Wed 09/24/08 06:40 PM
Theres a trillion guys. Find a new one.

mcattygarnett's photo
Wed 09/24/08 06:42 PM
I have to agree with what everyone else has been saying. You need to decide what you want.

MirrorMirror's photo
Wed 09/24/08 06:46 PM

me and my bf have been with each other for 8 years. Our relationship has not advanced one bit. how long should i give him to make up his mind about were he wants up to end up in our relationship or should i just call it quits and walk away so my question is how long is to long to date?
flowerforyou Whatever size is best for you:tongue:

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Wed 09/24/08 06:48 PM
If you're not happy then it's time to go. flowerforyou

LMB's photo
Wed 09/24/08 06:49 PM
I have to throw my 2 cents in...I agree after eight years then ya you should know, if not maybe you are just biding your time(you being him). In my opinion sometimes you are better off alone, even for a little while, than to be with someone who is unsure. That being said don't ever ever ever settle, no matter how lonely it gets. Everyone deserves someone perfect for them..Sometimes you gotta kiss a lot of frogs to get to your prince, but girl you been kissin that frog for too long...

Rock on...

greekguy's photo
Wed 09/24/08 06:59 PM
It's really easy to get comfortable with someone, it doesn't mean that you should be together. you really shouldn't be with someone for the sake of being with someone. If you can't be happy by yourself, you'll never be happy with someone. When you meet the right person, I figure it should just click. If it hasn't clicked ater 8 years, maybe it just never will.

Thomas27's photo
Wed 09/24/08 07:03 PM
Well, that's about 7 years and 50 weeks longer than I would date anybody!

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Wed 09/24/08 07:03 PM
if youre working harder at the relationship than he is, then its gone on for too long. Fear of ending up alone is a poor excuse for staying with someone and condemns you to a life sentence of unhappiness anyways...

Winx's photo
Wed 09/24/08 07:05 PM

if youre working harder at the relationship than he is, then its gone on for too long. Fear of ending up alone is a poor excuse for staying with someone and condemns you to a life sentence of unhappiness anyways...


She's right.

doodlebuggrrl's photo
Wed 09/24/08 07:10 PM
If you don't know someone well enough in 8 yrs time to make a decision...well...that's kind of bad..JMO

 ☮️ Coolchic Dee 💟's photo
Wed 09/24/08 07:15 PM
OOhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.... I thought you were talking about the LENGTH of SOMETHING ELSE.....!blushing laugh

oldsage's photo
Wed 09/24/08 07:16 PM
Old Saying

"Why buy the cow, when you can get the milk for free."

Fit the situation, 8 yrs & still doesn't know.

I'd say; "Tell your story WALKING."

Voluptuous's photo
Wed 09/24/08 07:19 PM
6 years agoslaphead

Lily0923's photo
Wed 09/24/08 07:20 PM

me and my bf have been with each other for 8 years. Our relationship has not advanced one bit. how long should i give him to make up his mind about were he wants up to end up in our relationship or should i just call it quits and walk away so my question is how long is to long to date?


about 4 years ago...

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Wed 09/24/08 07:20 PM

My problem is i am worrie if i do walk away i will end up alone.. I fell like there will not be anyone else that will want me



^^^^
I bet he banks on that emotion and abuses having you around.

LouLou2's photo
Wed 09/24/08 07:24 PM
He!!, I'm still tryin' to figure out how long is too long to e-mail before giving upohwell! 8 years of 'dating' or co-habitating? That sounds good to me:smile: ...

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