So true, hey! You're new Welcome to Mingle2

For me, love never dies, the flame just gets turned down a notch or two, unless I feel the flame is better served out! You have to consider if you want to feel the flame, again...

thank you so much sweetheart

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Seemsl ike it when the divorce rate in the country is over 60%

I don't see a thing wrong with seeing where this leads you. You 2 are in totally different places now and maybe this time it will stick! If not, you will have regained a friend. I really don't see a negative here, unless he turns out to be a real jerk or something. Why let a chance like that go undiscovered? It's not like you have to jump into marriage or anything.

"do I tell him how I feel to avoid losing him again"

how do you know you have him...

roco

p.s. -- i don't think it will work..same or similar problems will resurface...but this time..other things/factors will be blamed..

He had no idea that was 16 when we met, yes I lied to him and my cousin told him before I could cause she wanted him for herself. I guess she figured since she was 18 she would be better for him than I. I should have been honest with him when we met and maybe none of this would have happend but I can't take it back and now I am a woman. I have not spoken with my cousin in years cause she moved away after she couldn't get together with him. I know what I have to do now and appreciate all your thoughts. There are some major details to this story that would make the situation easy to understand but all that is water under the bridge and what I must do is make sure to right my wrongs now that he's back in my life. We stayed friends until he moved away and I moved on, so like I said nothing can get in my way this time, and we have talked about all this and for both of us it doesn't matter. He's a good guy and I didn't know what I had, it was game to me at 16, but looking back I wish I could go back and change things cause any woman would be lucky to have him.

What is it about reunions these days. Same thing happened here.

Background: I joined and stayed on this site a year ago because I thought and felt I had met the love of my life. He was technicolor to me and I had never been happier in my adult life. He said he felt the same. Sad to say, I ignored the warning signs when we first met and in the first months. I trusted and hoped that his addictions were under control, that he was recovered. He minimized and misled me.

I was so very wrong and I blame myself for not realising it and ending sooner. I am heartbroken. I still love him and know that ending was the right thing for me because I cannot live or risk that lifestyle as he has it now. Even so, I am having a hard time letting go and letting God.

A couple of months ago, my first love from High School suddenly appeared on another social networking site. After 25 years of being apart, of many odd near misses of happenstance meetings, we found ourselves face to face again last week, after I ended with my Love. Like you said, it was very much like time stood still. We have been talking for hours and hours and it was so good to forgive and to be forgiven.

At the same time, we realise that there is a world of difference between who we are now and who we were then. There have been so many life experiences in between. We are strangers to each other. So, we choose to talk weekly as friends, with no expectations of where the future might bring. Even though we never stopped thinking about and loving each other.

Take it one day at a time.

Love & Light,
~a