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Topic: Can men and women be just friends?
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Mon 12/15/08 09:54 PM
Edited by CrymeDogg on Mon 12/15/08 09:56 PM
I live in an interesting world where I don't really have anyone to talk to. Sure, there are the usual suspects, but a lot of the people around me seem to be either depressed, hurting, or shallow. Can a man and a woman be just friends, knowing full well that it is just A FRIENDSHIP where they can talk about things that is bugging them, and have someone listen? It may be too much to ask. What do you think? If you read my profile, you may get a little better understanding where this question is coming from.

Johncenawlife316's photo
Mon 12/15/08 09:57 PM
I don't see why not.

Just depends on the people etc.


OneTiredMind's photo
Mon 12/15/08 10:02 PM
absolutely!!

popcornncoke's photo
Mon 12/15/08 10:10 PM
Edited by popcornncoke on Mon 12/15/08 10:11 PM
Yes,They can. I've had and do have men who are just friends.My Best Friend is a married man,we have known each other over 34 yrs.I've a good single friend on here,we talk about anything and everything.We write long letters,send cards and even talk on the phone.There are things that you can't talk to your family about.

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Mon 12/15/08 10:14 PM
Thanks. I am married, if you didn't read my profile. I feel guilty for wanting a woman to talk to, and wanted to get some opinions about it.

Josh_P_Rad88's photo
Mon 12/15/08 10:16 PM
dude, most of my friends are women, my boys are for partyin and my home girls are for talkin, so yeah diff. sexes for diff things

popcornncoke's photo
Mon 12/15/08 10:17 PM
Everybody needs a friend.There's nothing wrong with talking.

s1owhand's photo
Mon 12/15/08 10:18 PM
Don't Make Me Break out the "When Harry Met Sally"! laugh

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Mon 12/15/08 10:22 PM
No! One always secretly wants more from the friendship.

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Mon 12/15/08 10:23 PM
It's all fun and games until the shirtless guitar player spills loneliness all down the front of him again. Zing.......Just kidding. Tell me that Sally wasn't hot back in the day? Before the plastic surgeon turned her in to a big lipped wax figurine.

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Mon 12/15/08 10:28 PM
it would depend on the maturity and morality of those involved especially if either or both are in a relationship with someone else ..

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Mon 12/15/08 10:53 PM
Edited by darkowl1 on Mon 12/15/08 10:56 PM
for men and women to be friends, or bosses and employees, or kings or queens and commoners....they must learn to drop the trump cards of power, you know, the i'm the man, or i'm the boss, or i'm the king, or i am the queen. wise men and women know when to hold them and when to fold them, for everyone understands and respects the power, but it can trump a friendship, if you use it for leverage....then it's not a true friendship....is it?spock


this also goes for parents and grown-up offspring as well.

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Tue 12/16/08 05:56 AM
Edited by cridder on Tue 12/16/08 05:58 AM
My daughter once brought a young man to my house who stated "All male female relationships are sexual"; I replied "I guess there isn't much point in you and me talking then is there?"

Seriously, there are a few (mostly younger) men that I talk with that seem to consider me some sort of sounding board or moral mentor....and I do things with them (called one and said "Help I am going stir-crazy!" a couple days ago and he,my young son, and I went out to look at christmas lights)...so yes: men and woman CAN be just friends.

I would be concerned if all your friends were female, or if you only wanted slim, 22 yr old blond girls as friends, but that doesn't seem to be the case here.

Xialiang's photo
Tue 12/16/08 09:30 AM
I should hope so. If not the vast of majority of my friends would have to go away.
Being friends with a member of the oppositie sex shouldn't have any more stigma than being gay and friends with other guys, etc. My group of male friends, to be honest, I would never want to date. They are either like brothers to me, or, well, like great friends who you can be stupid around, feel completely at ease even. With them I have "Philia" brotherly love, not romantic love.
Of course, being a heterosexual female, there was some point awhile ago, where there was always the thought of, well, it would be nice to hook up with one of these guys. However once you develop a friendship relationship, that really fades away, because you understand that you could never recover your friendship if you allowed something like that to happen.

That being said, if you are coming HERE to find women to become friends with, I think that suggests a problem if you are married. It sounds like you are looking for something in a person, not the person for herself. You are looking for somebody to fill a role that you haven't been able to satisfy with your current spouse.
It is an entirely different thing to BE friends with a person of the opposite sex as it is to SEEK friends of the opposite sex. Again, most of my friends are guys, but it just kinda happened that way. I just get along better with men. I met my friends at undergrad, or some club, or function, enjoyed the people for who they are, and discounted their gender.
If you are actively LOOKING for a woman, then yes, I think that does not bode well.

Seakolony's photo
Tue 12/16/08 09:32 AM
Absolutely!!

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Tue 12/16/08 09:34 AM
If both are mature enough, sure a man and woman can just be friends.

Grizzly52's photo
Tue 12/16/08 09:42 AM
I have a lot of female friends and that's all there is to it..just friends
so yes it's very possible and I believe that it helps us to understand the opposite sex better...if that is possible lol

buttons's photo
Tue 12/16/08 09:56 AM
I'm not married, single now but have been in a relationship since ive been on here, and talked to men. <as friends only> if they could not accept that and i had to tell them a few times to respect my relationship , then they would not be my friend anymore.. I have married male friends, taken male friends , and single male friends and also taken women and single womenetc... friendship is about respect not genderflowerforyou

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Tue 12/16/08 09:59 AM
Absolutely! I have several male friends and thats all it is - friends. We go to each other for everything, dating woes, job troubles, and just to talk about life in general. Sure we flirt sometimes, but we know nothing more will ever happen. Its just great to know I have people like that in my life.

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Tue 12/16/08 10:32 AM
I tried...But apparently noway ...frustrated frustrated

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