Topic: What's the most common reasons a wife/husband cheats?
tommy170's photo
Thu 12/18/08 04:26 PM


sorry bettyb but its not always the man, but still a good relation needs a lot of work, from both sides

I never said it was just men .If you read my comments I said they not him.
I personally have not had this happen to me that I was aware of but I was once was lied to by a man that claimed he was widower when his wife was alive and well.


sorry bettyb, just read it wrong, i was wrong, sorry about it. and sorry that it happend to you

Tazz42's photo
Thu 12/18/08 04:29 PM

smile2What's the most common reasons a wife/husband cheats?shades



Lack of respect and loyalty.
If the relationship gets sooo bad that you have or are thinking about cheating....do yourself and the other party involved a really great justice, tell them you are done.

izzie's photo
Thu 12/18/08 04:31 PM
or it could be just that the person is a jerk who doesnt care about anyones feelings, the relationship.. or anyone involved..


KoolAidWoman's photo
Thu 12/18/08 04:33 PM
Edited by KoolAidWoman on Thu 12/18/08 04:35 PM

Good eveing all! ummmmm?eather of them were paying attention to the reading of the vows and who? ever married the both of them.
{For better or worse}and in sickness and health.
But of course we should think befor we jump into marriage
If you cheat there while married this is a tuff habit to brake {cheaters I like the show.}Just the Koolaidwoman this is just something to ponder on!think oops surprised


And im sure there's some storys here
To why they cheated but there's [never! never!] a good reason for chearting!!Koolshades slaphead

tiggeray's photo
Thu 12/18/08 04:36 PM
I don't understand the cheating thing. Not happy, go away. That's what happened with me. Mo e

BettyB's photo
Thu 12/18/08 04:36 PM
I think you are right Koolaide, cheating on your spouse is NOt the way yo make things better.

imsingle951's photo
Thu 12/18/08 04:38 PM
Even when your married you can still get lonely

notquite00's photo
Thu 12/18/08 04:43 PM

or it could be just that the person is a jerk who doesnt care about anyones feelings, the relationship.. or anyone involved..




If you married someone like that to begin with, then you're nuts. If your spouse cheats, maybe there was something dysfunctional about the relationship, and not about them!

KoolAidWoman's photo
Thu 12/18/08 04:50 PM
Thank's Betty I used to play a simple game of cards with this gal for fun and this woman found.
The need to cheat Lordy!I stopped playing cards.
With her Girl can you imagine Marriage id run
away from that marriage but its to bad its not taken seriously but was it ever?.Ouch!scary!Kool.scared sad2 sad2 sad2

notquite00's photo
Thu 12/18/08 04:50 PM
Edited by notquite00 on Thu 12/18/08 04:51 PM

I think you are right Koolaide, cheating on your spouse is NOt the way yo make things better.


Why not? You get to stay married or stay in the relationship, you don't have to move out, deal with legal stuff, worry about splitting up property, worry about kids...AND you get to have exciting sex with someone new.
Sounds better to me!

Lastly, seeing how high divorce rates have gotten, it looks like wedding vows don't mean much anymore, and perhaps that's good. After all, wedding vows are sort of like a contract that you have to keep for your whole life. Who knows what will change?

What if your partner becomes extremely obese, boring, lazy, just watches TV, and doesn't help out with the kids at all. What's there to love? Hell, with the kids, I see no way out of that. If some guy at work fancies you, by all means - cheat! Why should your husband's being an asshole ruin things?

If you want to talk about vows, it really sounds like he stopped loving you, stopped appreciating you, stopped respecting you. The vows are now void - go find a cute guy in the office, lol.


special_guy's photo
Thu 12/18/08 04:52 PM
The number one reason a person cheats is....


There is something wrong somewhere in thier life that gives them the perception that the ass is always greener on the otherside

freeonthree's photo
Thu 12/18/08 04:57 PM

smile2What's the most common reasons a wife/husband cheats?shades


Total lack of respect for their partner. It's the ultimate insult. Dennis

KoolAidWoman's photo
Thu 12/18/08 04:59 PM

for the fun and excitement
because they are getting it better elsewhere
for the thrill of getting caught
because its not how it used to be
who knows... why they just do....
I hear what you saying!But these are pissss!
Poor reasons to even go there!oh but they might make since to you??Koolaidwoman

tiggeray's photo
Thu 12/18/08 05:00 PM
;You do not cheat??

KoolAidWoman's photo
Thu 12/18/08 05:01 PM


I think you are right Koolaide, cheating on your spouse is NOt the way yo make things better.


Why not? You get to stay married or stay in the relationship, you don't have to move out, deal with legal stuff, worry about splitting up property, worry about kids...AND you get to have exciting sex with someone new.
Sounds better to me!

Lastly, seeing how high divorce rates have gotten, it looks like wedding vows don't mean much anymore, and perhaps that's good. After all, wedding vows are sort of like a contract that you have to keep for your whole life. Who knows what will change? [Did that work for you? KOolaid]

What if your partner becomes extremely obese, boring, lazy, just watches TV, and doesn't help out with the kids at all. What's there to love? Hell, with the kids, I see no way out of that. If some guy at work fancies you, by all means - cheat! Why should your husband's being an asshole ruin things?

If you want to talk about vows, it really sounds like he stopped loving you, stopped appreciating you, stopped respecting you. The vows are now void - go find a cute guy in the office, lol.



KoolAidWoman's photo
Thu 12/18/08 05:05 PM


I think you are right Koolaide, cheating on your spouse is NOt the way yo make things better.


Why not? You get to stay married or stay in the relationship, you don't have to move out, deal with legal stuff, worry about splitting up property, worry about kids...AND you get to have exciting sex with someone new.
Sounds better to me!

Lastly, seeing how high divorce rates have gotten, it looks like wedding vows don't mean much anymore, and perhaps that's good. After all, wedding vows are sort of like a contract that you have to keep for your whole life. Who knows what will change?~~~zdid this work for you?

What if your partner becomes extremely obese, boring, lazy, just watches TV, and doesn't help out with the kids at all. What's there to love? Hell, with the kids, I see no way out of that. If some guy at work fancies you, by all means - cheat! Why should your husband's being an asshole ruin things?

If you want to talk about vows, it really sounds like he stopped loving you, stopped appreciating you, stopped respecting you. The vows are now void - go find a cute guy in the office, lol.



BettyB's photo
Thu 12/18/08 05:18 PM
I think the bottom line is ..if someone is going to cheat on thier spouse they will come up with any excuse they can to justify it.

izzie's photo
Thu 12/18/08 05:24 PM


or it could be just that the person is a jerk who doesnt care about anyones feelings, the relationship.. or anyone involved..




If you married someone like that to begin with, then you're nuts. If your spouse cheats, maybe there was something dysfunctional about the relationship, and not about them!
my ex is a controlling possessive abusive asshole who beat me every time i found out he was cheating on me again.. he had no cares about what he was doing to me.. or to the children.. he told most of the other 29 women that he ended up cheating on me with that i was the best sex he ever had.. and that i went out of my way to make things nice for him at home.. but he cheated just because he could..
so it IS possible that the cheater is just a jerk who has no feelings and doesnt care about anyone but themselves..

all im sayin is that it isnt ALWAYS the fault of the person being cheated on.. and to beleve that is extremely narrowminded.
thanks
:smile:

izzie's photo
Thu 12/18/08 05:25 PM


smile2What's the most common reasons a wife/husband cheats?shades


Total lack of respect for their partner. It's the ultimate insult. Dennis
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Thu 12/18/08 05:31 PM

smile2What's the most common reasons a wife/husband cheats?shades


because women/men are just no damn good