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Topic: Can't have children
izzie Joined Wed 02/21/07 Posts: 31834	Tue 12/23/08 06:32 PM
If your fiance told you that he/she couldn't have children, would you still marry them? i have 4.. why would that matter to me? lol

Unknow Joined Sat 12/15/07 Posts: 41170	Tue 12/23/08 06:33 PM
Why would I care? I closed up shop a decade ago

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Wed 12/24/08 05:57 PM
If your fiance told you that he/she couldn't have children, would you still marry them? i have 4.. why would that matter to me? lol good point

keepthehope Joined Sun 09/02/07 Posts: 4263	Wed 12/24/08 09:55 PM
Yes

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Thu 12/25/08 12:52 PM
Why would I care? I closed up shop a decade ago

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Thu 04/02/09 10:17 AM
Yes

ddn122 Joined Mon 11/05/07 Posts: 12855	Thu 04/02/09 10:19 AM
the question would have been asked prior to engagement....but there are plenty of babies that need homes.. If your fiance told you that he/she couldn't have children, would you still marry them?

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Thu 04/02/09 10:30 AM
the question would have been asked prior to engagement....but there are plenty of babies that need homes.. If your fiance told you that he/she couldn't have children, would you still marry them? good point

Gypsy41 Joined Tue 05/15/07 Posts: 123359	Thu 04/02/09 10:31 AM
If your fiance told you that he/she couldn't have children, would you still marry them? I dont plan on any more children at this point in my life.

MirrorMirror Joined Fri 10/26/07 Posts: 89680	Thu 04/02/09 01:27 PM
If your fiance told you that he/she couldn't have children, would you still marry them? I dont plan on any more children at this point in my life.

mainichi Joined Tue 03/31/09 Posts: 13	Fri 04/03/09 12:27 PM
This is actually somewhat of a problem for me. While not specifically diagnosed, the odds that I can have children are very low. While I have no intention on having children, and feel that I'm a bit young to be thinking about something like that, it's actually come to be somewhat of a problem. For example, I was seeing someone, and it was going really well, and I felt like I could be open with him. So I told him about the fact that I probably can't have kids, and the reason why, and while it didn't seem like a big deal at that moment, it ended up that he stopped calling me. But he was Japanese, and I'm not sure if that's just a Japanese way of thinking, or what... Is it really that big a problem?

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Fri 04/03/09 12:34 PM
This is actually somewhat of a problem for me. While not specifically diagnosed, the odds that I can have children are very low. While I have no intention on having children, and feel that I'm a bit young to be thinking about something like that, it's actually come to be somewhat of a problem. For example, I was seeing someone, and it was going really well, and I felt like I could be open with him. So I told him about the fact that I probably can't have kids, and the reason why, and while it didn't seem like a big deal at that moment, it ended up that he stopped calling me. But he was Japanese, and I'm not sure if that's just a Japanese way of thinking, or what... Is it really that big a problem? I think it's entirely situational -- everybody is different, every situation is different. I've been through enough relationships in the past to know that I don't want to be in a situation where kids are involved in any way whatsoever. And I've taken some flak for that, but I just figure it's my life, my business, nobody else really gets a vote in it.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Fri 04/03/09 12:36 PM
I get a vote. I talk about it a lot. You just don't give my vote any weight. It's like Florida all over again!!!!

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Fri 04/03/09 12:38 PM
I get a vote. I talk about it a lot. You just don't give my vote any weight. It's like Florida all over again!!!! Yeah, but you're the exception to the rules. Scary, ain't it? By the way, if you're thematically linked to Al Gore, then I want to thank you for inventing the Internet. And about 12,994 other things.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Fri 04/03/09 12:39 PM
I get a vote. I talk about it a lot. You just don't give my vote any weight. It's like Florida all over again!!!! Yeah, but you're the exception to the rules. Scary, ain't it? By the way, if you're thematically linked to Al Gore, then I want to thank you for inventing the Internet. And about 12,994 other things. Anytime, Lexy. Did I mention I love to cook?

LexFonteyne Joined Thu 12/07/06 Posts: 32131	Fri 04/03/09 12:43 PM
I get a vote. I talk about it a lot. You just don't give my vote any weight. It's like Florida all over again!!!! Yeah, but you're the exception to the rules. Scary, ain't it? By the way, if you're thematically linked to Al Gore, then I want to thank you for inventing the Internet. And about 12,994 other things. Anytime, Lexy. Did I mention I love to cook? And do laundry, too, right? Your ability to retain information is phenomenal -- of course, I assume that it helps in your work, too....! My biggest fear, though, is what happens when you find out I'm only 4'3" tall....

RareEntity Joined Mon 09/01/08 Posts: 23676	Fri 04/03/09 12:43 PM
although it may sound like a bad thing, it can be a blessing in disguise: a significantly lowered chance of impregnation, and for those like me, thats a big weight of my shoulders since something like that scares the hell out of me.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Fri 04/03/09 12:45 PM
Did you just shrink another five inches? My memory is like a steel trap. Nothing worse than someone saying, I NEVER SAID THAT..... because if I say you said it, you freaking said it. Verbatim I can recall it if it pissed me off or touched me... I love laundry. And cleaning bathrooms. I don't vacuum or do dishes though, unless under duress.

msmyka Joined Sat 03/22/08 Posts: 17079	Fri 04/03/09 12:49 PM Edited by msmyka on Fri 04/03/09 12:49 PM
My issue is that I PREFER not to have kids, but my bf does want them. Not sure how that's gonna work out in the long run but it would bother me a bit if we couldn't.

lilith401 Joined Wed 10/31/07 Posts: 19593	Fri 04/03/09 12:51 PM
My issue is that I PREFER not to have kids, but my bf does want them. Not sure how that's gonna work out in the long run but it would bother me a bit if we couldn't. It's a dealbreaker heartbreaker resentment anger breakup or divorce issue. It just is.