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Lexy you just proved why you are a tease. You know you did, you knew I'd see it, and there ya go!  You call it "tease," I call it "scientific research." Who knows, maybe we're both right....? |
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It's a matter of perspective. By the by, Sexy Lexy..... I know it's not you. 
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It's a matter of perspective. By the by, Sexy Lexy..... I know it's not you. That's what everybody thinks.... |
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But seriously, the only single people I've ever known who were in a rush to be married were people who had never been married before.
It was as if they saw it as some kind of "solution" to a problem that didn't, in fact, even exist. Or -- sometimes the cure is worse than the disease. |
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No marriage. Sorry.
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I really think people get married for a combination of the wedding and to say they are, so that others think they are worthy of such a devoted love.
For me, I'd like to marry again some day. I believe in it, too bad my ex didn't. It is an institution which I hold sacred. I would never run into it again.... well, I only got married because I was pregnant. Damn I'm old fashioned..... but I wanted my son to never doubt he was conceived and born in love (well we thought it was....) |
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you certainly don't sound like a 16 year old, but by god you look like one i know where your coming from, you should do what i do and set your self realistic targets, my target for marriage was and still is to be married before im 85 years old 1. You totally just made my day cus I've been worried that I'm starting to look old...lol. 2. I don't HAVE to be married by 35...lol. I don't know if I will be or won't be, I'm just living for today personally. |
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What bugs me on a site like this are the ones who email me and are talking about marriage within the first or second email. Talking about how much they want to find the one and want to settle down and get married. That reeks of desperation to me. Not the wanting to get married, but the need to tell someone all about it who you emailed for the first time. Oh my god I so know what you mean! I would not do that, even if I DID think it...lol, its just desperate. I was seeing a guy casually for a while last year who just seemed in a huge hurry to get married. I told him "I'm 24, I'll get there when I get there, lets not rush it" I had to dump him cus he was obsessed with being married before 40 and he was 37. I think he wanted to be married before 38...lol, I had to skip out. and momentarily  For anyone who watches "The Doctors" in the afternoon (women mainly) Isn't Travis Stork just delicious to look at? |
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I think that could be it. I think guys all assume every woman is going to want to hurry them down the isle if they admit to wanting to one day be married. I'm okay without a piece of paper, I mean... its just the government's way of being involved in our relationships anyway. Well I think I'll let this topic stew more interest while I go work out. Actually it is a function of the church....Most ppl forget that. |
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i know that this is probably the wrong forum to say this but
JaymeStephens84a0lc will you marry me? |
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I think that could be it. I think guys all assume every woman is going to want to hurry them down the isle if they admit to wanting to one day be married. I'm okay without a piece of paper, I mean... its just the government's way of being involved in our relationships anyway. Well I think I'll let this topic stew more interest while I go work out. Actually it is a function of the church....Most ppl forget that. I'm Wiccan, not christian, and we too have our version of marriage called "Hand Fasting". You don't need to have a piece of paper to be married in the eyes of "God" or whatever being you pray to. I think if you're in love and living together and happy, that piece of paper is irrelevant for anything except last rights. I can be with someone 70 years and just not sign that paper b/c we didnt' find it neccesary, or we can. However two people are happy is important. I'm happy living one day at a time and enjoying my 20s. |
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i know that this is probably the wrong forum to say this but JaymeStephens84a0lc will you marry me? You're totally making my day  You're a sweetheart 
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haha
thanks |
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I was watching the Tyra Banks' show today and a question came to mind from people I've talked to recently combined with the topic of the show. Me personally, I do want to be married one day but I'm in no big hurry. I'm turning 25 this year and feel I'm coming into my prime, I really feel no rush and as long as I'm married in the next 10 years I'll cope...lol. I noticed single men who hang out with married friends seem to be in a huge hurry to wed. I have married friends too, both happily and not so happily. The not so happily is why I'm in no hurry...lol. I DO want to be with someone who knows they do want to get married one day, but is it just me or does the smell of desperation completely turn you away? Why does it seem so hard to find someone who has a middle ground? Someone who does want to be married one day, but not in a rush? They're either wanting to marry you practically before your first kiss, or completely commitment phobic. What gives? Any opinions? Pffftttttt! Marriage!
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The smell of desperation is a sure way to get something less than what you really want...in love, work, etc. I think it's a life rule!
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The smell of desperation is a sure way to get something less than what you really want...in love, work, etc. I think it's a life rule!  yep
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The smell of desperation is a sure way to get something less than what you really want...in love, work, etc. I think it's a life rule! I agree. So, the goal becomes to choose and take conscious control of your path, every step of the way. And, not to beat yourself up over it if you trip or fall every once in a while. The path isn't an easy one and it is full of bumps and holes. |
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Edited by
JaymeStephens84a0lc
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Wed 01/07/09 07:33 AM
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I think we've all been in that relationship where both people just didnt' want to be alone and you didn't care who it was. Thats what happens you feel desperate...lol, and hopefully a lesson you don't need repeated. That never turns out well... I'm glad I learned that when I was a teenager and before relationships actually counted...
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