I've been told I am insensitive because I don't want to be with that someone everyday.

I've been told I say things that were better left unsaid but I see it as being completely honest

I've been told I am this but can you all help.

My girlfriend of 5 months just dumped me and I want to know how to be a better boyfriend for next time.

It's just like a 12 step program

step one - admit you have a problem
step two - rectify the problem
step three - say yes dear
step four - repeat steps 1-3


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I don't see anything wrong with you..maybe that is just your personality....don't try to be something you are not...you will just be unhappy....keep on doing what you are doing till you find someone who loves you for who you are....

oh just say it, "women are never wrong"

'yes dear'

Well, there's being honest and being honest. Are you saying things that would hurt her feelings, things that are unnecessary like "your hair looks like crap today?" Those are the kinds of things it's better to keep to yourself.

And, you can be completely honest, sometimes it's not what you say but how you say it. You might want to work on your delivery. There's nothing wrong with honest and brutal honesty is sometimes called for, but there's a reason it's called "brutal." It's generally the wrong way to say the right thing.

Thanks for all the advice friends.


As far as being mean to women I have an excellent memory so if a woman attempts to lie I will have fun with it. She hated that

for example when we met she said she was a vegetarian then months later asked me to take her to KFC...she got chicken and right when she was about to put it in her mouth I told her that everything she ever said to me had to have been a lie if she was willing to lie about something as small as eating habits...she threw the food away

I like to use peoples words and phrases in different contexts. I will say something you say exactly how you say it so you notice how it impacts people and stop it. She hated that


The last time we talked I told her I don't want to hang out with her on Monday because we hung out all day Sunday and she started telling me why I had no choice, then I reminded her that there are 6 billion people on earth and I am only one of them so she can shop around if she wants.


She told me to never speak to her again and hung up on me, but called an hour ago apologizing but she hung up on me 10days ago

She has no car,license or job or goals and she expects me to take her out everyday and to me that is just lame. She is soooo beautiful, that is why it lasted this long


Help me understand yall?

Well gee, if I had no car,license or job or goals and my boyfriend was still willing to take me out all the time, I'd be apologizing and kissing your a$$ too.

In other words, she was using you the entire time, and you fell for it hook, line, and sinker all because you were captivated by her looks. At least now you know better, so hopefully you'll do better.

As for the honesty thing, I really don't see anything wrong with how you did it. I just think she was trying her best to BS you in so many different ways, and once you called her out and she was busted, she got mad. Oh well.

thanks alot...your are an incredible human being and I hope you live to be 100years old and hit the lottery

At least once a day, do something kind hearted for someone, without strings. When you're smiling because you've put a smile on someone else's face or otherwise brought happiness into someone else's life, it might be time to try a relationship.

ego is not love.......

Well, lets see, you lasted 5 months on just the fact that she was beautiful? That is your fault not hers. You are willing to take beauty over self sufficiency, motivation, goals, self respect, etc.... that is also your fault not hers.

No offense here but if you are trolling for only outer beauty and you are then disappointed because that is all you get, I don't know what to tell you.

I do not mean this in an insulting way, I am trying to help you see yourself.

I'm not only looking for outer beauty, but she fell short in many ways, but what made me overlook her short comings were her looks. But looks aren't the only thing worth considering. She is only 19 and I am 24.


My friends tell me to stay away from her because she is using me.Basically if I had no car we'd never see each other. If I had no money we'd never go out. She has this technique of complaining about something to me until I get it...or mentioning something until I ask her if she wants it. At first I dealt with it because I figured she'd change and get a job or get ambitions from somewhere but it just didn't happen.

You can't expect people to change, they are what they are. You either accept and embrace that from the get go or you don't. Unfair of you to expect her to change for you.

As for the looks thing, it's rather shallow. You overlooked her shortcomings because of how she looked? That's pretty egotistical and quite frankly, mean. If I were her, I'd have used you for all I could get, too.

She doesn't sound like a very nice person but then again, neither do you. JMO

Saying things, just to trip someone up in a lie....

What was your intention? If you knew she was a liar, why did you stay with her?

Hahaha! Better boyfriend. Does that even exist? I mean, I am told I am great boyfriend material, but even I can f*ck up things dude. You find the right woman, things will work out.

"Never try to teach a pig to sing, it wastes your time, and annoys the pig"

Robert Heinlein

What attracted you to her? Just morbid curiosity. You needn't answer.

Perfect words to live by