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Topic: SEPARATED...any advice???
icicle71's photo
Wed 01/28/09 10:01 PM
not going to be out on the prowl...rather develop friendships and talk to people who have gone thru this right now

Winx's photo
Wed 01/28/09 10:01 PM

cool...because we've talked so much...we've realized what we've done wrong, we each take 50/50 responsibility....but we waited to late to try to fix it...as my friends say, "thats life" or "everything happens for a reason"///standard friend talk for I'm sorry it didn't work out


Did you try couple counseling?

CleanBathroom's photo
Wed 01/28/09 10:02 PM
Multiply the number of years maried by 16.75. That is the amount of hours you must spend in a strip club before you are ready to date.

icicle71's photo
Wed 01/28/09 10:09 PM
she didnt want to...we have done individual counceling..would have helped a year or 2 ago...by now its too late

icicle71's photo
Wed 01/28/09 10:10 PM
doesnt work...sorry

izzie's photo
Wed 01/28/09 10:10 PM

Multiply the number of years maried by 16.75. That is the amount of hours you must spend in a strip club before you are ready to date.
would a private strip show work as effectively???

icicle71's photo
Wed 01/28/09 10:25 PM
no...but thanks for the offer...furthest thing from my mind...either looking for developing some friendships or people who have gone thru what i am now

PacificStar48's photo
Wed 01/28/09 10:31 PM
You can't survive a crisis if you don't know the rules. You need to talk to a lawyer and find out what is required and if you can file for yourself. If you think you have a mutual agreement; list your property and who gets what;file it, and ask the judge to rule. Fileing fees are usually modest. If you submit proof that you are both living seperately and independently (Not off the government.) and have attended counseling it should go fairly easiely. Look up The Canadian Bar Association and see what information they offer. Many times they offer free law clinics.

icicle71's photo
Wed 01/28/09 10:35 PM
Thanks...not worried about the details as we have discussed most and have decided on most...lawyers kept out til the end b/c we are reasonable people...more concerned with the emotional state rather than useless possesions and a house...i can be happy with little as long as it's the right person

keepthehope's photo
Wed 01/28/09 10:38 PM

married 7 1/2 years, became amazing companions instead of keeping up the love and intimacy...how long should u wait(don't want to be a rebound) and how long til it gets easier???




If that is the only reason you are seperated, then get back in the ring and romance each other again. Get it back. If that was all that was wrong in my marriage, and we were married 15 1/2 years, then I would have just made up my mind to get all that back. Don't waste 7 1/2 years of your life and throw it away like an old shoe. Let me tell you, divorce sucks. Save your marriage. If you became amazing companions, then turn that into amazing lovers again.

CleanBathroom's photo
Wed 01/28/09 10:40 PM


Multiply the number of years maried by 16.75. That is the amount of hours you must spend in a strip club before you are ready to date.
would a private strip show work as effectively???



Won't help him but I'll give it a shot Izzie - strictly for research, naturally. devil

Winx's photo
Wed 01/28/09 10:40 PM


married 7 1/2 years, became amazing companions instead of keeping up the love and intimacy...how long should u wait(don't want to be a rebound) and how long til it gets easier???




If that is the only reason you are seperated, then get back in the ring and romance each other again. Get it back. If that was all that was wrong in my marriage, and we were married 15 1/2 years, then I would have just made up my mind to get all that back. Don't waste 7 1/2 years of your life and throw it away like an old shoe. Let me tell you, divorce sucks. Save your marriage. If you became amazing companions, then turn that into amazing lovers again.


What she said. It's harder to find an amazing companion then it is to find a lover.

CleanBathroom's photo
Wed 01/28/09 10:41 PM
Winx is hot.

Someone told me to post that but I swore I wouldn't say whom.

icicle71's photo
Wed 01/28/09 10:43 PM
it's to late..we let to many things go..amazing companions but we didnt fulfill each other..other things have happened but its definately over

icicle71's photo
Wed 01/28/09 10:44 PM
hey Winx...we also both realized we don't want a companion ut a partner in life

Winx's photo
Wed 01/28/09 10:44 PM

Winx is hot.

Someone told me to post that but I swore I wouldn't say whom.


Who told you to post? Tell me, tell me. She blinks her eyelashes.

I'm hot?!surprised

Thank you.blushing flowers

CleanBathroom's photo
Wed 01/28/09 10:47 PM
I'm being held hostage right now. My captor also wants me to remind everyone that your seat is a flotation device.

Winx's photo
Wed 01/28/09 10:50 PM

hey Winx...we also both realized we don't want a companion ut a partner in life


Okay...you both want to go out on your own with no commitments. Is that what your saying?

Winx's photo
Wed 01/28/09 10:51 PM

I'm being held hostage right now. My captor also wants me to remind everyone that your seat is a flotation device.


Whew, I don't know what I would have done if you hadn't reminded of that. I so forgot.

Hostage...captor...uh-oh.

icicle71's photo
Wed 01/28/09 10:59 PM
we both know what we've done wrong and how we could have fixed it 2 years ago, waited til its too late...now we know better for next time...just looking for friendship now

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