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its a busy cafe (middle of a city center). Is there any indicators of actually interest other than being polite. Dont want to be turn down in front of quite a few people, Happened in an airport once  If she turns you down, say really loudly " I asked if you had White Owls, not do you want to go out" and then stomp out indignantly. |
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haha
but I think i wouldnt be able to go in there again, i would be to embarrassed
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Edited by
Drago01
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Fri 01/30/09 07:34 PM
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ok, how would I work this one out Theres a cafe that I go into regularly, (3 times week, same days, same time) due to work. Theres on girl that works there, really cute, been making very small talk with her. How would I go about asking her for a drink or something like that? Do you know her name? Have you introduced yourself? Ask her what she likes to do on her time off? Then ask her if she would like to join you doing something she likes to do. |
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Edited by
mic1989
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Fri 01/30/09 07:37 PM
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ok, how would I work this one out Theres a cafe that I go into regularly, (3 times week, same days, same time) due to work. Theres on girl that works there, really cute, been making very small talk with her. How would I go about asking her for a drink or something like that? Do you know her name? Have you introduced yourself? Ask her what she likes to do on her time off? Then ask her if she would like to join you doing something she likes to do. Would have to split it into a few days, I am working when I go into the cafe. which is a major problem. i dont really have time when i finish work mind you, luckly i think her day off is the same as mine. |
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I of course didnt mean like go out that very second hehe. Its a date right?
Yeah if you are in there 3x a week man you can take a little time to be careful. |
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I of course didnt mean like go out that very second hehe. Its a date right? Yeah if you are in there 3x a week man you can take a little time to be careful. I think ill try it next time im in. |
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ok, how would I work this one out Theres a cafe that I go into regularly, (3 times week, same days, same time) due to work. Theres on girl that works there, really cute, been making very small talk with her. How would I go about asking her for a drink or something like that? Since she is working, something you should respect, I would give her a business card that has a phone and email address on it. If you are smart you will put and attractive photo in the background. Say something like "You always make such a nice impression I would like to talk to you soon." Or "You know your smile just makes my day lets chat." Or "If you call me Sunday it will start my week just right." Or "Talking over the phone would be so much nicer than over this register." Or "This is my movie star voice" clear your throat and say "Make my day!" and hand her the card. Big Smile time! Or if you know a nice place near by "I am going to have supper at the cafe on _____(One night you expect her to work)and I would like you to be my guest. The biggest thing guys do that shoots them down is not be specific in their invitations. Guys says "I would like to take you out." Out for what? Pooper scooper duty? lol When? The sixth Saturday after Christmas? Where? This is the biggy. We don't want to end up in the river face down? Be smart women shop; and Malls have security, don't charge a cover, and usually have food. You can actually hold a conversation. Other places with similiar qualities are good for first dates. I would suggest showing up with something better than and undershirt and holy jeans and dirty track shoes. You can actually suggest a week night evening after work. You can put a clean shirt in the car and freshen up in the bathroom if what you wear at work isn't "date" clothes. Just acknowledge that you did not want to be late but you brought and extra shirt to be fresher. Guys that show consideration for their dates are the ones who catch the great dates. |
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ok, how would I work this one out Theres a cafe that I go into regularly, (3 times week, same days, same time) due to work. Theres on girl that works there, really cute, been making very small talk with her. How would I go about asking her for a drink or something like that? ..was in this situation too ...hot chick at starbucks..i told her that i was doing research/case study on starbucks and needed her feedback..handed her a questionnaire and asked her to e-mail it too me...it worked.. roco |
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Hi I'm a shy guy when it comes to starting up conversations with women . Any pointers?? Don't think of them as a different kind of animal. Talk to them just like you would talk to any person. In conversation in a bar or on a date here are some thing NOT to say: "What is a nice girl like you doing in a place like this?" "Do you come here often?" "So what do you do for a living?" "Do you live around here?" "Are your married?" "Do you have kids?" And basically other interrogating questions. I once asked a guy if he was a police detective. He said no, why? I said because you are interrogating me. Asking a lot of personal questions is like you are interviewing her for a position or a job. Once a very rude man asked me, out of the blue, (first sentence) "What do YOU do?" His tone seemed disrespectful. I answered: "I keep my mouth shut and I mind my own business."  Some people here need to listen to this, too. Some of the emails/IMs I get seem like interviews. The same interview over and over, actually, as so many guys use the questions above as conversation starters. |
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Hi I'm a shy guy when it comes to starting up conversations with women . Any pointers?? Don't think of them as a different kind of animal. Talk to them just like you would talk to any person. In conversation in a bar or on a date here are some thing NOT to say: "What is a nice girl like you doing in a place like this?" "Do you come here often?" "So what do you do for a living?" "Do you live around here?" "Are your married?" "Do you have kids?" And basically other interrogating questions. I once asked a guy if he was a police detective. He said no, why? I said because you are interrogating me. Asking a lot of personal questions is like you are interviewing her for a position or a job. Once a very rude man asked me, out of the blue, (first sentence) "What do YOU do?" His tone seemed disrespectful. I answered: "I keep my mouth shut and I mind my own business." Some people here need to listen to this, too. Some of the emails/IMs I get seem like interviews. The same interview over and over, actually, as so many guys use the questions above as conversation starters. I agree. Its worth learning from. Ive been guilty of a few of those more than once. Just not thinking about it before I jumped in. |
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Hi I'm a shy guy when it comes to starting up conversations with women . Any pointers?? duct tape .. it's the answer to everything 
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I can never get more than a minutes worth of conversation
 
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