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| Topic: How can I win a guy over?... | |
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Ok, I hung out with him tonight. It was cool. It wasn't akward at all. But it was still hard, but oh well, if it was meant to be, it will happen, but I did look great! I didnt get a ride from him this time, I got a ride from his friend even though I said I didnt need one, he insisted. But I called him, (him as in the guy I was with, lol) afterwards just to see if he was alright, cuz he was pretty drunk, also I wanted him to know that I didn't do anything with his friend, I didn't say that, but I didnt' want him to think I was, lol. Anyways, it's all good, and the plan is in motion. Mwa ha ha! if you want this guy then you should have let him think that maybe you did do something with his friend. at the very least, that there was the possibility of doing something with his friend. it's called competition and more guys than not fall for it. your calling shows that you care about him and he'll probably pick up on that. you shouldn't have called. let him chase you. your right, I shouldn't have, but I'm a little buzzed right now, and my sense of control wasn't there. EEP! Oh well, he was drunk, doubt he'll even care, lol. Any tips on how to win him over? I dont like to play games, but obviously he does. lol. |
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But after tonight, I KNOW that he isn't with his ex, they were talking about her, cuz I guess someone was after her, one of his friends, and he was like, "She's my baby's momma, She's a complete *****, but dude, if he wanted her, why go through me? Call her!"
Sooo, I'm 95% sure they aren't together. LOL! But that also means that he just wasn't that into me, and lied to me. Which is ok, I can still win him over. |
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your right, I shouldn't have, but I'm a little buzzed right now, and my sense of control wasn't there. EEP! Oh well, he was drunk, doubt he'll even care, lol. Any tips on how to win him over? I dont like to play games, but obviously he does. lol. chances are he's not worth the effort. but if that's what you want to expend energy on, then you'll likely have to play a little cat and mouse. the next time you go out and he's there, be a flirt with the other guys but don't pay him any attention. if he's interested, it'll get under his skin. if he's there with friends, talk to them but very little to him. act like he's not the object of your desire and he'll be trying to become the object of your desire. i personally hate game playing because i'm usually the one getting played, but it's the nature of the beast. make him work for your attention and reward him for good behavior, but with small rewards. if you give too much (sex) too early, he'll lose interest. |
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why would you want too ?????
if lied to you once ...who say's he wont do it again and again ?????? 
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why would you want too ????? if lied to you once ...who say's he wont do it again and again ?????? pretty much. i don't get why you'd want to waste the energy. |
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In my experience, there's really no use in trying to "make" someone do anything, let alone make the person fall for you. In short, there's nothing you can do to make the person go to you in opposed to someone else- any decision he makes will be HIS decision, and any attempt you make to change his mind will only alienate you from him in the long run.
Your best bet would be to just move on and find someone who's more receptive to your presence. |
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But after tonight, I KNOW that he isn't with his ex, they were talking about her, cuz I guess someone was after her, one of his friends, and he was like, "She's my baby's momma, She's a complete *****, but dude, if he wanted her, why go through me? Call her!" Sooo, I'm 95% sure they aren't together. LOL! But that also means that he just wasn't that into me, and lied to me. Which is ok, I can still win him over. when you come back on here telling us about how this all ended badly we aren't going to say anything just, but there will be enough of us give you that I told you so look that you will be able to feel it |
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He needed a 'pick-me up lay' you gave it to him.
His 'need' for you is over, thereby by cause and effect 'you are over' as far as he is concerned. Move on. He's not into, he wanted you for one thing and one thing only. Move on. |
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Any ideas? Shoot him with an elephant gun full of sedatives...hog tie him, and put him in a cage....feed him, and pat him, and love him, and feed him and pat him and love him, and eventually you will have won him over...    
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Any ideas? Shoot him with an elephant gun full of sedatives...hog tie him, and put him in a cage....feed him, and pat him, and love him, and feed him and pat him and love him, and eventually you will have won him over... Sounds good, where can I get that gun? lol. |
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When you figure it out....please share.
We would all like to know
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When you figure it out....please share. We would all like to know Will do.
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Ever tried being yourself? If someone don't like for being yourself then they are not worth being with.
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Ever tried being yourself? If someone don't like for being yourself then they are not worth being with. I agree 100%. But he has to notice me first to see the real me. I just need to grab his attention long enough for him to see me. That's what I was asking for, was help getting attention. He only sees the 'buzzed/drunk' side of me. You know? |
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Any ideas? I wish I had some ideas. The only thing I've been able to do is attract all the wrong ones.... Lex, I wish you would quit talking badly about me!! |
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Anything you effort to win over will never be "won"...
If you feel you aren't precious enough to be loved no matter what you do... and must make special efforts to gain love, you'll get your ass kicked (emotionally) every time. This is from one who has gotten her ass kicked more than enough times. It's a living hell in that place of always trying. Give it up. Let it go. Free your own damned self (whether or not he's in the picture). |
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Ever tried being yourself? If someone don't like for being yourself then they are not worth being with. I agree 100%. But he has to notice me first to see the real me. I just need to grab his attention long enough for him to see me. That's what I was asking for, was help getting attention. He only sees the 'buzzed/drunk' side of me. You know? Who's to say that the buzzed side of you isn't part of the real you? Be direct, girl... You have absolutely NOTHING to lose. If you don't get what you hoped for, walk away, knowing your own courage, and move on. I think we women have been conditioned to believe we must be persued and end up wasting a lot of time waiting around. If he doesn't get it... he doesn't. He's one out of 6.6 billion. |
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Edited by
splendidlife
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Sat 03/14/09 08:19 AM
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Get On Your Boots!
You don't know how beautiful you are... |
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Darth Vader will seduce him to the dark side. That's how the Emperor did it!
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Thank you all!
 KlC said I'm neat! 
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