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That is basically how I have been feeling for a long time now.
I am not exactly sure why this has been happening to me but I have felt extremly unworthy and useless to anything. Some of it may have something to do with my mother passing right before xmas this year :'( I cant stop feeling guilty, but its beyond my control. After that i lost my job that ive worked for over a year and took pride in everyday i went. :( Thats just the basics of whats been going on with me...and also it seems every girl in this world just avoids and just never sees me in anything serious wise (which had been goin on as long as i can remember) Bottom line I am not trying to sound like someone needing attention but lately something has been really bothering me. All of the above have been on my mind and I cannot stop feeling depressed and worthless and dont have many people to talk with Anyway, thank you all for your time |
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Edited by
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Mon 03/09/09 01:21 AM
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Here's some blunt advice that will solve many of your problems.
Only talk about the bad stuff to people you're not trying to get with. I.E. Your mom and your job. Always say positive things around someone you're trying to get with, and smile. It's not too much to ask because that is exactly how you'd want the girl to act around you. ...you can formulate the rest on your own |
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i'm sorry to heaar that,
we all have times like that in life. staay strong and pull through it, i hope you feel better. 
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Here's some blunt advice that will solve many of your problems. Only talk about the bad stuff to people you're not trying to get with. I.E. Your mom and your job. Always say positive things around someone you're trying to get with, and smile. It's not too much to ask because that is exactly how you'd want the girl to act around you. ...you can formulate the rest on your own I appreciate all that I do thank you Its just right now (especially at this time im in) I do need someone or some people to help me cope with these tense topics I struggle with |
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i'm sorry to heaar that, we all have times like that in life. staay strong and pull through it, i hope you feel better. thanks alot I can only pray and hope from here |
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That is basically how I have been feeling for a long time now. I am not exactly sure why this has been happening to me but I have felt extremly unworthy and useless to anything. Some of it may have something to do with my mother passing right before xmas this year :'( I cant stop feeling guilty, but its beyond my control. After that i lost my job that ive worked for over a year and took pride in everyday i went. :( Thats just the basics of whats been going on with me...and also it seems every girl in this world just avoids and just never sees me in anything serious wise (which had been goin on as long as i can remember) Bottom line I am not trying to sound like someone needing attention but lately something has been really bothering me. All of the above have been on my mind and I cannot stop feeling depressed and worthless and dont have many people to talk with Anyway, thank you all for your time I am very sorry for your loss. I felt guilty after my brother died also. Time does help... A LOT. Have you thought about going to school. I assume that you are unemployed? |
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Edited by
GeniuSxBoY
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Mon 03/09/09 01:29 AM
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Here's some blunt advice that will solve many of your problems. Only talk about the bad stuff to people you're not trying to get with. I.E. Your mom and your job. Always say positive things around someone you're trying to get with, and smile. It's not too much to ask because that is exactly how you'd want the girl to act around you. ...you can formulate the rest on your own I appreciate all that I do thank you Its just right now (especially at this time im in) I do need someone or some people to help me cope with these tense topics I struggle with Pretend for a moment that you have the willpower to overcome your issues. Act it out in the mirror what you would look like if you were that person. Then stop and think about it... you are that person. |
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Here's some blunt advice that will solve many of your problems. Only talk about the bad stuff to people you're not trying to get with. I.E. Your mom and your job. Always say positive things around someone you're trying to get with, and smile. It's not too much to ask because that is exactly how you'd want the girl to act around you. ...you can formulate the rest on your own I appreciate all that I do thank you Its just right now (especially at this time im in) I do need someone or some people to help me cope with these tense topics I struggle with Pretend for a moment that you have the willpower to overcome your issues. Act it out in the mirror what you would look like if you were that person. Then stop and think about it... you are that person. Im sure some of it is all in perspective...I guess you have your good days and bad days |
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That is basically how I have been feeling for a long time now. I am not exactly sure why this has been happening to me but I have felt extremly unworthy and useless to anything. Some of it may have something to do with my mother passing right before xmas this year :'( I cant stop feeling guilty, but its beyond my control. After that i lost my job that ive worked for over a year and took pride in everyday i went. :( Thats just the basics of whats been going on with me...and also it seems every girl in this world just avoids and just never sees me in anything serious wise (which had been goin on as long as i can remember) Bottom line I am not trying to sound like someone needing attention but lately something has been really bothering me. All of the above have been on my mind and I cannot stop feeling depressed and worthless and dont have many people to talk with Anyway, thank you all for your time I am very sorry for your loss. I felt guilty after my brother died also. Time does help... A LOT. Have you thought about going to school. I assume that you are unemployed? I am in school right now...struggling a little though but I do overall like the experience its a really nice atmosphere |
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Edited by
GeniuSxBoY
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Mon 03/09/09 01:39 AM
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Instead of moping around, how about focus your attention on a plan to get you out of this cycle?
Imagine where you want to be, and back-track the steps on how you could get there. if you have a path, you have a way out. The worst thing to do is do nothing at all. How many people do you feel sorry for? If you say none, you are correct. What they feel doesn't really matter to your own situation. If you reverse the logic, other people don't really care more than saying "oh that sux" to you. In essence, being depressed is worthless. You can't make other people smile being depressed. Nobody wants to be around depressed people. You need to be a person people want to hang out with. |
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Here's some blunt advice that will solve many of your problems. Only talk about the bad stuff to people you're not trying to get with. I.E. Your mom and your job. Always say positive things around someone you're trying to get with, and smile. It's not too much to ask because that is exactly how you'd want the girl to act around you. ...you can formulate the rest on your own remember, thaats hard to do without the help and encouraagemnt of loved ones. when your in a stupor, its haard to pull yourself out. so be compassionate |
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Those are signs of depression,and you have been thru enough to get depressed. Talking about it helps-but if it worsens please seek help or counseling. We are human-sometimes things can be unbearable. With time You will heal and be an even stronger person. I lost several members of my family including my Mom and a Fiance,within months of each other. I didn't think I would make it thru all that-but I did. Prayers and hugs going out to you!
 
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Those are signs of depression,and you have been thru enough to get depressed. Talking about it helps-but if it worsens please seek help or counseling. We are human-sometimes things can be unbearable. With time You will heal and be an even stronger person. I lost several members of my family including my Mom and a Fiance,within months of each other. I didn't think I would make it thru all that-but I did. Prayers and hugs going out to you! Ditto what she said. You are reaching out for help, go get it. |
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Those are signs of depression,and you have been thru enough to get depressed. Talking about it helps-but if it worsens please seek help or counseling. We are human-sometimes things can be unbearable. With time You will heal and be an even stronger person. I lost several members of my family including my Mom and a Fiance,within months of each other. I didn't think I would make it thru all that-but I did. Prayers and hugs going out to you! Ditto what she said. You are reaching out for help, go get it. Please find someone you can talk to and do just that. Depression is a very serious thing if one sinks within it's grasp. Seek the help you need now while you can see yourself things are not going well. |
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duuuuuuuude... youre 19. i know im not one to talk being a whole 3 years older than you. but still. i get it all the time.
just relax and keep busy. try volunteering. if you feel bad about yourself try and help someone less fortunate than you. that will lift your spirits and you will gain a better appreciation for what you have as well. youre emo now, and thats ok. but would you want to date someone that was down on themself and feeling 'empty' or 'broken?' |
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Instead of moping around, how about focus your attention on a plan to get you out of this cycle? Imagine where you want to be, and back-track the steps on how you could get there. if you have a path, you have a way out. The worst thing to do is do nothing at all. How many people do you feel sorry for? If you say none, you are correct. What they feel doesn't really matter to your own situation. If you reverse the logic, other people don't really care more than saying "oh that sux" to you. In essence, being depressed is worthless. You can't make other people smile being depressed. Nobody wants to be around depressed people. You need to be a person people want to hang out with. In short: Act "as if" & you will "become"...
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Instead of moping around, how about focus your attention on a plan to get you out of this cycle? Imagine where you want to be, and back-track the steps on how you could get there. if you have a path, you have a way out. The worst thing to do is do nothing at all. How many people do you feel sorry for? If you say none, you are correct. What they feel doesn't really matter to your own situation. If you reverse the logic, other people don't really care more than saying "oh that sux" to you. In essence, being depressed is worthless. You can't make other people smile being depressed. Nobody wants to be around depressed people. You need to be a person people want to hang out with. sometimes its hard to get the ball rolling. i can relate. some things just take time. 
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That is basically how I have been feeling for a long time now. I am not exactly sure why this has been happening to me but I have felt extremly unworthy and useless to anything. Some of it may have something to do with my mother passing right before xmas this year :'( I cant stop feeling guilty, but its beyond my control. After that i lost my job that ive worked for over a year and took pride in everyday i went. :( Thats just the basics of whats been going on with me...and also it seems every girl in this world just avoids and just never sees me in anything serious wise (which had been goin on as long as i can remember) Bottom line I am not trying to sound like someone needing attention but lately something has been really bothering me. All of the above have been on my mind and I cannot stop feeling depressed and worthless and dont have many people to talk with Anyway, thank you all for your time Sorry for you're loss. Things that you are struggling with come as a blow to anyone, at any age. Try to stay busy, get outdoors, go for walks, do things that you enjoy, and just know, you're mom would not want you to feel this way. Grief takes its time, and toll differently on different people. But, thats just what it is, Grief. The main thing is to stay busy, talk to you're closest friends, i'm sure they understand, or at least have the best intentions. Thats why their you're friends. If after awhile, you're still not "shaking it", seek professional help, never hurts.
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i wanna give thanks to everyone that had acknowledged what i been goin through
im doin the best i can to not be pessimistic but there are times where it does get out of control for me i consider myself an overall genuine person cuz i help quite a bit of people as much as i can everyday...however ive always had trouble meeting new people in person (ever since i was very young) needless to say it is difficult sometimes for me to simply seek out the help i may need but again to everyone that had replied; thank you 
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Counseling?? or a support group??
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