I have a friend - a fairly good looking single man. But I cannot explain him How should he behave when women are starring at him - without scaring them away...
I mean, he is often catching the unfamiliar women starring at him in the public places - parks, stores, busses, etc. And he doesn't understand What is he supposed to do:
- node and/or smile back? (in passive inactivity)
- wave at her? (which will embarrass her for sure!)
- treat the stare as an invitation to make a move - approach her
and strike up a conversation...)?
- look back at her and walk away. . .

Im interested in the female opinion, mainly, but guys are also welcome to post their takes on the subject!

Thanx to all of you!

If a man is very attractive and I am looking at him and he catches me doing it, a smile back is always nice. I would not want him to read any more than that into it.

I look at attractive men all the time but that doesn't mean I want them.

i smile politely and nod if i get that lucky. doesn't happen much though.

Why would you not want them to read into it any more than that? Isn't that the point of smiling at him? Or are you not single?

Yeah, I know what u mean... But haven't u ever wondered if a stare could result in a LaFS - Love at First Sight? ? ?

Do what all men do.......smile and come over!!!

and where do you see them?

I would look even if I was attached, all humans look at other attractive humans, it is nature.

I do not pick a man to date based on his looks. So if I am admiring how handsome he is, I do not think to myself "I need to date him because he is handsome". A polite smile will suffice. I will smile back. If he comes over to talk to me and I like what I hear I may consider him as more than eye candy. Looks do not dictate love at any level.

LOL...all over. Grocery store, Home Depot, parks, dog parks, businesses, on the street, at restaurants....

Ok...guess I need to hang out at those sort of places

But still, it's that initial good looks followed by the smile that would start it off. If a 700 pound woman smiled at me, and thought I was staring at her (and probably am because of her enormous size), I don't care how sweet she is ...then I hope see doesn't read any more into it. But that is off subject. Sorry.

If you look at a guy for more than 4 seconds they come running like puppies.......

WOW I want some of that

I will show you how..........for $19.99 plus tax!!!

If a 700 lb man is capable of being in public which would be rare and he looked me and came over to talk I would definitely talk to him. He would not be consumed by his looks which makes for better conversation.

Do you take credit?????

I would look even if I was attached, all humans look at other attractive humans, it is nature.

I do not pick a man to date based on his looks. So if I am admiring how handsome he is, I do not think to myself "I need to date him because he is handsome". A polite smile will suffice. I will smile back.
--> If he comes over to talk to me and I like what I hear I may consider him as more than eye candy.

Then you confirm that a stare should be treated as an invitation?

But anything less than 3 seconds is considered nothing more than a glance.

I'm lucky to even get two seconds.

I would think that if he smiles at the woman, and she smiles back, there would be no harm in approaching her and saying hello. However, it's not a given that it's an invitation. I think every situation is different.