When having a disagreement with your SO do you usually complain to your friends and family about your SO?

I generally keep that stuff to myself, I feel my relationship is a private matter. I wish more people did this.

no, i do not complain, but, i do try to compliment .

No, my friends don't want to hear that sh#$ about my relationships and I don't want to hear it about theirs. Unless it's funny.

I think complaining to friends and family causes them to think negatively about the person after the disagreement is resolved they still remember the things that were said.I'd prefer to keeps things private myself

Complain is too harsh a word to use here Tina. If someone did complain to their friends, then they should not have a SO since words can & do hurt. I feel some do talk to their friends about their SO, but do not complain. Sometimes they are just trying to get their friends viewpoints about some situation that has arisen between them and their SO.

That's what I got a therapist for. It's her job to listen to me B*tch and then help me figure out the solution.

I see your points I think theres a way to get a friends viewpoint without totally running the SO down

Personal stuff ? No way ! A funny trivial thing maybe !

I agree not everyone can afford a therapist advice from friends is free but not always helpful

All I can say is thank goodness for insurance. I tried talkin to friends and all I ever got was "leave him" or "U want I should kick his a$$?" not very helpful.In my opinion goin to friends with ur problems about SO is just not the thing to do. Cause yes, they then only think about the negative things you tell them when you happen to pissed about something at the time. We all get pissed at one time or another and feel the need to vent. Best to do it to a wall then with your friends.

I make an effort when friends or family complain about their SO to look at things from each point of view and try and reason out why the person is acting in such a way unless it's a form of abuse in that case I think it's unacceptable to reason out that sort of thing

A therapist would need therapy after talking to me

Most of my friends or family only want to hear the positives.

If I have a gripe, b*tch or whinge about his behaviours, he knows in no uncertain circumstances...usually his response it, "get over it."...and I do...nowadays it is just usually mock b*tching, and much laughter..

Do I moan to my girlfriends? Nup... the more you go outside your relationship for other's advice, the more bad advice you get.

Could be why mine is leaving to work elsewhere

"I don't have any friends."...James Bond in Quantum Of Solace be seeing you

Sometimes that is all I do is ***** but not today. I was off work.

I drove my theraptist to find work elsewhere. Yay Me!!! By the way, anyone know the name of a good therapist?????